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visotech · 10-16-2003, 05:08 PM

What makes up a relationship? What is involved in a relationship?

I know its more then sharing feelings and physical stuff, but im just experiancing these things for the first time, so im asking you guys, to you, What makes up a relationship? What is involved in a relationship?

Rubyee · 10-16-2003, 06:20 PM

Vague fucking question.

I think we have all tried to answer this at one point. For me, I know I am in a relationship when that person is all I can think about. I don't stop thinking about other people voluntarilly, but it just happens. I trust that person with my life, and that person trusts me in return. Also, knowing that once you get home from a really bad day that he can make me forget all about it defines it for me as well.

Though, to be more precise, a relationship is what you and the other person make it out to be. Each relationship is different. My first relationship was a lot different when I was in it than now. I saw it differently then.

What makes up a relationship- two people committing themselves to eachother. This does not mean only eachother, in some cases, but we won't discuss those.

i8one2 · 10-16-2003, 07:25 PM

Complete trust to share all, help them overcome hurdles, give each other room to grow and try new things, communicating openly you wants and desires, helping each other through difficult situation. Always accentuate the positives and buildup areas that are not there strengths. find common interest you haven't explored yet, and very importantly have faith in each other.

After all when you are in a relationship, your partner is a direct reflection on you and your chooses.

anti fishstick · 10-16-2003, 11:02 PM

there are three key componements to a good relationship. trust. communication. and compatibility. of course, without love these wouldn't even matter.

Sledge · 10-17-2003, 12:32 AM

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Originally posted by i8one2
Complete trust to share all

That's very interesting. I agree with you for the most part - superb communication is the only thing that can keep two people together indefinitely - but (out of curiosity) why sharing all?

I used to believe that, but now I think there are things people should keep to themselves.

FallenAvatar · 10-17-2003, 01:16 AM

Vague fucking question.
I agree.

A relationship to me is love, I want to find a partner that I love everywhere, not just in bed. One whose feelings, body and any other needs can be tend to by me. I want to be able to wake up with her in my arms, be on her mind all day while she's at school/work (this of course depends on age of myself and said mate. Currently leaning toward college , so school) I want to be there when she needs me.

A relationship is all about giving in my opinion. I'm not here to get laid as many times as I can so I can dump her on the curb. I'm here to be her lover, her friend, her dreams and desires. To me that's what a relationship is. Love, needs and trusting one another. Other men may not feel this way, but hell they can just try and get laid thier entire life, and then not be happy when they realize the meaning of a relationship. Hope this helps.

danielboy · 10-17-2003, 10:35 AM

A relationship is like a cake.
It takes several ingredients that must be in the exact amount to make it right. Oh wait, that's not true. There are no requirements for a relationship.

Are you asking if you are in a relationship right now and you do not know?

I actually was is a situation like that when I was 18. I had no idea what was going on. It was actually horrible

skysooner · 10-17-2003, 01:03 PM

I have had what I thought were relationships in the past (and maybe they were). The main thing lacking in them versus my current was complete trust and the ability to talk about almost anything (yes there are still boundaries). I thought I had those with others and didn't. I still didn't really have it with my wife until after we were married a few years. A relationship is what all have said above, but it is also something that continues to develop over time into something bigger and better.

i8one2 · 10-17-2003, 02:39 PM

To Sledge

when living with alternatives as galaxygirl and I do, without sharing everything...serious conquences could follow. The danger is too great not too share completely everything.

10-16-2003, 05:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
visotech Insane Location: San Diego, CA	What is in a relationship? What makes up a relationship? What is involved in a relationship? I know its more then sharing feelings and physical stuff, but im just experiancing these things for the first time, so im asking you guys, to you, What makes up a relationship? What is involved in a relationship?

10-16-2003, 06:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	Vague fucking question. I think we have all tried to answer this at one point. For me, I know I am in a relationship when that person is all I can think about. I don't stop thinking about other people voluntarilly, but it just happens. I trust that person with my life, and that person trusts me in return. Also, knowing that once you get home from a really bad day that he can make me forget all about it defines it for me as well. Though, to be more precise, a relationship is what you and the other person make it out to be. Each relationship is different. My first relationship was a lot different when I was in it than now. I saw it differently then. What makes up a relationship- two people committing themselves to eachother. This does not mean only eachother, in some cases, but we won't discuss those. __________________ You don't know from fun.

10-16-2003, 07:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	Complete trust to share all, help them overcome hurdles, give each other room to grow and try new things, communicating openly you wants and desires, helping each other through difficult situation. Always accentuate the positives and buildup areas that are not there strengths. find common interest you haven't explored yet, and very importantly have faith in each other. After all when you are in a relationship, your partner is a direct reflection on you and your chooses. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

10-16-2003, 11:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	there are three key componements to a good relationship. trust. communication. and compatibility. of course, without love these wouldn't even matter. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

10-17-2003, 01:16 AM	#6 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	Vague fucking question. I agree. A relationship to me is love, I want to find a partner that I love everywhere, not just in bed. One whose feelings, body and any other needs can be tend to by me. I want to be able to wake up with her in my arms, be on her mind all day while she's at school/work (this of course depends on age of myself and said mate. Currently leaning toward college , so school) I want to be there when she needs me. A relationship is all about giving in my opinion. I'm not here to get laid as many times as I can so I can dump her on the curb. I'm here to be her lover, her friend, her dreams and desires. To me that's what a relationship is. Love, needs and trusting one another. Other men may not feel this way, but hell they can just try and get laid thier entire life, and then not be happy when they realize the meaning of a relationship. Hope this helps. __________________ Fetch me the spirit, the son and the father, Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.

10-17-2003, 10:35 AM	#7 (permalink)
danielboy Tilted	A relationship is like a cake. It takes several ingredients that must be in the exact amount to make it right. Oh wait, that's not true. There are no requirements for a relationship. Are you asking if you are in a relationship right now and you do not know? I actually was is a situation like that when I was 18. I had no idea what was going on. It was actually horrible

10-17-2003, 01:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I have had what I thought were relationships in the past (and maybe they were). The main thing lacking in them versus my current was complete trust and the ability to talk about almost anything (yes there are still boundaries). I thought I had those with others and didn't. I still didn't really have it with my wife until after we were married a few years. A relationship is what all have said above, but it is also something that continues to develop over time into something bigger and better.

10-17-2003, 02:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	To Sledge when living with alternatives as galaxygirl and I do, without sharing everything...serious conquences could follow. The danger is too great not too share completely everything. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker