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Elmo123abc · 10-16-2003, 12:31 PM

Hello, just a qucik question for you guys here...... the first time you had "sex" did you have a problem geting a errection at all?. Im wondering this b.c when im watching porn n stuff i can get it rock hard NP every time but the "first time" with my girl friend i had a hard time geting it "rock hard" but it was up alright just not as much as when im on my own any one know why it was kinda embaressing :-/

omega2K4 · 10-16-2003, 12:40 PM

I didn't really have a problem getting it up my first time. I just had a problem of not lasting very long

. My only advice is for you to participate in a little more foreplay before you whip it out, maybe go down on her for a while, to get your soldier to stand at full attention. If you want to last a little longer, and you know you are going to have sex with her, try masturbating and blowing your load before you meet up with her, it might take a little while longer for you to get it up, but it will make the experience better for her, and yourself.

jimk · 10-16-2003, 12:41 PM

i think this might tie in to the "porn myth" thread from a couple days ago. something about porn getting you used to certain visual looks, and your own whacking technique so that then when you're with someone who is different in both of these arenas, it's disorienting at best and a turn-off at worst.

skysooner · 10-16-2003, 12:43 PM

Porno taps right into your brain. You don't have to think about it too much, so getting an erection is easy. My wife gets wetter quicker watching porno than by foreplay. The key to getting a good erection in this situation is to just give yourself up to the moment. Foreplay is one of those things that I think the young think is overrated until you really learn to do it right. I have found touch to be a great way to start things off. I touch my wife's back, arms, kiss her neck, legs, etc. I stay away from all the sexual parts until she is good and warmed up. Seeing her get all turned on like that gives me a really great erection. Life can intrude on us so easily that it is easy to be thinking about something else when you are doing the deed. When I'm thinking about something else, we usually do foreplay for quite a bit longer or give up on it if I can't get past it (usually rare thank goodness).

mb99usa · 10-16-2003, 12:53 PM

Was not a problem. But I do agree with the others here that foreplay plays a big part in how I perform and my wife responds. The more foreplay the more my wife enjoys it and the less it relies on how I perform "the deed".

absorbentishe · 10-16-2003, 01:07 PM

Naked girl, either in person or on TV = boing. I just need to be around certain girls, and I need to walk away, if you know what I mean.

mattevil · 10-16-2003, 01:51 PM

it may have been just pressure/stress getting to you. foreplay may calm you down but if it doenst remeber that this is probablty the root of your problem.by the way this phenomeneon is quite common if that helps.

vveronica · 10-16-2003, 02:12 PM

finally guys giving credit to foreplayyyy!!! cheerrrsssss.
From a girls view, you two are just being insecure regarding your bodies and how you appear to each other. Give it a lil time and that rock hard muscle will be all pumped up and trying to rip out the tip. hehehehehehe BUT dont give up foreplay... Pleasee

powder · 10-16-2003, 02:37 PM

Nope I didn't have trouble the first time. The only time I have had trouble was after too many beers or after too many consecutive orgasms.

tekaweni · 10-16-2003, 02:51 PM

Elmo123abc it sounds like you maybe had a bit of a reality-check?

Making love to a girl is more about than just the porno images.

Relax, take things slow, concentrate on her not some pornstar and I'm sure things will be fine.

omega2K4 · 10-16-2003, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by vveronica
finally guys giving credit to foreplayyyy!!! cheerrrsssss.
From a girls view, you two are just being insecure regarding your bodies and how you appear to each other. Give it a lil time and that rock hard muscle will be all pumped up and trying to rip out the tip. hehehehehehe BUT dont give up foreplay... Pleasee

Yeah, from what I've heard, (most) guys don't get into foreplay that much, they just want to whip it out, fuck the girl, blow their load, and go home. Several of my friend's girlfriends asked me if I was into foreplay, because their man wasn't too into it. Foreplay is a huge factor is having sex for me, it gets me turned on, and it gets her turned on. If she isn't into what we're about to do, I'm not into it. Sex, for me, isn't just about having my orgasm, I want to make sure she is having a hell of a time and orgasms her self (more than once, often), her getting off and orgasming, I dunno, it just somehow makes me feel better in the end, rather than me blowing my load, and laying down or something. So yeah, foreplay is a huge part in having sex to me.

i8one2 · 10-16-2003, 07:27 PM

my problem the first time I had sex was cumming in 30 seconds and not having a clue as to the reason why! In out in out in out and done that sucked. Thank god I learned quickly and was able to last almost a minute afterwards.

analog · 10-16-2003, 08:20 PM

yeah, it could b stress from anxiety about it, or because you've never had that kind of stimulation (seeing a 2-D vagina on your screen is a hell of a lot different than staring directly at the real thing).

you're in a very large boat with a lot of other people, don't worry.

10-16-2003, 12:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Elmo123abc Tilted	Just Wondering Hello, just a qucik question for you guys here...... the first time you had "sex" did you have a problem geting a errection at all?. Im wondering this b.c when im watching porn n stuff i can get it rock hard NP every time but the "first time" with my girl friend i had a hard time geting it "rock hard" but it was up alright just not as much as when im on my own any one know why it was kinda embaressing :-/

10-16-2003, 12:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
omega2K4 Natalie Portman is sexy. Location: The Outer Rim	I didn't really have a problem getting it up my first time. I just had a problem of not lasting very long . My only advice is for you to participate in a little more foreplay before you whip it out, maybe go down on her for a while, to get your soldier to stand at full attention. If you want to last a little longer, and you know you are going to have sex with her, try masturbating and blowing your load before you meet up with her, it might take a little while longer for you to get it up, but it will make the experience better for her, and yourself. __________________ "While the State exists there can be no freedom. When there is freedom there will be no State." - Vladimir Ilyich Lenin "Reason has always existed, but not always in a reasonable form."- Karl Marx

10-16-2003, 12:41 PM	#3 (permalink)
jimk Addict Location: Chicago	i think this might tie in to the "porn myth" thread from a couple days ago. something about porn getting you used to certain visual looks, and your own whacking technique so that then when you're with someone who is different in both of these arenas, it's disorienting at best and a turn-off at worst. __________________ raw power is a guaranteed o.d. raw power is a laughin' at you & me -iggy

10-16-2003, 12:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
mb99usa Keep on rolling. It only hurts for a little while. Location: wherever I am	Was not a problem. But I do agree with the others here that foreplay plays a big part in how I perform and my wife responds. The more foreplay the more my wife enjoys it and the less it relies on how I perform "the deed". __________________ So, what's your point? It's not an attitude, it's a way of life.

10-16-2003, 02:12 PM	#8 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	finally guys giving credit to foreplayyyy!!! cheerrrsssss. From a girls view, you two are just being insecure regarding your bodies and how you appear to each other. Give it a lil time and that rock hard muscle will be all pumped up and trying to rip out the tip. hehehehehehe BUT dont give up foreplay... Pleasee __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-16-2003, 12:43 PM	#4 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Porno taps right into your brain. You don't have to think about it too much, so getting an erection is easy. My wife gets wetter quicker watching porno than by foreplay. The key to getting a good erection in this situation is to just give yourself up to the moment. Foreplay is one of those things that I think the young think is overrated until you really learn to do it right. I have found touch to be a great way to start things off. I touch my wife's back, arms, kiss her neck, legs, etc. I stay away from all the sexual parts until she is good and warmed up. Seeing her get all turned on like that gives me a really great erection. Life can intrude on us so easily that it is easy to be thinking about something else when you are doing the deed. When I'm thinking about something else, we usually do foreplay for quite a bit longer or give up on it if I can't get past it (usually rare thank goodness).

10-16-2003, 01:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Naked girl, either in person or on TV = boing. I just need to be around certain girls, and I need to walk away, if you know what I mean.

10-16-2003, 01:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
mattevil Addict Location: Virginia	it may have been just pressure/stress getting to you. foreplay may calm you down but if it doenst remeber that this is probablty the root of your problem.by the way this phenomeneon is quite common if that helps.

10-16-2003, 02:37 PM	#9 (permalink)
powder Loser Location: ski town	Nope I didn't have trouble the first time. The only time I have had trouble was after too many beers or after too many consecutive orgasms.

10-16-2003, 02:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
tekaweni It wasnt me Location: Scotland	Elmo123abc it sounds like you maybe had a bit of a reality-check? Making love to a girl is more about than just the porno images. Relax, take things slow, concentrate on her not some pornstar and I'm sure things will be fine. __________________ If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten

10-16-2003, 07:27 PM	#12 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	my problem the first time I had sex was cumming in 30 seconds and not having a clue as to the reason why! In out in out in out and done that sucked. Thank god I learned quickly and was able to last almost a minute afterwards. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

10-16-2003, 08:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
analog Banned	yeah, it could b stress from anxiety about it, or because you've never had that kind of stimulation (seeing a 2-D vagina on your screen is a hell of a lot different than staring directly at the real thing). you're in a very large boat with a lot of other people, don't worry.