Why Do You Love Me
 

So my gf of 7 yrs says " why do you love me" - for some reason i cant think of a mushy valentines day card response -
What do you think she really means

I'd say she trying an old Jedi mindtrick on you. Either that or it may be that time of the month, she's feeling ugly/gross, and what's some reinforcement from her man that she's hot.

What did you say to her, by the way?

My gf of 6+ years asks the same question. I tend to go with responses like "because you take care of me." Look at it as an essay question with no parameters whatsoever, and answer with whatever comes into your head and sounds good. There's no actual answer, so it's not like you can lie.

There are no right or wrong answers. I'm sure she isn't looking for something that Hallmark has put on a card. Tell her what's in your heart. If you love her because she takes care of you, that's great. If it's her ass, tell her that too! I'm sure there are many things that you love about her.

Sometimes we all just want a little reasurance. Sometimes it's nice to hear from the person that we're in love with just why they love us.

Take some time when you are apart and write down every littlie thing you can think of that you love about her; some will be serious, some mushy, and some funny. You can then dip into that list when she asks. Or, as I did, I just gave my girlfriend (now wife) the whole list (2 pages) at once for the overwhelming effect.

You should be ready for this kind of question ;)

I love my gf becuase



She's loyal-she would never cheat and I know it

She thinks of me a lot (gets me things she knows I like when she goes out and I hardly ever ask)

She trusted me to raise her daughter as ours

She believes in our future despite heavy adversity we've faced

She's smart in a real-world way...I'm smart in an abstract way. We complement one another.

Her beautiful blue eyes.(other things don't hurt either :o )

She's patient with my shortcomings

Just a few. Feel free to borrow if you need to.

My wife and I just had our fifth wedding anniversary, our 8th year as a couple.

Why do I Love her?

She accepts me for who I am.

She only tries to change me enough to do alittle bit more housework.

She makes me laugh, out loud, several times a day.

We share everything. Chores, joys, sorrows, good days and bad days and all the days in between.

I can have an intelligent conversation with her on almost any subject.

She's conservative enough to piss off the liberals, and vice versa.

She's dead sexy.

She thinks that I'm dead sexy.

We can spend a quiet evening doing nothing and call it a good night, just because we were together.

She's the mother of my son, who also makes me laugh out loud several times a day.

What's not to love?

thank you all most sincerely- i have a hard time with this stuff- i guess im just oblivious because most of this stuff is so true
thanks again

Fishing for compliments? Trying to see if you have a reason or if you're just hanging around out of habit? Could be she just means "why do you love me?" out of curiosity.

I suggest you stop trying to come up with the answer you think she wants to hear, and just (drumroll please) answer the question. You do love her, right? So WHY?

Just say:

"I don't... I'm just in it for the sex"

Sometimes we just like to hear it so we know it's real. We like to know that there's a reason we're loved, and what the reason is. When a guy can say something about his girl that lets her know he really does love her, it gives a girl warm fuzzies inside.......

My fiancee does not have to ask my this question. More often than not I will break into song about the various reasons I love her. I am so weird sometimes. ;)

Awwwwwwww :D

if you have to think about it...why?
just talk from your heart, man! if it comes out sounding mushy, and you're not a mushy guy, then it sounds really fake. say what comes naturally when you think of her. after 6 years, i hope you know what that is!

this type of thing seems to be common. could it be that (most) women are instinctively insecure?

Quite possibly

I've been know to sing 'I can't take my eyes of of you' for a special girl :)

What ever it is you want to say, or should say, you missed the window, The 5 second window to tell her. so your screwed. start buying flowers and practicing your apologies..

If you are still putting the list together, be sure to select from ALL of the following:

• A good lover (sexual)
• A good lover (nonsexual)
• A good friend to you
• A good friend to others
• A good person

Probably some others as well.

she could be asking you because she doesn't know why you do, or even if you do. if so try to make sure she knows before she has to ask. you may also have to work on the fact that you had such little idea to why you love your gf that you had to post a forum for help. i mean, i'm not trying to be terrible here, but you have to appriciate the girl.

Yes, be sure to include both physical and emotional. Saying she looks hot isn't going to cut it with someone that you have been with so long. Tell her what she does that makes you happy, but also include what you find very attractive about her as well.

Not sure if "Because of tat' ass!!" would be the most appropriate response, but definitely good as a tension breaker :)

It'd be pretty funny though, right? ;)

I mean, I'd laugh. Of course I should hope that the guy could come up with something more than my ass....

I tend to disagree. Media tends to affect how we feel about ourselves for one. Also - wouldn't you have a few depressing moments if you had hormones flood your system once a month without much warning and there was nothing you could do to resist their affect on you?

Everyone (Even men-you can't deny it) need reassuring every now and then. I know I have asked this very question when my SO at the time seemed like he was only interested in sex and we had NO conversation otherwise. It was a way to grab his attentiong, start a conversation and assure myself that he wasn't in it just for the sex.

Like has already been said - Just answer the question, please.

I liked the idea that RedLemon gave. I have kept a few notes of hubby's from when we were dating. Those notes told me some things he appreciated/loved about me. When I go back to look at those it connects me to him with that first love feeling once again. It would be an excellent move. You won't regret it.