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prince_albert · 10-12-2003, 12:46 PM

Right, so guys, do you ever feel as if you don't want your girl (I am not talking about one night stands here, rather a relationship) to suck you because you somehow feel you dissrespect her? I do feel like that, like I don't like the idea of my girl giving head to me...Am I just weird here?

Craven Morehead · 10-12-2003, 12:57 PM

head is good

more head is better

anti fishstick · 10-12-2003, 12:59 PM

how is that disrespecting? to me, i regard giving head to a man in the utmost respect. it is something *i* can do for *him*. it should be special. in other words, i wouldn't be giving head to someone if i didn't respect them. and if i lose respect, then.. i'll probably hold off the sexual play or relationship entirely.

10-12-2003, 01:01 PM

i love a good blow job as much as the next guy but i enjoy going down on my girlfriend more!

monstermash · 10-12-2003, 01:14 PM

as long as you reciprocate, it's all good

just don't "push her head down" as a hint, too often.

little limey · 10-12-2003, 01:30 PM

Have you seen Summer of Sam? John Leguizamo's character feels the same way that you do in that movie. So don't feel strange. But in the end I think that that breaks up his relationship, but that's just because he gets other girls that he doesn't respect to go down on him (and have anal sex with).

My friend's mom's first husband never had sex with her. He thought that that was degrading... so he went and slept with a bunch of young south american prostitutes instead. Her mom eventually got divorced and married someone who would sleep with her. That would explain my friend coming into existance.

Aladdin Sane · 10-12-2003, 01:41 PM

I've never enjoyed getting head that much. Maybe this idea of respect has something to do with it... but I don't think so. It feels good, up to a point. Then I'm ready to do something else.

I much prefer to eat pussy. There's real pleasure in that.

Viking1064 · 10-12-2003, 01:42 PM

Nope. Don't feel that way, especially because I love to return the favor. I have a question for you Prince Albert. Do you go down on her? Does she lose respect for you when you do go down on her? How would you feel if she lost respect for you becuase you went down on her?

10-12-2003, 01:50 PM

69 is the best way to go!
i get so excited when my girl is sitting on my face i could just about cum just from that!
i love shooting in her mouth while lapping up her juices!

skysooner · 10-12-2003, 02:11 PM

I used to like 69, but it took too much of my concentration off of what I was feeling and doing. I prefer going down on my wife and then her going down on me. As for disrespect, not a chance in the world. Whatever we do together is what we do together. It is all about pleasure and not about respect at all.

Holo · 10-12-2003, 02:23 PM

I think it's weird but you are different from I so I don't condemn you for it.

I would feel so rejected and disrespected as a sexual being if my gf wouldn't give head. It's something I will break up over, as I am more than willing to return the favor and would take it as rejection. Most females have so many society-imposed mores regarding sexual exploration as it is...I don't see the need to hinder sexuality anymore than is necessary.

It boils down to this: If either adult is uncomfortable with the act in question then consent is revoked by default. If you feel uncomfortable with receiving head then you have the right not to get a blowjob, you strange strange man.

cruisergirl · 10-12-2003, 02:25 PM

There is no disrespect in giving or getting head. I love it, and my bf loves for me to do it. He's never known a woman who enjoys it as much as I do, and I can say that I'm pretty damn good at it. I crave it at times, and if that's degrading then we're all in trouble. I did have a bit of a hard time relaxing when he did it, but I know he loves to do it, so perhaps that is the key. If you're clear about how much you enjoy it, it may take off some of the pressure and let them enjoy it that much more.

arcane · 10-12-2003, 04:26 PM

head is good....but you gotta return the favour

bermuDa · 10-12-2003, 05:10 PM

i don't see it as degrading as long as she's willing. It's no more demeaning than going down on her, which I enjoy doing even more anyways

You've been watching too many choke porn videos. real oral sex isn't degrading.

collide · 10-12-2003, 05:24 PM

Eat, suck, and be happy. If oral sex ain't your thang, then be prepared to make up for it.

prince_albert · 10-12-2003, 06:06 PM

Thanks everyone for the replies, as long as she is ok with it, I guess I will overcome that "issue" (although I can never see myself overcoming the size issue

).
As I said, I do like the idea of me going down on her, its just that I am virgin so I guess I am being worried about everythinf related to sex.

Viking1064:
It's actually a long distance relationship and we never had the chance to meet, I hope we do soon though!

darkallaround · 10-12-2003, 08:25 PM

i'll go ahead and throw my hat in the pile and say that generally BJ's just dont do it for me 70% of the time. but road-head....aaaawwwwww man. thats good shit.
occasionally i'm jones-ing for a blowjob, and i'll ask and receive gratefully. and of course i'm always up for 69, and i LOVE goin down on my girl.

but i dont have a girl right now.

analog · 10-12-2003, 08:39 PM

there was a point when I had a very brief and ill-advised bout that lasted about 3 or 4 seconds of that feeling. i suddenly found myself thinking that as my girlfriend of the time was walking up to me, after giving me a look i know to indicate forthcoming fellatio. don't ask, i could just tell. *shrug* So anyway, I thought that for about half a second, and then I asked her, "does going down on me make you feel disrespected?". She stopped, looked at me, and pushed me quite quickly and violently (but in a loving way) backwards onto the bed, ripped my pants off, and proceeded to give me the best head i think i had ever had, and still best to date.

I think if there's a feeling of disrespect coming from your partner, there are other underlying issues about you or your partner other than just having your penis in their mouth. like- if you always demand it, or always take it and never give back pleasure... it's all about the give-and-take. Maybe the disrespect you think you feel is really just guilt because you feel you don't do enough back.

Talk. With. Her. It solves most problems you'd never think even think of occuring- and usually quickly. Best of luck.

Lunchbox7 · 10-13-2003, 03:43 AM

Head if done right is better than sex. I couldnt get enough of it but I never leave her without returning the favour. I thin as long as both partners want to and the favour goes both ways there is no disrespect issue.

Redlemon · 10-13-2003, 05:51 AM

Oral is as pure as giving sex can be. It is all about pleasing the receiver. And, for me, there is no more beautiful view that a cock in a woman's mouth. I give as good as I get, and find nothing degrading about it.

absorbentishe · 10-13-2003, 06:38 AM

There are many times that I'd prefer to have "head" over sex. My wife doesn't always like to go down, but will, and I can tell the difference. She loves for me to go down, for which I don't have any issues with, but would love to have the favor returned, i.e. all the way to orgasm, but when she is in the mood to give, it's really good. I like the oral better, it seems that when she's in the mood, all her attention is on me, not her, unless it's a 69.

vveronica · 10-13-2003, 08:26 AM

Monstermash and collide are both right... To many guy thing that getting a blow job mean they can grab a girl by the ears and face fuck her... Sorry for being blunt... If it is part of foreplay it can be really great. I think alot of guys think that there is intercourse OR there is a blowjob. I love to get and give oral as foreplay. Oh guys! foreplay is the stuff you do before you stick it in us...

rogue49 · 10-13-2003, 02:04 PM

I prefer giving than getting.
But that's just my personal preference.

Hey, she might like to give too.
Allow her to give you pleasure.

gummby · 10-13-2003, 05:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by cruisergirl
There is no disrespect in giving or getting head. I love it, and my bf loves for me to do it. He's never known a woman who enjoys it as much as I do, and I can say that I'm pretty damn good at it. I crave it at times, and if that's degrading then we're all in trouble. I did have a bit of a hard time relaxing when he did it, but I know he loves to do it, so perhaps that is the key. If you're clear about how much you enjoy it, it may take off some of the pressure and let them enjoy it that much more.

I know I love nothing better than giving the hubby head. I love the way he always grins and looks at me after and says "babe your soooo cool." and it makes him happy for at least the next two days. But in all honesty I have (in past relationships) been in situations where I did feel degraded by it. But that was purely because the guy thought of BJ's as a right, not as a gift. It's all about how you feel about it, but it is a gift. Something some one can do for another. As (in my opinion) all sexual acts are.

juanvaldes · 10-13-2003, 06:26 PM

69.

Best of both worlds. I love licking pussy so giving is much fun, but recieving is also fantastic. Very hard.

Jedbeck · 10-14-2003, 06:07 AM

I used to get head all the time, mostly driving down the road or in car at a stop sign way out in the country. I loved it and held the ladies responsible in the highest esteem.

I also love going down on a lady. There is nothing better that hearing the breathing getting faster and legs tightening around your head. Well I guess there is one thing better, same thing just from sex.

Redlemon · 10-14-2003, 06:09 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by vveronica
To many guy thing that getting a blow job mean they can grab a girl by the ears and face fuck her.

True, true. But in the right relationship, there is room for both the blow job AND the face fuck. They are very different, only the parts are the same.

Bill O'Rights · 10-14-2003, 06:25 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by vveronica
Oh guys! foreplay is the stuff you do before you stick it in us...

You mean that there's supposed to be stuff before...

J/K

Quote:

Originally posted by vveronica

To many guy thing that getting a blow job mean they can grab a girl by the ears and face fuck her...

Thinkin' maybe you're going out with the wrong guys. Most of us do know that there is a difference between real life and porn. Try setting your bar a little higher.

Quote:

Originally posted by vveronica

I think alot of guys think that there is intercourse OR there is a blowjob.

Of course it doesn't HAVE to be an either or proposition. A little mutal oral as foreplay (see I do know what that is) is a wonderful thing. But it's also very mindblowing to receive a blowjob, to completion, all by itself. (with a little reciprocation thrown in, of course)

spads · 10-14-2003, 09:40 AM

If you don't like head, then i don't think you've ever had it done right. I too though, would rather no head, than bad head, is thats what you mean.

I don't think it's disrespectfull for your girl to suck your dick. In fact, I can't even understand that sentiment. I love getting blown well, and its a natural act.

That being said though, say you stop seeing her, and then see her out with another guy, you may stop and think, "shit, I used to spray my load on the face of the girl that he loves." That is always a little weird.

And then my final point .... unless your girls a virgin, you probably are that guy. This may cause a lack of respect.

powder · 10-14-2003, 09:47 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by prince_albert
Am I just weird here?

Yes.

Head is goooooood.

Dano069 · 10-16-2003, 11:05 AM

I have never felt I was disrespecting my SO, while she gave me head. Each woman I was with did it of her own free will.

Midlandmadman · 10-16-2003, 11:48 AM

Blowing nut in her eye, video taping it and showing it to all your friends without her knowing it... is disrespectful. If she wants to suck it.... hey, who am I to stop her from doing something she likes? If she wants to and I don't let her ... thats disrespectful on my part.

omega2K4 · 10-16-2003, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by anti fishstick
how is that disrespecting? to me, i regard giving head to a man in the utmost respect. it is something *i* can do for *him*. it should be special. in other words, i wouldn't be giving head to someone if i didn't respect them. and if i lose respect, then.. i'll probably hold off the sexual play or relationship entirely.

I understand where anti fishstick is getting at. I would never force my girl to suck me off, when she does go down on me, she does it on her own will. I love going down on her, and she loves going down on me, so there is no disrespect before, during, or after the deed is done.

bannet · 10-16-2003, 05:49 PM

Me and the wife both both love going down on each other but I sometime fell like that too. "somehow feel you dissrespect her" Why is that?

Crazy/Beautiful · 10-22-2003, 01:29 PM

Try 69! Then you both can feel guilt free.

padam · 10-22-2003, 06:49 PM

nope never felt any disrespect for my gf when she's giving me head. i know she loves to do it and i really enjoy her sucking my cock.

numist · 10-22-2003, 10:56 PM

69 is awesome, but theres something to doing it one at a time that I love. It takes twice as long, but then you can give it twice as well because your not distracted.

Either way.. I love it, and hold the givers in high respect.

10-12-2003, 12:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	Giving head, or getting one. Right, so guys, do you ever feel as if you don't want your girl (I am not talking about one night stands here, rather a relationship) to suck you because you somehow feel you dissrespect her? I do feel like that, like I don't like the idea of my girl giving head to me...Am I just weird here?

10-12-2003, 12:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	how is that disrespecting? to me, i regard giving head to a man in the utmost respect. it is something i can do for him. it should be special. in other words, i wouldn't be giving head to someone if i didn't respect them. and if i lose respect, then.. i'll probably hold off the sexual play or relationship entirely. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

10-12-2003, 01:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	I've never enjoyed getting head that much. Maybe this idea of respect has something to do with it... but I don't think so. It feels good, up to a point. Then I'm ready to do something else. I much prefer to eat pussy. There's real pleasure in that. __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

10-12-2003, 02:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	I think it's weird but you are different from I so I don't condemn you for it. I would feel so rejected and disrespected as a sexual being if my gf wouldn't give head. It's something I will break up over, as I am more than willing to return the favor and would take it as rejection. Most females have so many society-imposed mores regarding sexual exploration as it is...I don't see the need to hinder sexuality anymore than is necessary. It boils down to this: If either adult is uncomfortable with the act in question then consent is revoked by default. If you feel uncomfortable with receiving head then you have the right not to get a blowjob, you strange strange man. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

10-12-2003, 02:25 PM	#12 (permalink)
cruisergirl Upright Location: Mesa	There is no disrespect in giving or getting head. I love it, and my bf loves for me to do it. He's never known a woman who enjoys it as much as I do, and I can say that I'm pretty damn good at it. I crave it at times, and if that's degrading then we're all in trouble. I did have a bit of a hard time relaxing when he did it, but I know he loves to do it, so perhaps that is the key. If you're clear about how much you enjoy it, it may take off some of the pressure and let them enjoy it that much more. __________________ If your going to ride my ass, at least pull my hair. Love, Cruisergirl.

10-12-2003, 12:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
Craven Morehead Custom User Title	head is good more head is better

10-12-2003, 01:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
SLIMM Guest	i love a good blow job as much as the next guy but i enjoy going down on my girlfriend more!

10-12-2003, 01:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
monstermash Upright	as long as you reciprocate, it's all good just don't "push her head down" as a hint, too often.

10-12-2003, 01:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
little limey Psycho Location: Room Nineteen	Have you seen Summer of Sam? John Leguizamo's character feels the same way that you do in that movie. So don't feel strange. But in the end I think that that breaks up his relationship, but that's just because he gets other girls that he doesn't respect to go down on him (and have anal sex with). My friend's mom's first husband never had sex with her. He thought that that was degrading... so he went and slept with a bunch of young south american prostitutes instead. Her mom eventually got divorced and married someone who would sleep with her. That would explain my friend coming into existance.

10-12-2003, 01:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
Viking1064 Insane Location: New Jersey	Nope. Don't feel that way, especially because I love to return the favor. I have a question for you Prince Albert. Do you go down on her? Does she lose respect for you when you do go down on her? How would you feel if she lost respect for you becuase you went down on her?

10-12-2003, 01:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
SLIMM Guest	69 is the best way to go! i get so excited when my girl is sitting on my face i could just about cum just from that! i love shooting in her mouth while lapping up her juices!

10-12-2003, 02:11 PM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I used to like 69, but it took too much of my concentration off of what I was feeling and doing. I prefer going down on my wife and then her going down on me. As for disrespect, not a chance in the world. Whatever we do together is what we do together. It is all about pleasure and not about respect at all.

10-12-2003, 04:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
arcane Insane Location: SLC, UT	head is good....but you gotta return the favour __________________ <Arcane> so if you banged 2000 chicks then at least one had a pen0r?

10-12-2003, 05:10 PM	#14 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	i don't see it as degrading as long as she's willing. It's no more demeaning than going down on her, which I enjoy doing even more anyways You've been watching too many choke porn videos. real oral sex isn't degrading. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

10-12-2003, 05:24 PM	#15 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	Eat, suck, and be happy. If oral sex ain't your thang, then be prepared to make up for it. __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

10-12-2003, 06:06 PM	#16 (permalink)
prince_albert Banned Location: Bradford, UK	Thanks everyone for the replies, as long as she is ok with it, I guess I will overcome that "issue" (although I can never see myself overcoming the size issue). As I said, I do like the idea of me going down on her, its just that I am virgin so I guess I am being worried about everythinf related to sex. Viking1064: It's actually a long distance relationship and we never had the chance to meet, I hope we do soon though! Last edited by prince_albert; 10-12-2003 at 06:10 PM..

10-12-2003, 08:25 PM	#17 (permalink)
darkallaround Tilted	i'll go ahead and throw my hat in the pile and say that generally BJ's just dont do it for me 70% of the time. but road-head....aaaawwwwww man. thats good shit. occasionally i'm jones-ing for a blowjob, and i'll ask and receive gratefully. and of course i'm always up for 69, and i LOVE goin down on my girl. but i dont have a girl right now. __________________ the darkness it surrounds me, consumes my very soul. within this worthless existence i shall never be made whole.

10-12-2003, 08:39 PM	#18 (permalink)
analog Banned	there was a point when I had a very brief and ill-advised bout that lasted about 3 or 4 seconds of that feeling. i suddenly found myself thinking that as my girlfriend of the time was walking up to me, after giving me a look i know to indicate forthcoming fellatio. don't ask, i could just tell. shrug So anyway, I thought that for about half a second, and then I asked her, "does going down on me make you feel disrespected?". She stopped, looked at me, and pushed me quite quickly and violently (but in a loving way) backwards onto the bed, ripped my pants off, and proceeded to give me the best head i think i had ever had, and still best to date. I think if there's a feeling of disrespect coming from your partner, there are other underlying issues about you or your partner other than just having your penis in their mouth. like- if you always demand it, or always take it and never give back pleasure... it's all about the give-and-take. Maybe the disrespect you think you feel is really just guilt because you feel you don't do enough back. Talk. With. Her. It solves most problems you'd never think even think of occuring- and usually quickly. Best of luck.

10-13-2003, 03:43 AM	#19 (permalink)
Lunchbox7 Addict	Head if done right is better than sex. I couldnt get enough of it but I never leave her without returning the favour. I thin as long as both partners want to and the favour goes both ways there is no disrespect issue.

10-13-2003, 05:51 AM	#20 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	Oral is as pure as giving sex can be. It is all about pleasing the receiver. And, for me, there is no more beautiful view that a cock in a woman's mouth. I give as good as I get, and find nothing degrading about it. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

10-13-2003, 06:38 AM	#21 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	There are many times that I'd prefer to have "head" over sex. My wife doesn't always like to go down, but will, and I can tell the difference. She loves for me to go down, for which I don't have any issues with, but would love to have the favor returned, i.e. all the way to orgasm, but when she is in the mood to give, it's really good. I like the oral better, it seems that when she's in the mood, all her attention is on me, not her, unless it's a 69.

10-13-2003, 08:26 AM	#22 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	Monstermash and collide are both right... To many guy thing that getting a blow job mean they can grab a girl by the ears and face fuck her... Sorry for being blunt... If it is part of foreplay it can be really great. I think alot of guys think that there is intercourse OR there is a blowjob. I love to get and give oral as foreplay. Oh guys! foreplay is the stuff you do before you stick it in us... __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-13-2003, 02:04 PM	#23 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	I prefer giving than getting. But that's just my personal preference. Hey, she might like to give too. Allow her to give you pleasure.

10-13-2003, 06:26 PM	#25 (permalink)
juanvaldes Banned Location: shittown, CA	69. Best of both worlds. I love licking pussy so giving is much fun, but recieving is also fantastic. Very hard.

10-14-2003, 06:07 AM	#26 (permalink)
Jedbeck Crazy Location: Ohio, USA	I used to get head all the time, mostly driving down the road or in car at a stop sign way out in the country. I loved it and held the ladies responsible in the highest esteem. I also love going down on a lady. There is nothing better that hearing the breathing getting faster and legs tightening around your head. Well I guess there is one thing better, same thing just from sex. Last edited by Jedbeck; 10-14-2003 at 06:09 AM..

10-14-2003, 09:40 AM	#29 (permalink)
spads Insane Location: right here, watching my cock grow smaller	If you don't like head, then i don't think you've ever had it done right. I too though, would rather no head, than bad head, is thats what you mean. I don't think it's disrespectfull for your girl to suck your dick. In fact, I can't even understand that sentiment. I love getting blown well, and its a natural act. That being said though, say you stop seeing her, and then see her out with another guy, you may stop and think, "shit, I used to spray my load on the face of the girl that he loves." That is always a little weird. And then my final point .... unless your girls a virgin, you probably are that guy. This may cause a lack of respect. __________________ The intelligent man wins his battles with pointed words. I'm sorry—I meant sticks. Pointed sticks.

10-16-2003, 11:05 AM	#31 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	I have never felt I was disrespecting my SO, while she gave me head. Each woman I was with did it of her own free will. __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow.

10-16-2003, 11:48 AM	#32 (permalink)
Midlandmadman Redwing fan extraordinaire Location: Michigan	Blowing nut in her eye, video taping it and showing it to all your friends without her knowing it... is disrespectful. If she wants to suck it.... hey, who am I to stop her from doing something she likes? If she wants to and I don't let her ... thats disrespectful on my part. __________________ Its good to be back.

10-16-2003, 05:49 PM	#34 (permalink)
bannet Tilted Location: Canada	Me and the wife both both love going down on each other but I sometime fell like that too. "somehow feel you dissrespect her" Why is that?

10-22-2003, 01:29 PM	#35 (permalink)
Crazy/Beautiful Loser Location: In solitude	Try 69! Then you both can feel guilt free.

10-22-2003, 06:49 PM	#36 (permalink)
padam Upright Location: Houston	nope never felt any disrespect for my gf when she's giving me head. i know she loves to do it and i really enjoy her sucking my cock.

10-22-2003, 10:56 PM	#37 (permalink)
numist Banned Location: UCSD, 510.49 miles from my love	69 is awesome, but theres something to doing it one at a time that I love. It takes twice as long, but then you can give it twice as well because your not distracted. Either way.. I love it, and hold the givers in high respect.