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yellowgowild · 10-12-2003, 08:19 AM

I read this article that says it's natural for a man to want to cheat on his partner while a woman only wants to settle down.

Has anyone in here ever cheated ?
Ever been cheated one? Gotten revenge?
For most people, I think when you get cheated on it hurts your ego more than your heart.

Honestly I think it's okay as long as they never find out .

Konichiwaneko · 10-12-2003, 08:45 AM

I've been cheated on, and cheated.

It sucks but it draws you in like a moth to the flame.

yellowgowild · 10-12-2003, 10:26 AM

I just realized I posted this in the wrong place.

Holo · 10-12-2003, 11:39 AM

I've come close once or twice but I really didn't want it to blow up in my face later so it wasn't worth it. Only reason I wanted to was I was sexually neglected in that relationship (like once a month) and I was in my early 20's. I decided to end it after waiting wayyy too long for shit to change. I still wouldn't put up with it but I think wouldn't go cheating over it now. I can't say "no, never" but I don't think I would now.

10-12-2003, 11:45 AM

ive been cheated on but never cheated!

about the above statement,i think its in a mans nature to want to sleep with many women!
hell im surrounded by hot women i would love to have a go with! but i dont act on it cause i got a great woman,the greatest actually and i would do nothing to ruin that!
there is a bif difference between wanting to sleep with another woman and actually cheating!

skysooner · 10-12-2003, 02:57 PM

I haven't cheated and have been cheated on (caused me to dump her immediately). Slimm has it right. I'm attracted to many, many girls during the course of the day. I went to the OU-Texas game yesterday, and it was like a supermarket of hot women of all ages. However much of my attraction stems from having an absolutely incredible woman at home that jacks up my libidio just by being around her. I used to notice girls, but it was the relationship with my wife that made me learn to appreciate them.

ninety09 · 10-12-2003, 03:16 PM

Never cheated. I have no respect what-so-ever for people that have cheated, I want nothing to do with them.

I have never been cheated on, well, I don't think so :\

bundy · 10-12-2003, 05:29 PM

i used to cheat; but i really can´t say that since i kind of think the saying, ´once a cheater, always a cheater´, has some merit.... well, i intend to be the one who breaks this.

well, i´ve cheated... and i´ve been cheated on... its a nasty cycle that all involved must break out of.

tikki · 10-12-2003, 06:58 PM

I would never cheat, because I know what it was like to have it happen to me, and it fucking sucked.

mew · 10-12-2003, 07:02 PM

Luckily havent been cheated on or cheated on anyone. *knock on wood*
If you want to be with someone else, dump the person your with. Id rather be dumped for someone else, than be decieved-lied to.

Though, now that you mention it, he does look at other women, and it kinda makes me feel inferior, but then again, he wouldnt be with me if I were, no? Boys are boys after all..and I heard once..

It doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home and eat.

Uuudar · 10-12-2003, 07:21 PM

I cheated on my girlfriend way the hell back in 8th grade. I learned my lesson and now I'll never do that again because I saw the pain that I caused her. I never want to do that again.

I have yet to be cheated on, but I'm sure it'll happen at some point.

Kyo · 10-12-2003, 08:59 PM

Trust --> Betrayal. If you put yourself in a position to be taken advantage of, you will be taken advantage of.

Whether or not it is natural for a man to have his way with as many women as possible is entirely irrelevant. Many things come 'naturally' to human beings that are illegal and/or considered wrong by the majority of society - murder, rape, assault, etc. Killing your enemies is the most effective and permanent way to deal with them - it is very, very natural.

If you only do what comes naturally, you are just an animal, and will be treated like one.

yellowgowild · 10-12-2003, 11:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Kyo
Whether or not it is natural for a man to have his way with as many women as possible is entirely irrelevant. Many things come 'naturally' to human beings that are illegal and/or considered wrong by the majority of society - murder, rape, assault, etc. Killing your enemies is the most effective and permanent way to deal with them - it is very, very natural.

If you only do what comes naturally, you are just an animal, and will be treated like one.

I think cheating can't be compared to killing in any way. Also, almost everything we do has an animal impulse behind it, good or bad.

SecretMethod70 · 10-13-2003, 02:53 AM

I have cheated. I cheated on my 8th grade girlfriend...with her best friend. That was a messy one. And I cheated on onodrim about 3 years ago.

I really think it's just a matter of getting to know what you want. Especially when you're younger. I think there's a HUGE difference between cheating on someone when in high school and cheating on someone whilst in your 20s and above. The relationships you're in (theoretically) are much more adult later in life and have much more emotional involvement. Also, as you progress through life you get a better idea of what you want in a mate. That said, one must also be realistic and face the fact that all guys want to have sex with pretty much every woman they see. It's just a matter of having the maturity to turn down the opportunity if it arises when you're committed to someone else.

onetime2 · 10-13-2003, 03:51 AM

Never cheated and don't believe I ever will. Had opportunities but never really considered them. I'd never betray someone like that. My girlfriend kissed another guy once while we were fighting. It was kind of one of those Ross and Rachel things on Friend's. She thought we were "on a break" I didn't. It didn't bug me too much since I knew the relationship she had with this guy (on his end) was going to go that way. She was convinced he was just interested in being a friend. She's a gorgeous girl and a great person so there always seem to be some guys hanging around waiting for a shot.

Rlyss · 10-13-2003, 04:42 AM

I've been cheated on and it ruined our relationship. I've never cheated, I never will, and if my partner does then I'm gone before she can finish the sentence.

Sleepyjack · 10-13-2003, 05:41 AM

Never cheated nor been cheated on.

vveronica · 10-13-2003, 08:32 AM

been both. I did realize it is no fun being on either side. I guess i'm finally growing up.... damn

Averett · 10-13-2003, 09:48 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by tikki
I would never cheat, because I know what it was like to have it happen to me, and it fucking sucked.

I feel the same way. I could never cheat on somebody.

collide · 10-13-2003, 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by mew
It doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home and eat.

I love this analogy!

rogue49 · 10-13-2003, 12:58 PM

I've never been a cheater
I don't know if I have been cheated on.

But I have been the one others have cheated for.
How do I take this?

Plan9Senior · 10-13-2003, 01:00 PM

Never cheated on a woman nor would I ever. To my knowledge I have never been cheated on. I think cheating is the most unforgivable and worst thing you can do to another person while in a relationship.

collide · 10-13-2003, 01:01 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rogue49
I've never been a cheater
I don't know if I have been cheated on.

But I have been the one others have cheated for.
How do I take this?

Did you knowingly get involved with another girl whom you knew was already taken? I've been wondering why people do this.

Jedbeck · 10-13-2003, 05:56 PM

I heard this awesome quote about cheating the other day. "Before you decide to cheat you should ask yourself if you are willing to trade half of everything you own, for a 10 second muscle spasm."

darkallaround · 10-13-2003, 10:35 PM

i've never desired to cheat. and as such, i haven't cheated.

i have been cheated on. and it hurt. badly.

and now she's with the guy she cheated on me with. all i can say is "Now THERE'S a relationship built on trust!"

perhaps worse, i think she's trying to line me up where she'll cheat the other way with me! but all she's gonna get is a big "nu-uh"

RAGEAngel9 · 10-14-2003, 12:19 AM

I don't think I've been cheated on. My friends said that my ex had, but I won't believe it till she actually says she did.
However, I have cheated twice. The first time, she threatened to cheat on me. I of course was pissed and the opportunity came along that night so I took it. I did it more out of anger than desire.
Second time was just before we broke up. I just frankly didn't care anymore. Shouldn't have done it, but I was drunk and apathetic.

However, I hope I don't ever do it again.

Johnny Rotten · 10-14-2003, 12:30 AM

I know what it's like to get hollowed out, so I could never hurt someone that way. Once you've been really betrayed, everything is different.

*Nikki* · 10-14-2003, 02:17 AM

I have been cheated on.

I have cheated.

I don't participate in either one these days.

Loup · 10-14-2003, 03:46 AM

I have never cheated - I have never been cheated on.

One bad situation that I know of: One of my friends' boyfriend was cheated on in his previous relationship. Now he is too paranoid and way over-protected of her. He doesn't want her coming out with her friends because she might cheat on him. And if she does, he won't acknowledge her for a couple of days. So basically he doesn't trust her and punishes her because he got burnt by someone else.

yellowgowild · 10-20-2003, 07:01 PM

I guess I should ask instead, "What do you consider cheating?".

almostaugust · 10-20-2003, 07:23 PM

I dont cheat. I cheated once in high school, felt very bad. Will never do that again.

langer88 · 10-20-2003, 07:38 PM

before anyone cheats they should break it off with their "other". there is good reason to put someone through so much pain. oh, and i have never cheated and have never been cheated on (at least not to my knowledge).

Dilbert1234567 · 10-21-2003, 12:24 AM

I don’t cheat I will never cheat and above all I loath cheaters, of all kinds and of all methods

I can’t even cheat on a test, let alone another person. I despise cheaters.

The only cheating I can bring my self to do is in a single player game (like solitaire)

yournamehere · 10-21-2003, 06:14 AM

Been cheated on - in two long, serious relationships in a row.
It affected my ability to trust women for a long time - about ten years. Thankfully I finally found someone who deserved my trust.
In return, she will <i>never</i> have to worry about me. I respect her (and myself) too much to ever cheat

Averett · 10-21-2003, 06:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by rogue49
But I have been the one others have cheated for.

I was that girl once... I knew that this guy was seeing somebody, yet I slept with him anyway. I think I justified it because they weren't serious. They eventually broke up, and he contacted her months later. They got back together for a bit and broke up again.

well, never really did break up. She just stopped returning his calls both times.

Honstly I didn't feel bad about it. And saying that makes me feel horrible. Weird, eh?

erion · 10-21-2003, 07:04 AM

Never cheated on anyone. I have left someone I was with in order to be free to be with someone else, but there was no cheating involved. I was quite honest with the girl I was breaking up with that I didn't see our relationship going where I wanted it to go. I was also up front that there was someone else I wanted to be with, but I hadn't even asked the new girl on a date yet. We've been married for 5 years.

I have been cheated on, by a girl I was engaged to marry while in college. Stopped by her apartment to surprise her with breakfast on my way to work one Sunday morning and her roommate tells me that she and the guy she brought home last night have gone out to eat.

Her car was there. Her roommates car was there, but she was not. She denied cheating, but the condom wrappers on the floor told me otherwise.

uptown · 10-21-2003, 09:31 AM

I've been cheated on,I have never cheated.

lurkette · 10-21-2003, 10:28 AM

I've never been cheated on as far as I know, and have never cheated. I think the impulse is understandable, but to take the action is cowardly and immature. Either leave the relationship you're in, get permission to see other people, or keep 'em zipped. There's little enough trust in the world as it is without hurting people you (supposedly) love.

shannon · 10-21-2003, 12:31 PM

i have never been cheated on or cheated. my SO and i right now are semi-open (in theory, nothing much has happened), as long as we keep each other involved. the way i figure is if you feel the need to fuck others so badly that you can't resist, then open that option. and if you're with someone who can't open that option, and you're not able to resist, then it's likely to not work out.

Esen · 10-21-2003, 06:12 PM

I never cheated,

Had an ex girlfriend cheat on me.
But she was moron anyways, so it was no big loss

10-12-2003, 08:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
yellowgowild Psycho Location: Tampa	Do you cheat? Have you been cheated on? I read this article that says it's natural for a man to want to cheat on his partner while a woman only wants to settle down. Has anyone in here ever cheated ? Ever been cheated one? Gotten revenge? For most people, I think when you get cheated on it hurts your ego more than your heart. Honestly I think it's okay as long as they never find out . Last edited by yellowgowild; 10-13-2003 at 09:52 PM..

10-12-2003, 08:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	I've been cheated on, and cheated. It sucks but it draws you in like a moth to the flame. __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

10-12-2003, 11:39 AM	#4 (permalink)
Holo A Real American	I've come close once or twice but I really didn't want it to blow up in my face later so it wasn't worth it. Only reason I wanted to was I was sexually neglected in that relationship (like once a month) and I was in my early 20's. I decided to end it after waiting wayyy too long for shit to change. I still wouldn't put up with it but I think wouldn't go cheating over it now. I can't say "no, never" but I don't think I would now. __________________ I happen to like the words "fuck", "cock", "pussy", "tits", "cunt", "twat", "shit" and even "bitch". As long as I am not using them to describe you, don't go telling me whether or not I can/should use them...that is, if you want me to continue refraining from using them to describe you. ~Prince

10-12-2003, 05:29 PM	#8 (permalink)
bundy . Location: Tokyo	i used to cheat; but i really can´t say that since i kind of think the saying, ´once a cheater, always a cheater´, has some merit.... well, i intend to be the one who breaks this. well, i´ve cheated... and i´ve been cheated on... its a nasty cycle that all involved must break out of. __________________ Ohayo!!!

10-12-2003, 06:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
tikki Justified Location: West Lafayette, IN	I would never cheat, because I know what it was like to have it happen to me, and it fucking sucked. __________________ Take notice. Take interest. Take me with you.

10-12-2003, 10:26 AM	#3 (permalink)
yellowgowild Psycho Location: Tampa	I just realized I posted this in the wrong place.

10-12-2003, 11:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
SLIMM Guest	ive been cheated on but never cheated! about the above statement,i think its in a mans nature to want to sleep with many women! hell im surrounded by hot women i would love to have a go with! but i dont act on it cause i got a great woman,the greatest actually and i would do nothing to ruin that! there is a bif difference between wanting to sleep with another woman and actually cheating!

10-12-2003, 02:57 PM	#6 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I haven't cheated and have been cheated on (caused me to dump her immediately). Slimm has it right. I'm attracted to many, many girls during the course of the day. I went to the OU-Texas game yesterday, and it was like a supermarket of hot women of all ages. However much of my attraction stems from having an absolutely incredible woman at home that jacks up my libidio just by being around her. I used to notice girls, but it was the relationship with my wife that made me learn to appreciate them.

10-12-2003, 03:16 PM	#7 (permalink)
ninety09 Flavour of the Weak Location: Canada	Never cheated. I have no respect what-so-ever for people that have cheated, I want nothing to do with them. I have never been cheated on, well, I don't think so :\

10-12-2003, 07:02 PM	#10 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	Luckily havent been cheated on or cheated on anyone. knock on wood If you want to be with someone else, dump the person your with. Id rather be dumped for someone else, than be decieved-lied to. Though, now that you mention it, he does look at other women, and it kinda makes me feel inferior, but then again, he wouldnt be with me if I were, no? Boys are boys after all..and I heard once.. It doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home and eat. Last edited by mew; 10-12-2003 at 07:05 PM..

10-12-2003, 07:21 PM	#11 (permalink)
Uuudar Insane	I cheated on my girlfriend way the hell back in 8th grade. I learned my lesson and now I'll never do that again because I saw the pain that I caused her. I never want to do that again. I have yet to be cheated on, but I'm sure it'll happen at some point.

10-12-2003, 08:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
Kyo Crazy	Trust --> Betrayal. If you put yourself in a position to be taken advantage of, you will be taken advantage of. Whether or not it is natural for a man to have his way with as many women as possible is entirely irrelevant. Many things come 'naturally' to human beings that are illegal and/or considered wrong by the majority of society - murder, rape, assault, etc. Killing your enemies is the most effective and permanent way to deal with them - it is very, very natural. If you only do what comes naturally, you are just an animal, and will be treated like one. __________________ Sure I have a heart; it's floating in a jar in my closet, along with my tonsils, my appendix, and all of the other useless organs I ripped out.

10-13-2003, 02:53 AM	#14 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	I have cheated. I cheated on my 8th grade girlfriend...with her best friend. That was a messy one. And I cheated on onodrim about 3 years ago. I really think it's just a matter of getting to know what you want. Especially when you're younger. I think there's a HUGE difference between cheating on someone when in high school and cheating on someone whilst in your 20s and above. The relationships you're in (theoretically) are much more adult later in life and have much more emotional involvement. Also, as you progress through life you get a better idea of what you want in a mate. That said, one must also be realistic and face the fact that all guys want to have sex with pretty much every woman they see. It's just a matter of having the maturity to turn down the opportunity if it arises when you're committed to someone else. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

10-13-2003, 03:51 AM	#15 (permalink)
onetime2 Junkie Location: NJ	Never cheated and don't believe I ever will. Had opportunities but never really considered them. I'd never betray someone like that. My girlfriend kissed another guy once while we were fighting. It was kind of one of those Ross and Rachel things on Friend's. She thought we were "on a break" I didn't. It didn't bug me too much since I knew the relationship she had with this guy (on his end) was going to go that way. She was convinced he was just interested in being a friend. She's a gorgeous girl and a great person so there always seem to be some guys hanging around waiting for a shot. __________________ Strive to be more curious than ignorant.

10-13-2003, 04:42 AM	#16 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	I've been cheated on and it ruined our relationship. I've never cheated, I never will, and if my partner does then I'm gone before she can finish the sentence.

10-13-2003, 05:41 AM	#17 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	Never cheated nor been cheated on.

10-13-2003, 08:32 AM	#18 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	been both. I did realize it is no fun being on either side. I guess i'm finally growing up.... damn __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

10-13-2003, 12:58 PM	#21 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	I've never been a cheater I don't know if I have been cheated on. But I have been the one others have cheated for. How do I take this?

10-13-2003, 01:00 PM	#22 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	Never cheated on a woman nor would I ever. To my knowledge I have never been cheated on. I think cheating is the most unforgivable and worst thing you can do to another person while in a relationship.

10-13-2003, 05:56 PM	#24 (permalink)
Jedbeck Crazy Location: Ohio, USA	I heard this awesome quote about cheating the other day. "Before you decide to cheat you should ask yourself if you are willing to trade half of everything you own, for a 10 second muscle spasm."

10-13-2003, 10:35 PM	#25 (permalink)
darkallaround Tilted	i've never desired to cheat. and as such, i haven't cheated. i have been cheated on. and it hurt. badly. and now she's with the guy she cheated on me with. all i can say is "Now THERE'S a relationship built on trust!" perhaps worse, i think she's trying to line me up where she'll cheat the other way with me! but all she's gonna get is a big "nu-uh" __________________ the darkness it surrounds me, consumes my very soul. within this worthless existence i shall never be made whole.

10-14-2003, 12:19 AM	#26 (permalink)
RAGEAngel9 Insane Location: Vermont	I don't think I've been cheated on. My friends said that my ex had, but I won't believe it till she actually says she did. However, I have cheated twice. The first time, she threatened to cheat on me. I of course was pissed and the opportunity came along that night so I took it. I did it more out of anger than desire. Second time was just before we broke up. I just frankly didn't care anymore. Shouldn't have done it, but I was drunk and apathetic. However, I hope I don't ever do it again.

10-14-2003, 12:30 AM	#27 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	I know what it's like to get hollowed out, so I could never hurt someone that way. Once you've been really betrayed, everything is different. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

10-14-2003, 02:17 AM	#28 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	I have been cheated on. I have cheated. I don't participate in either one these days.

10-14-2003, 03:46 AM	#29 (permalink)
Loup Pup no More Location: Voted the Best	I have never cheated - I have never been cheated on. One bad situation that I know of: One of my friends' boyfriend was cheated on in his previous relationship. Now he is too paranoid and way over-protected of her. He doesn't want her coming out with her friends because she might cheat on him. And if she does, he won't acknowledge her for a couple of days. So basically he doesn't trust her and punishes her because he got burnt by someone else. __________________ "If you cannot lift the load off another's back, do not walk away. Try to lighten it." ~ Frank Tyger

10-20-2003, 07:01 PM	#30 (permalink)
yellowgowild Psycho Location: Tampa	I guess I should ask instead, "What do you consider cheating?".

10-20-2003, 07:23 PM	#31 (permalink)
almostaugust Junkie Location: Oz	I dont cheat. I cheated once in high school, felt very bad. Will never do that again. __________________ 'And it's been a long December and there's reason to believe Maybe this year will be better than the last I can't remember all the times I tried to tell my myself To hold on to these moments as they pass'

10-20-2003, 07:38 PM	#32 (permalink)
langer88 Upright	before anyone cheats they should break it off with their "other". there is good reason to put someone through so much pain. oh, and i have never cheated and have never been cheated on (at least not to my knowledge).

10-21-2003, 12:24 AM	#33 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	I don’t cheat I will never cheat and above all I loath cheaters, of all kinds and of all methods I can’t even cheat on a test, let alone another person. I despise cheaters. The only cheating I can bring my self to do is in a single player game (like solitaire) __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

10-21-2003, 06:14 AM	#34 (permalink)
yournamehere Invisible Location: tentative, at best	Been cheated on - in two long, serious relationships in a row. It affected my ability to trust women for a long time - about ten years. Thankfully I finally found someone who deserved my trust. In return, she will <i>never</i> have to worry about me. I respect her (and myself) too much to ever cheat __________________ If you want to avoid 95% of internet spelling errors: "If your ridiculous pants are too loose, you're definitely going to lose them. Tell your two loser friends over there that they're going to lose theirs, too." It won't hurt your fashion sense, either.

10-21-2003, 07:04 AM	#36 (permalink)
erion Psycho	Never cheated on anyone. I have left someone I was with in order to be free to be with someone else, but there was no cheating involved. I was quite honest with the girl I was breaking up with that I didn't see our relationship going where I wanted it to go. I was also up front that there was someone else I wanted to be with, but I hadn't even asked the new girl on a date yet. We've been married for 5 years. I have been cheated on, by a girl I was engaged to marry while in college. Stopped by her apartment to surprise her with breakfast on my way to work one Sunday morning and her roommate tells me that she and the guy she brought home last night have gone out to eat. Her car was there. Her roommates car was there, but she was not. She denied cheating, but the condom wrappers on the floor told me otherwise.

10-21-2003, 09:31 AM	#37 (permalink)
uptown Insane	I've been cheated on,I have never cheated.

10-21-2003, 10:28 AM	#38 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I've never been cheated on as far as I know, and have never cheated. I think the impulse is understandable, but to take the action is cowardly and immature. Either leave the relationship you're in, get permission to see other people, or keep 'em zipped. There's little enough trust in the world as it is without hurting people you (supposedly) love. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-21-2003, 12:31 PM	#39 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	i have never been cheated on or cheated. my SO and i right now are semi-open (in theory, nothing much has happened), as long as we keep each other involved. the way i figure is if you feel the need to fuck others so badly that you can't resist, then open that option. and if you're with someone who can't open that option, and you're not able to resist, then it's likely to not work out. __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

10-21-2003, 06:12 PM	#40 (permalink)
Esen TFPer formaly known as Chauncey Location: North East	I never cheated, Had an ex girlfriend cheat on me. But she was moron anyways, so it was no big loss __________________ ~Esen What is everyone doing in my room?