Soul Mate? Have you Found one?
 

I was just wondering if anyone had found a true Soul mate, if that is even a real possiblity..?

Personally I believe I have. It is as if we know what each other is thinking no matter how close or far. If you believe we all have many lives then I am truly sure we have shared many of them. The drawback is that we can not go the traditional route and walk hand in hand into the sunset due to some partially shared blood lines. So what does one do, Buck the system and go for it? Try and find some other to love even if none have ever come close and Lord knows Ive tried alot? Perhaps just settle?

I don't know about your particular situation, and am in no position to comment. If you're no closer than first cousins that is okay in most (forward-thinking) minds. I can only hope that I find my soul mate.

I thought so before, then I gave up on the idea, but I might be coming around to the idea that they exist again...

It depends on your definition of a soulmate. If you are saying "one that encourages your soul -- your inner being, your spirituality, your personal growth, etc." Then yes, I believe. I also believe there can be more than one "out there." Who you are meant to be with at any particular time in your life has a lot to do with circumstances, your past, your present and where you want to go in the future. In this moment, I am with my soulmate; and I'm glad he is coming around.

Absolutely no. Actually everyday, I get farther away from thinking that I'll find anyone that I just have sympathy for.

I am pretty sure I have. We dated in high school and after. Then I joined the military she broke up with me and we didn't see each other for about 7 years. Well get this, we find each other and start talking again and I find out that she started playing guitar at the exact time I did....freaky. We are married to different people at the time though and we aren't talking again, but I'm absolutely sure we will be together again someday.

I don't believe that "there's one person out there for everyone" nonsense. But the person I've found is someone who completes me in every way--she's strong where I'm not and I'm strong where she's not. We're each committed to what the other is committed to. My love for her deepens literally day by day.

So... soul mate? Dunno. Someone I love more deeply than I ever dreamed possible? Absolutely.

I feel like I did when I was younger. Was with her for 5 years and then I went to school and she went to travel with her friend. We took a small break so we could explore life, and the last time I saw her was a year later when she told me she was getting married. I have never seen her since, but 5 years later I still feel a void that has still never been filled. In my eyes, she was the one... but I don't get very upset because I am cherish the times that I did spend with her.

I'm sure that I've found my soul mate. I wouldn't ever be able to explain to you why or how, but I know that our lives were destined to entertwine and never become untangled.

I think it's possible that I have because I'm quite happy now, and everything seems perfect, but give me a couple decades and I'll let you know for sure. It's kind of like true love where you don't fall in love over night, so discovering that you're with your soulmate is very similar to the way that works.

I believe that there are MANY soul mates out there for each person.

To go around thinking that there is only one would drive me mad.

Never found a soulmate. Are soulmates possible? I suppose, but not in the sense that our souls were born in pairs and separated at birth and all that jazz. I'm more of a pessimist, so while I think there are probably a few people out there who you're compatible with, it's probably near impossible to find them.

i don't believe in soulmates in that i think it's just a term to justify emotions and give more meaning to them. its a shady term. and definately biased to people who have found 'the one'. you walk around trying to find your "soulmate" and believe they don't exist until they do..for you. its entirely subjective. so, no i don't believe in a "soulmate". but are there people that can compliment you in such a way that life without them seems unthinkable? sure. to me, that person should bring out the best version of yourself.

well said.

Poor darlin'. Circumstance is a bitch.

I dunno what I think about soulmates. If I had one, I'm sure it'd be Jinya. She and I have had so many common experiences (although going through a bad marriage will probably do that), and now we're so complimentary to each other that I can't imagine spending life with anyone else. We share so many of the same attitudes and beliefs and such.

I suppose that it's possible there's another person out there that I would mesh as well with. I'm not going to go to any trouble to find them, though. :p As for your situation, enjoy being as close to the person as you can, and let `em know you love them. (I'm sure you do already.) Do what you need to to fill the smaller spots of your life that he can't take care of. And come visit so we can take your mind off things for a while. ;)

I agree. Cause with my luck, if I have one soul mate, he probably lives in a hut in Africa somewhere or something.

I have not, but I hope she's out there, somewhere.... :)

This just made me think of The Onion, which did a piece on 'area youth finds soulmate in town of 1,400', or something similar.

There's no one perfect person for anyone - everything sits on a relative scale of compatibility, and as people change so do their needs and likes. In a world that shifts so drastically, with so many influences, I find it difficult to think that one thing could satisfy me forever.

Obviously, I'm not denying that love exists, just that I believe love isn't eternal and it's certainly not with one person in your lifetime.

I don't think there is just one person out there. I have found that I can easily bond with lots of different people. I think the soul mate is a feel that can arise pretty easily, but it doesn't really mean much.

I don't think there are soulmates per se, but I do believe in finding someone so compatible that it is almost scary. I also believe that there are many people that you could be with (just with varying degrees of happiness). I found my wife in a strange way. I was in Engineering grad school, and she was in Education grad school at the Univ. of Oklahoma. We lived about 1/4 mile away from each other. My fraternity had functioned with her sorority around 6 times. However she was not the party type and never went to functions. Even if I had met her at one of those drunken parties, it is unlikely we would have ever connected except in the most superficial of ways. Instead, I was getting frustrated by the lack of women I was meeting and decided to try putting a personal ad in a local Oklahoma City paper. She was one of two girls that responded, and the rest is history. We think alike in so many ways. She is my best friend, etc. I think it was no accident that I had found her at that point in my life. I was 25 and a bit more mature than I had been a couple of years ago. I had ceased judging women strictly on how fast they would go to bed with me or how "hot" they were. My wife is very nice looking, but she wasn't the sluttier type I would have gone for 2 years previously. We were both just at points in our lives where we were ready to meet someone seriously, and it worked out.

Exactly what I think too =)

I dated my soulmate for about two years. I should stipulate that SHE was MY soulmate. I was not hers. She moved to Italy and got married.

There's more to this story but that's all I'm writing for right now. (The subject is depressing and I haven't had my bong hit yet.)

Well Im going to say that I have. I've date some girls and they made me feel complete. But the one that Im dating now, makes me feel complete but then some. Kind of like when you take two horses that can only pull 300lbs each, but put them together and they can pull 700lbs. Thats what I feel like when I even just think about her. I get so much energy and good from her. I just hope it never goes away.

They are rare, aren't they?
Then how did I ever find mine? And in a boy i've known since junior high?

When you finally get down to the heart of a man, and you find that you and he are made of the same fibers of belief and existance, regardless of religion, careers, or talents-- it's more precious than i can give description.

I sure as hell though i had. I remeber one instance lying in bed with her just having a discussion/mixed w/ some kissing, and cuddling that kinda thing. I rolled over, and we caught eachother glance. We just stared at eachother for a min or so, and then quickly looked away. after about 30 seconds past we both said that was kind of scary, because at that moment all i could think about was how much i want to spend the rest of my life with you.

Then we went on break for the summer she got 2 jobs and started partying with other guys. When the school year came around again she didn't want anything to do w/ me :(

i thought i had a soul mate.
we had eachother convinced over a period of about 4 years.
now she wont even talk to my face. bitch.
the things that bug me are not that we're not together, just the way she acts like i dont exist. owell, now im gettin more poon than i ever would get from her in a given week.

It's my belief that the mere number of people on planet earth allows for any one person to have at least a few perfect matches. The determining factors in who matches who are mainly location and social status. Technology allows those lines to be blurred a little, but that's not the point. The point is this: One should not be so disheartened to not have a signifigant other or to have just lost one, because there are so many other options for you if you put any effort into it.

This is also not to take away from the sensation of having a 'soulmate' but to bring light to the fact that favoritism comes into play with such relationships.

I've found my perfect match. We've known eachother for 9 years. We lived in the same town and went to the same school. I could have easily met someone else somewhere along the line, but I've latched on and I cannot be swayed. I'm content and very happy.

These are the facts according to me. 6,000,000,000+ people in the world. Assuming there is 1 perfect match for each person, the statistical chances of those two people meeting at some point are quite close to impossible given the amount of people the average person actually takes the time to get to know in his or her lifetime (let's assume you will take the time to know about 200 people from birth to death). However, let's not deny that there are several euphorically happy couples prancing about out there.

Taking into consideration that there are a lot more than 6 billion people in the world, that means 4 out of every 100million people are hooked up. That means there are about 240 true soul mate couples in the WHOLE world, and that's being generous. To that I say: BULLSHIT!

If you think you have found your true partner and that it was meant to be, you're being awfully selfish and egotistical. You're denying more than 99.999996% of the world their chance at true love because the LAW OF AVERAGES has all ready been used up! I'm not trying to be cruel here, I'm just laying down some scientific logic here.

Oh yeah.. I love my little Litespeed.

I don't think there "soul" mates per se but I do believe that we can find partners that can grow and change with us as well as challenge and support us for life...

I was just telling my wife last night that I am amazed that after over 15 years of being together I am more in love with her today than I was when I first met her...

When I asked her to marry me I didn't ask her to actually marry me... I asked her to grow old with me. So far, so good!

Yes, I have....It was a long journey with lots of bumps in the road...Lots of lessons learned and always having that person there....I don't think anyone knows me the way he does or ever will.

you may think I'm naive, being 18, but I've had 2. The first died, and the second I am still with, and can not imagine being without her.

As soon as you love someone enough to give up everything you've ever known for her (or him) that is your soul mate, in my opinion. Someone who fills your voids, and whose voids you fill.

In other words, absolutely

I definately have found the very person that is my soulmate. He was my second boyfreind, we've known each other since eighth grade, which was ten years ago, for those of you who want to guess my age. He is and always was the sweetest man I ever knew, respectful of his parents and very loving to his siblings. He was so gone over me, and I broke his heart because of religious differences. but that was years ago, and I do beleive that things that are meant to be come around again after you get you head out of your ass so you can finally see what you can have. He is still the sweetest guy, and hotter that hell to boot, which is always an added bonus. Woo hoo! Hot sex!!

yes, in the most unlikely place. In the most unlikely way. But I have no doubts about it. She is just that special, just that tuned into my soul. She knows more about me than I do at times, and that is at once scary and wonderful. As is she.

I also don't believe there is a 'one'. There are many potential people who are compatible with you for any given time and place in your life.

soulmate
 

well i dont believe we have a soul at all so its hard to say i believe in a "soul" mate!
i do think there is someone out there for everyone!
i think i found mine too!
i hope so anyway,if this one dont work then i give up!

I've got one :)

I have had many relationships in my life, several that lsted a long time and which were very rich, deep and emotional however in all of those cases the feelings gradually died and they ended....

until Pen...

10 years on the relationship and love continues to grow. We continue to challenge each other intellectually and have a wonderful rich sex life....

Have I found my "soul mate" Yup

I think I have one waiting for me.



I am not an envious man...however....this is the one thing that
drives me right to the edge of enviousness.
To see someone totally immersed in another. and the other, immersed in them. I've only lit on this very fleetingly and the taste lingers still on my tongue.

BAH
Romantic Love is a virus.
:(

I believe whole-heartedly in Soul-mates....mostly due to the fact that I have met mine. The bad part is that we are both married to other people. Now I ask,, is it better to have found, have and then have it taken away; or to have never found in the first place???

how does that work? shouldn't soulmates be together?

**sobs**

no, well, maybe i have.
i honestly thought (in my naivety) that my last girlfriend was my soulmate.

since that ended badly, i´ve come to see cold hard truth that there is no such thing (imo).

so, no... i haven´t met my soulmate.
and no, since i think that compatability and hard work are whats needed in a good relationship, i don´t believe in the concept.