i would have sex, but i'd most definitely have to respect that person on some level first

3 types of sex, as far as I'm concerned:

A) Sex where both parties are interested in a more-than-sex relationship.
B) Sex where one party is interested in a more-than-sex relationship, one isn't.
C) Sex where neither party is interested in a more-than-sex relationship.

Only one of those is bad. It's B. If you're in love, great! If you just want a to fuck, great! The only time I've had a problem is when the two sides of the equation aren't equal - people have GOT to understand the dynamic of the relationship and agree on where they stand and where they want to stand before they can go throwing sex into the mix. After that... have fun.

That's how I feel also. Besides why would I risk so much for one night of sex with someone I don't even love:confused:

I think you can fuck someone and NOT get very intimate. I've done it.
I didn't really enjoy it that much but I also didn't want to get intimate.

fuck
make love

I might fuck someone but not make love to them but at this point in my life I don't know if I'd do that.

I agree.....you are shallow!

Oh....I mean, I will go for anything as long as it is consensual and both parties know what the deal is. Unfortunately, I slept with someone last night who we both started out as just sex, but she is getting those queazy feelings when she gets around me now....falling for me. It is not mutual so I need to cut it off. I just don't feel the vibe with her.

Perhaps later in life my opinion will change, but here at college, I'm fine with having sex with any and all that I deem suitable.

ALL THE WAY. Been there done that several times. Would not change a thing.

I can have sex with people I don't love/like/whatever.

Sure, I'm majorly fucked up about sex, but who isn't these days? ;)

I don't go there.
It's about love...

i'd go until i realized i would never love her. people can grow on one another.

Life in the eighties! You got it on, i didn't matter. Sex was sex and love was love, the two didn't have to go together.

7 inches no more maybe less.

i'll admit the first time i just randomly hooked up with a gilr it was wierd. Espically when you both wake up in the morning sober and half wonder what the two of you did last night; knowing full well what you did.

Most of the time I just write it off as primal urges. Everyone has them. Sometimes you both experience the urge, take care of it and move on.

sheeee saiiiiiiiiidd
all the wayyyyyyyy
aallll the waaaayyyyyyyy
warped and scaaared...

:)

I've been all the way with several women that I don't "love." We're friends, and that's that. It's a good time, and I wouldn't change a thing.

Pssst...open marriages kick ass!

everything except sex...probably wouldnt want to make out much either -_-

I dislike making out a lot in general, so if i don't care about the girl in a "love" sense, I don't do a lot of the making out, just sex.

Sex can be meaningless- but with someone you love, it is truly something spectacular.

I could go all the way. Then again, I'm sure that if I was with a hot girl long enough to get to sex, I'd probably already be in love.

Once, I hooked up with a girl I knew I didn't love, or even had any feelings for beyond acquaintenance or mild friends. I don't think I even found her very attractive. She was a little overweight, smoked very heavily, and generally had a bad attitude about most things. But she wanted me like crazy.

I was about to break things off with my girlfriend of about two years, I knew she had been cheating on me very regularly and things were all but over. They just had to be made "official" and that'd be that, I just hadn't had the time to get over there and say it to her lying face. I wasn't angry, nor bitter really, but I felt like I wanted to take it -- whatever "it" was -- out on someone or something.

So I went to go visit this girl. Sure enough, she wanted to fool around, and it really wasn't long before she was kissing the front of my pants and begging to suck me off. At first I was kinda put off by it, but finally I decided "what the hell" and let her go to town.

You know what? I'm not proud of it. To be honest, I don't think I even felt good about it back then, either. But that's how much (or how little) I cared about myself back then. I'm glad times have changed.

Entirely agree, particularly given my non-monogamous, confused relationship.

i'd put it in the butt

although i'd much rather have something more long term

ive had sexwith women i didnt really care about it was fine, until i dropped the girl off.. i felt like an ass


:(

I've had sex with a number of women who I never cared about really (although there were always temporary feelings during the act). Sex was sex. It isn't near the same level of pleasure I get from making love with my life, but at the time it was pretty damn good.

I would go all the way to. But I'd tell the girl in advance that it will be nothing more than sex.

All the way...I have enjoyed having a fuck buddy...Like it was said above, As long as your on the same level of what you want...There's nothing wrong with it.

probably all the way.... thats how i ended up in this relationship.... i think

No where.
I've already traveled that path and know how little value it holds to your soul.

Being in college, I have a few friends that are very attractive women.

They will always be only that, friends, a hug and a kiss is as far as I go.

Well said. I go for this too. Never sleep with someone that you wouldn't hang out with in the first place.

I've lived long enough to realize at least to myself that sex is just sex. I have been in relationships where I have loved someone and relationships where I haven't and it makes no difference to me as to the outcome.In other words,again my personal opinion,sex with love or no love is equal. As long as the other person knows my true feelings,which they always do, no one gets hurt or feelings of being used.

I am a scorpio and a highly sexual person - I would have NO troubles having sex with a girl whom I found attractive.

Intensity is life in motion.

I agree with both of these completly.

I've been seeing this gril for a little over a week, she's great - funny, smart, and we're into the same stuff.

After only a week, obviousally I don't love her, but can deffently see myself going into that direction.

Under these conditions I would sleap with her, but only if she was feeling the same way.

For me, personally, one night stands are totally out of the question. I belive sex, while simply a physical expression, affects our subcouncious in powerfull ways. I'm not willing to share that sort of connection with a stanger. I'd perfer no sex to cheap sex.

ANd yes, I just dug up a old, old thread.

Of all the women I've had sex with, I was <i>not</i> in love with over 97% of them.

A penis has neither heart nor conscience.

I did that whole no strings attached one night stand sort of thing and I absolutely hate it. I had gotten out of a 2 1/2 year relationship and thought I needed to experience everything I had been missing out on. I found out that for me..sex without love or at least having feelings for the other person lessens the whole experience. I like to have that emotional connection with the other person. Did I do it again?? Yes I did..but I got a great boyfriend out of the deal :)

How far will I go with someone I don't love?

*About 7 1/2 inches.*

How far?
I'd probably go to Bosie with someone that I had just met, but I might go as far as Alberta with someone that I really cared about alot.

I've done it before and never really had any problems with it. I just make sure that they know the situation. If there was another girl I really liked I wouldn't go through with it, unless it was a threesome (Hint Redgirl).

Kiss, cuddle, make out. Maybe a little more. But not full sex.

Dunno why. Just couldn't.

Yep i'm strange :)