better have frickin small hand and still it is not getting up there.

Fisting is pretty fuckin gross in my opinion. To each their own I guess.

As has been mentioned, use a lot of lube. I have also had best success with this after dildo play... and lots of lube. Speaking of lube, the whole area needs lubed as well as your entire hand, not just the labias. One mistake is to try to insert the thumb after you have worked up to four fingers when you actually want to fold the thumb across your palm before forming a fist to finally gain total insertion. I want to mention again, use a lot of lube.

I've been to a vaginal fisting seminar and even witnessed a live demonstration. Two Sexologists (Ph.D.) assured the class that the vagina will stretch back in a matter of hours.

As for knowing if your fist can fit in her vagina, best way to determine this is to go to an OBGYN. Ask them to measure the distance from the pelvic bone to the coccyx. (They have tools to measure these things for pregnancy to know if the baby's head will pass through without intervention.) If your fist is within that range, it's just a matter of maneuvering your fist properly. If your fist is larger in diameter/width than her pelvic bone to coccyx, I would not recommend trying fisting as you could puncture her vagina or rectum on the coccyx.

The vagina is a naturally elastic, it will eventually return back to normal. The most damage a vagina will get from fisting are small (read: nearly microscopic) scratches and tear from the fist, but I'll let you in on a secret: Sex makes the same kind of tears if you do it long enough. Wearing a glove will reduce the amount of scratches and scrapes.

Lots of lube. Trim your finger nails. Use gloves (less friction==longer time to play). Go slow, but if you're going to do it, you need to do all the stretching (it's a slow process) within the same evening otherwise the effort will go to waste. This may be obvious, but there are only two ways a fist will go into a vagina, palm up and down. There's a little bit of a rotating movement when you're fitting the thumb in. It doesn't just go straight in. You start out with your palm facing to the left or right (that will determine if you end up palm up or down). If I could remember more detail from the lecture, I'd tell you the "trick" because there is apparently a trick to fitting the thumb in.

Searched "fisting," found: http://www.fisting-free.com/

The reason that a baby can come out is that the cervix dialates before birth--it's a chemical thing and it's not gonna happen just cause a baby-sized object wants in!

(Begin Frustrated Rant)
Look here, Mr. Know It All:
http://www.papscreen.org/ps/v_women/res/cervix.jpg
http://216.35.211.233/news/images/cervix.jpg
NOTHING SEXUAL EVER ENTERS THE CERVIX.
The entrance to a cervix looks like this: http://www.w-rabbit.com/dumbstuff/cervix/cervix.jpg
The cervix, while they are connected, is not part of the vagina. The fist goes in the vagina. The cervix is the passageway from the uterus to vagina. Nothing but babies and menstrual fluids come out of a cervix (naturally speaking, anyways). PENISES AND FISTS DO NOT GO IN A CERVIX!@ The fist can and will enter the vulva, the entrance to the vagina, nothing beyond the vagina. IF A BABY SIZED OBJECT WANTS IN THE VAGINA, IT CAN HAPPEN. Still, nothing goes in a cervix.

(End Frustrated Rant)

Listen to lady, she's training in the medical field.

Have any of you had any measure of sucess? I can get to my palm without my thumb folded down. When I fold down my thumb I can't get past my second thumb nuckle. Is there a rotation that makes it easier? We've been working up slowly over the last few weeks. Initially I could not get 4 fingers in so we are makeing headway. I just seems the next step is larger than the ones to date.

Don't they teach sex ed in school these days?

I thought everybody knew the difference between the vagina and the cervix.

As for the "well it's big enough to fit a baby through" - a woman's body goes through changes during pregnancy, including the loosening of the vaginal muscles and widening of the pelvis due to hormones. This takes place over months, not in an evening.

You are thinking of the cervix. The vagina does not dilate. It is forced open as the baby comes out, and it usually tears.

Someone needs to make a sticky explaining this, I have heard more people talk about how "my dick/hand/dildo can't be too big, a baby fits through there!" than I ever wanted to hear.

The vagina does not dilate ... however it does expand. The tearing happens for some and not for others.

All I have to say is....


Ouchie.


Fingers are flat and a fist is really... round.

Ouchie.

Yeah, but some people have premature children, and this is possibly why.

Fisting has absolutely nothing to do with premature labor.

excellent idea, tape it too

Bloody hell. Surely - when a baby is born there are other processes assisting.

The way I understand it - womens ligaments loosen or something during pregnancy, allowing the bones which are attached and form the pelvis some additional flexibility. I'm probably wrong... but yeah, I'm sure that there's a bunch of mechanisms that kick in during birth (some of which are understood medically and some which are undiscovered).

After all, the body has months to prepare for it.

That's not to belittle your question. I just don't think that this would be comparable to birth.

: >

Excellent advice!

Hubby fists me quite often and I love it. First it started out with him wanting to watch me doing it to myself. That tought me muscle control. After a while, he started doing it.

I know its definately not for everyone, but I guess I'm a pain slut, and the orgasms he gives me are soooooo intense.

Because we're monogamous, I'll never know what dp is like, but I do come close by fisting myself as we have anal sex.

Mmmmm.

Solla

Well, we had some success. I got my hand in beyond all my knuckles and thumb but ran out of room to proceed deeper. Even with my fingers curled I seemed to be hitting the back wall. We found that using a vibrator helped her relax. As I got my hand to the widest part I had to rotate it to allow it to continue in. She liked it but does ot want to do it every time we have sex. Huge turn on for me.

I'm under the impression that vaginas can be different sizes. Mayhap your hands are too big for her vagina.

I have a couple of tips, but I can't honestly say that I've ever been successfully fisted. I intend on it sometime, but I gave up quite quickly before.

* Use thin latex gloves, practically soaked in lube.
* Make a "duck" with your hand. That's close to the shape you want to enter with.
* Draw your thumb into your fist, You're carressing her with the shape of your hand, not punching her insides.
* make sure her legs are in a good position. Something like how they put them up for a pap is good, but make sure she's still comfortable.
* Give it time. This will take a while.

Oops.........!

As for perennial massage, it's not yoga instructors per se... my wife's doctor (OB/GYN) recommended the same thing, as did our Lamaze instructor. Also, the girl at the tea and herb shop as well. I think it's a pretty common concept these days and should probably apply here as well, to some degree.

I have never clenched as much as i did reading this thread ..ouch!! :eek:

I have friends who have spoken of their fisting experiences and a couple have found it easy yet one never succeeded, but personally i can't see the attraction, and as for " a baby fits so why not a fist?" i keep thinking ... my last child = 12 stitches and dislocated hips !!! :( :confused:

All i can say is...ouch

I have never tried it but I have huge hands and very much doubt I could do it with any but the loosest of women. Some times, physiology just doesn't permit and that might be your problem.

How does one start THAT conversation with your Lamaze instructor? :hmm:

Or all of thoseotr people for that matter? :confused: