Promise rings
 

What do you think of the idea of a promise ring? Is it a stupid, rediculous idea, or a loving gesture of commitment?

It seems very junior high-ish.

i think they're cute, personally, but it doesnt matter what WE think, it matters what you and her think. :P

My girlfriend and I are at colleges which are extremely far apart, and before we left for college, we exchanged "promise rings." I know for me at least, it serves as a constant reminder of her, and has a little extra meaning for me than if it were just a ring. Promise rings can be rediculous when they're exchanged between people who don't mean it or who just recently started dating, but they can also be very meaningful tokens of affection.

You wanted the truth, right? Okay.....

I think that any ring signifying a promise to make another promise to make yet another vow is incredibly ridiculous.

There's no reason why you should go out and buy a ring to show that you plan to buy two more rings later on. Do something truly nice for this person instead. Take whatever money you were willing to spend on that promise ring and give her an evening she'll remember far more fondly.

But that's just my opinion....I could be wrong.

I think it depends on why you are giving it to her. If it is because you are trying to delay buying the real thing, then it sounds failrly lame. However, I like what somebody said else said about buying one while their sig. other was far away. Since you can't show each other your commitment everyday, then the ring is a good symbol.

i think promise rings are fucking waste....my neighbor, who is 19, is dating the girl down the street, who is 16, and they both wear em. i think they are stupid as fuck. whats the sense in getting a promise ring? its like commiting yourself to a lesser form of marraige. i really dont see the point in them especially in younger couples. they always say "we'll be together forever" what a crock of shit. once the fork in the road comes one of you is going to have to make a decision on whether or not to stay together. just my $0.02. sorry for the rant

I think they are silly. If you both want to pledge to stay together forever, then get married, or engaged, which is a promise to get married.

a little of both, so i won't vote.

If ya don't call them promise rings, they work for me. My fiancee got me a ring while she was at another school.
I can see the point to them because we only spent twenty bucks on the two of them. Good engagement rings are $100+. So price wise, they're better. Oh well though, it's a matter of opinion.

I think there stupid, personally.

Promise rings are one of those things that have just popped up lately. They remind me of Secretary's Day, and Grandparents Day: that is, they were created in order to further commercialism, in this case, sell rings. If a representation of commitment is important to someone, then that's cool by me, but personally, I don't choose to buy in.

I think its complete bull, but my mom was one of those religious people. Well, she got one for my sister, and 2 days later it broke. My mom thought it was some type of sign, and accused her of being a whore. Funny part is, my sister is an innocent girl. The idea of a promise ring is just a cheap knockoff of a wedding ring.

Thanks for all the tips everyone. I think I will invest my money in something else.

FYI, we are a young couple, both 18, almost 19.

Promise Rings: dumbest idea ever. You don't need a frigging ring to promise you will get engaged later. Just get engaged, or don't worry about it. simple as that.

I have a nice sized box of rings from random girls... :D

Screw 'em.

Yet again it depends on your personality, if you both treasure these items then it will come to great effect, however if you use it as a way of getting into her pants then surely not.

Nope, not for me. It's like passing a note in gym class.

Except a lot more expensive :)

to me a peice of metal isnt gonna make a difference if the other person isnt a faithful person. ive been there done that and to me its just a little silly... but thats just IMHO.

Eh, it kind of strikes me as a junior year of high school type gesture, but if you really mean something with it, it could be a good thing.

"Broken Promise Ring" by the Ataris is good, though.

yeah, i wouldnt buy a ring for a girl and call it a promiose ring. but i have bought rings for girlfriends after i had dated them for a while and started to really like them.....as a show of affetion and appreciation for them being who they are...etc etc.

I don't like the idea of marking a person as your personal property or territory. I don't like the idea of jewelry (promise, engagement, wedding, necklace, whatever), visible hickeys, lipstick marks, PDA, etc. If you can't trust your S.O. to take responsibility in making it known when necessary that s/he's taken, then why are you dating her/him?

I think these are as tasteless as visible thongs.

I guess it all depends on what you are promising.

Well, that wouldn't be the intent. She already wears some rings, but this would be from me, and have a special meaning, just to her.

They already have something like that, its call an engagement ring!

buy her some OTHER personal jewelry esp. since you mentioned that she's got other rings on... buy her a locket put your picture in it. buy her an id bracelet inscribe your name and some words on it....

but stay away from a promise ring...

I'm miffed that I couldn't pick both options.

I think that anything you do to show your commitment to another person is sweet. I also have given a promise ring, been engaged, and been married, and I don't believe in any of them now. ;)

The best advice: don't hesitate to jump in when you're unsure, but ALWAYS BE SURE before you find that you can't jump back out! ;)

I have NEVER heard of a good instance with someone giving a promise ring.

STUPID idea, in my opinion.

Get your name tattoo'd on her ass.

i think its stupid. what the fuck does it promise, anyway? its a waste of money. just screw and forgo the ring :) thats better anyway

Cant afford engagement ring right now. college life. I like the promice rings we have because because it shows we're almost ready for the commitment of marriage without perposing it yet. when its affordable and viable to get married, we'll move onto engagement. But the $20 ring showing that we're almost to that stage is meaningful and special to me and her. I see alot of negativity towards it...sure, it can be immature, but anything can be immature to its use. If you really have meaning, emotion, and love behind the gesture then I say do it. I just cant afford a engagment ring so this is a good placeholder. (im working on it, jobs are hard to come by)

so overall, engagment has a hefty pricetag. I heard some comments like "why promice engagment when you can just skip that and get engaged" or stuff of the sort...just remember, there's a price to that...and you cant just go "Here, I want to marry you." and hand her a $50 engagement ring. It HAS to be special. just my .02

I myself have a promise ring. I got it for Christmas a couple years ago and it is a beautiful token of love. I'll move it to my other hand when I get engaged. It's just kind of like a prequel... in myopinion.

BINGO.

I've really only heard of them on TV and stuff. I don't think I'd ever give my girl a ring unless I'm proposing. It makes it more special.

If your relationship needs a promise ring to survive, it isn't a strong enough relationship imho. When it is right to get engaged you will know it. I completely loved my wife when we were dating, but I moved away from college to start work for another company. We had talked marriage, but it wasn't until I couldn't see her every day that I realized I couldn't live without her. That's when we bought the engagement ring.

Relationships aren't gonna be airtight with rings..that's for plumbing ;)

It realy depends on what you both want...if you like it and makes you absent heart fonder go fo it. I wouldn't waste $ on it personally but I'm not you.

I actually kind of take pride when I'm wearing a hickey or other similar badge, and when I'm married to her, I'll feel even more proud to wear the ring. I'm not ashamed of loving her, I'm proud to have her and happy to display it. Call it ownership if you like, but I personally like being considered "someone's".

Like when a guy or girl gets married and has that ring on, some other person- maybe a random, total stranger- will look and say, "they're special to someone. They're someone's special love." and that's a very cool thing.

As for the ring itself, I think it's nice as a gesture only (not used to get a bad relationship back off the ground), definitely more of a "younger" thing, and it's power is derived from the person it's given to.

That reminds me, sometime when we get some more cash, I gotta see if Jinya can put some semi-meaningless jewelry on my fingers! I like jewelry. :D

I dont see any problem with promise rings. My girlfriend and I exchanged them before I left for college. Its a constant reminder of her being there, waiting for me to come home when I can.