REDL|NE

I am 18 going out with a 21 year old, she has never had sex, but told me that she wants me to be her first. I have had sex before. I want her first time to be very special, i want her to remeber it for the rest of her life. My birthday is in a few days, and i think this will be it. Any tips/pointers to making a memorable evening?

Thanks

Averett

Take it slow
Use a condom (duh)
Having some candles lit is always a nice touch
Lots of foreplay
Lots of cuddling after

And have fun!!!

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Lebell

All the above, plus lots of holding and touching.

Don't be afraid to take your time and explore each other's bodies.

Don't expect to last too long, even with a condom.


Best of luck!

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skysooner

I have done this twice. One time went fine and one time was kind of a disaster. The above advice is good. Take your time, don't let her rush you into it (she may just want to get it over), lots of foreplay and then slow entry.

bender

be as romantic as you can, and upon getting down to bus. so to speak hit her with a cream pie, ( thats not some sort of sick med., I mean something like a Boston cream pie ) and I assure you that she she'll never forget.

Averett

That would be memorable, bender!

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Thraeryn

The best times, be they first or four hundredth, are the times when you can take all the time in the world and let things happen.

. . . have lube on hand for extended sessions.

Slims

Just make sure you go super slow until she relaxes and gets loosened up a bit. If it hurts her or if she bleeds, you are going to fast.

have fun.

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REDL|NE

Thanks for all the replies guys. Lasting is not a problem with me for some reason, so i dont have to worry about that. Im just looking forward to giving her a good time

yournamehere

Make it all about her.

You'll get your turn(s) later.

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sexymama

All of the above is great advice. Keep in mind that for woman sex can be much more about emotions. If you love her, let her know frequently during your time together. Talk to her -- let her know what about her response to you is a turn on. Listen too -- let her tell you what feels good and what doesn't (with words, moans, and facial expressions.) Most of all, relax yourself, and have fun!

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soxsfans

cuddle, spoon, be attentive to her....

yoshi

Definitely, make her feel special

legolas

If you really like her let her know it and use it during intercourse. As everyone else said, use a condom and just be gentle and slow.

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toasty

First time can hurt a lot for a girl obviously.. I'd let her be in control (her on top) for the initial penetration. That way she can take her time, and she'll be comfortable. If you're causing her pain and she has no control, it'll just make things worse.

wry1

My second girlfriend was a late-starter. Her first sexual experience had been horrible for her and she just wasn't interested in that aspect of a relationship (thanks a lot, asshole...whoever you are). It took time, and an afternoon devoted entirely to her pleasure to change her mind on that subject...and then there was no stopping her!

You wanted advice, so here's mine: make her feel as good as possible as many times as possible and you'll never regret it.

I just talked to the girl I mentioned above a few months ago, and she confessed that she still compares her current boyfriends to me in that regard....and no, they still don't measure up.

Thagrastay

Tongue and finger tips. Use them both. A lot. Tell her how you feel about her. Tell her how pretty she is. Compliment everything you can about her. Be gentle. Be strong, be warm and caring. Help her to relax. She is giving you something that rightfully belongs to her future husband. Be worthy of that.

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B21

Well what helped me was to do alot of oral(keep in mind this was weeks before her first time) then she just warmed up a bit and wanted me to just ya know put it in.

quantumburnz

I don't know how much more I can add, but be gentle and make sure she's comfortable.

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lived2play

I may already be late - but whatever happened dude? Did you 2 do it?

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analog

LOTS of-

Time.
Love. (if the romantic kind)
Attention.
Candles. (if the romantic kind)
Compliments on beauty.


And assuming you guys have been tapping third base pretty hard (licking, fingering) then start out with that so she's already in a comfortable place.. you've done that before, now you're just ADDING to it, and expanding on it. Best of luck!

But don't start with her on top. She's not familiar with the motions and will not know what to do with herself even when she's fully penetrated. Just lay her down and go slow and make it VERY clear you mean to go slow and heed her directions for speed, depth, etc., and she'll appreciate it much more.

Boardslut

Invest some time in taking care of personal hygene, mostly just little things. Brush your teeth, clip your finger 'n toenails, take a shower, stuff like that.
And maybe most important of all, shave your beard (if you have one). Woman's skin is very sensitive and I've been told it doesn't just 'tickles', but that it's really annoying

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albatross

stuff it in her ass, then stick it in her face!

just kidding! Be romantic, and make her as comfortable as possible.

Crazy/Beautiful

BE GENTLE! Don't get too excited and start going fast! My first memory of sex was Ouch! Ouch! Ouch!

bermuDa

lots of foreplay and kisses all over her body.

get her reeeeally worked up first. she'll be more relaxed and um, receptable

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omega2K4

-Create A Romantic Atmosphere

-Lots O' Foreplay

-Run Your Fingertips (Lightly, or use a feather) Down Her Chest, Around Her Neck, Pretty Much Everywhere.

-Keep Telling Her Positive Compliments About Herself

-Lots O' Kisses

-Clean Yourself Up Really Good

-Focus On Her, Not Yourself.

-Use A Condom (You might need lube, but she might think you're a sex fiend with that laying around.)

-Hold/Cuddle/Spoon with her afterwards.

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