Aahha, Sex 101.
 

I just got myself a new girlfriend, things will happen, and i need to know how to do it right.

I know it sounds stupid, but i'm just a younger and i want to be known as good.

Ahah, can anyone help me with hints or tips or websites fingering/eating out/and having sex. All of the good things

This will be greatly appreciated. I hope to soon be able to participate in some of these threads.

The only tip you'll ever need: talk to her! As long as she knows what she likes, she can tell you what works and what doesn't. Very simple.

Let her teach you, stupid. You're only inexperienced once. Savor the joy of being taught how to do stuff.

Kids these days.

1. Communicate with her.
2. Search for what you're interested in reading about (fingering, eating out (cunnilingus), sex, g-spot, etc.) by clicking "Search" in the upper righthand corner of this window.

Just don't plan it!
Don't do it by the book. Respect her, enjoy yourself and let her enjoy herself. Be a good guy about it. She probably thinks you're cute if you mess something up slightly.
Don't worry everybody is inexperienced once. If you approach it right (if you really care for her, take it easy, don't worry) you'll have a good time, and remember it fondly....

If she is understanding AND experienced..you are GOLD man! Make sure she knows that she is your first and you haven't gone very far...also make it a point that you want to learn. Ask her what she likes..ask her to try it out on her..and then get critiqued. You will pick up some basic knowledge out of this, just remember if you go onto the next girl you will be doing this again..you just get up to snuff quicker.

The important things are condoms, communication, and lube(the most basic and fun sex item out there). That is also the order you should be doing this in.

Re: Aahha, Sex 101.
 

This section of the TF is full of that stuff. Do a search, like motdakasha suggested, to find the goodies. After all, that's what the search feature is there for :cool:.

Hey looketh! You're participating! :)

Find "The Book"

It's apparently hidden under a bookcase in your highschool.

Remember to have it handy while performing the Texas Tongue Tornado!

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"Find "The Book"

It's apparently hidden under a bookcase in your highschool"


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ask here what she likes, but not all the time. Broads like it when your in charge also.

I little known foreplay technique that works amazingly well is the insertion of your penis into her ear canal. It is a bit taboo, so don't ask her if she wants to do it first, just sneak up on her when she's not expecting it.

Communication is key on both sides. She needs to ask you just as much as you need to ask her. If she does have more experience, she will have at least some idea, but all guys are different in their likes and dislikes. If you do memorize some moves, you will likely be doing everything mechanically (i.e. by the book) rather than just enjoying the experience. When I was 15, I hadn't really French-kissed a girl yet. When a girl I liked found that out, she asked her best friend to teach me how to kiss since she was new to it as well. That friend is still imprinted on my brain, because she was so good at it. Yes, it was slightly clinical as she was telling me what to do and what not to do, but it was still very sexy.

My advice to you is to slow down. Despite what you are feeling (you will probably want to just grind away as fast as possible), try to take your time and see what she likes. You already know how to get yourself off (I assume this is true) so now is the time to figure out how to get her off. Trust me, getting her off is as much or more enjoyable than getting off yourself. In fact, you may want to watch that movie "something about mary" and follow the advice by masturbating just before the big event so you don't drop your load right away.

If she is experienced and your not, then you have no problem, she will gladly show you everything you need. If your both kind of new to the whole thing then I would suggest looking thru the older threads. This comes up a lot already.

as great as communication is there is a lot to be said for doing research. She may not be able to articulate exactly what she wants, and their are bound to be things that neither of you know about or would have thought of out here on the net. Your definitely pointed in the right direction.

One good resource is http://www.sexuality.org/

For everyone who says that good communication is all you need, I present the case of me and my first girlfriend. Neither of us knew what we were doing, and despite decent communication she gave really lousy head. I had no idea how one went about giving good head, so even though I could say "feels good/ feels bad" it wasn't that much of a help. About two hours online reading some tips and tricks solved the whole problem.

three morels to the story: 1) Internet research is good 2) communication is necessary, but not sufficient. 3) you may find it to be a good idea to learn the theory of how to give a good blow-job even if you don't plan on giving any.

im going to have to say relax... the only problem now is if she is really inexperieced she actaully wont know what she wants, so you should find out soon and be prepared to teach oneanother

Being experienced doesn't translate into being a good teacher! I know this from personal experience.

You say you're young and want to be known as good. How old are you? Are you in high school and want rumors going around about your amazing performance? If it's your first time, it's a lot easier to be in college and be able to kick out the roommate than it is to be lying on your bed and not paying attention because you're trying to listen for your parents' arrival. So to give you good advice, I'd need to know more about your situation. For generic advice, I'd just say to keep it slow and make sure you're both comfortable with what you're doing.

and don't forget condoms

Ummm....that may cause you to be smacked. Hard.

1. Go slow.
2. Be generous....give more than you think you are getting.
3. Don't tell.

Quoted because its the complete truth! :D

I hate to burst the bubble, but... a *lot* of women don't know what they like. Some have never liked it, i.e. never masturbated or did and it wasn't all that good and haven't been with a guy or gal who is any good at sex.

Even women who have had good sex are not necessarily able to tell you how to do it. It's difficult to show a man how to touch a woman. I can put my fingers in a particular place and show him but the places are *so* small, it's hard to see.

Beyond that, it's difficult to give advice to a guy when he's in the middle of doing something. After a while, my husband realized that when I said "higher", it didn't mean "higher". If he moves higher, I don't experience it as being higher. He tried learning how to translate my verbal directions into "real directions" and it didn't work.

Eventually, I learned to just tell him what I *did* like and let him figure out what works and what doesn't.

Even my experiences of going down on women don't help me to describe what a guy should do with me. Women are different. What works on other women sometimes doesn't work on me.

Advice: focus more on the emotional content than the physical. Get her to relax. Talk, listen and listen some more. Be gently and try stuff. Just be aware that some things she says can't be taken literally. (The exception: "no", "stop", "quit it" etc. Those you may take *very* litterally).

Good points.

There is really no substitute for experience with the one woman. Thankfully, my g/f knows what she likes and does a pretty good job communicating that to me.

Now, after being together for almost seven months, I know what works and what doesn't. Of course, we are always open to new things. :)

Do what comes naturally - then force yourself to slow down by about 50%.

Enjoy the learning process!

USE PROTECTION!!!

Masterfully spoken. I concur completely.

<b>AND ALWAYS USE PROTECTION.</b>

yeah pretty much agree with everyone here, talk to her