Shinryu

1. Keeping in touch with an ex isn't wrong. As long as there isn't anything more than friendship there, it's cool. Also, don't consider sending nude photos to be more than friendship; he was only trying to help her out.

2. His wife found out by accident, yes, but in all truth, it's not her business. One can't be expected to share every single minute detail about their life and that which goes on in it with their spouse. Some things don't warrant sharing, and others just don't matter at all.

3. You have no reason to be astounded. The guy only wanted an opinion, not a poorly spaced bit of garble that was more preaching than anything. He did what he thought was right, his wife disagreed. Big whoop. They'll get over it or they'll get divorced. That's all that's left to do, no? She needs to settle down and he needs to carefully plan his actions so as to not piss off the wife. Which is pretty damned sad.

4. She needs to keep her nose out of his e-mail. That's a total breach of trust, and I'd never let that go. If you can't trust the person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with, then find someone you *can* trust.

5. Mr Mephisto, please stop putting your name at the end of every post. We know who posted what by looking to the very left of the post. Ok? Thx.

aestivalis

in a sense... you are her "property"...

the fact that it was to your ex you gave those pics makes it even bigger...

a bigger problem, I mean...


better discuss what to do next time about stuff like this then... just to be clear

collide

Do you give your wife as much attention as you do to your Ex? She may be jealous or afraid that she might lose you if you don't show her as much attention and acknowledgment. What would you think of your wife if the roles where reversed, and she were to send nude pictures to her Ex? Wouldn't you have the same worries and concerns?

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soxsfans

If you were my SO, I would not be happy in the least. We would be having big time trust issues right now.

motdakasha

I really don't think that asking outside opinions from complete strangers is at all helpful since every relationship is different. What's wrong in one relationship may be okay in another relationship.

But since you specifically asked for opinions, here's what I have to say:
I think that sending pictures for the sake of art is completely acceptable, but maybe that's because I dabble in art. I would feel much more comfortable asking someone who I've known for years than some random stranger from off the internet who is probably sending you pics in hopes of getting some in return. By asking someone you're close to and feel you can trust, you don't have to worry about sleazeballs harassing you for nekkid pics. There is also the fact that maybe she had a certain body type in mind and you happened to resemble it. Asking you to model would be so much easier than searching through a bunch of pictures or talking to a bunch of people online to find a similar enough body to match what she was imagining.

But she also could've been using it as an excuse to get pictures of you, though for some reason, I doubt that.

I think that you should have asked your wife if she was okay with it first or at least told her after the fact. By not telling her, you created a sense of distrust or curiousity, which is probably what inspired her to check your email.

I think that your wife looking through your email, invading your privacy, was uncalled for. She should have just confronted you about it.

You should talk these things through with her. Tell her your feelings and ask about hers. From an outside perspective, I can see lack of communication on both your parts. You should probably talk to her about this and open up the communication to avoid any further drama.

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yournamehere

<b>Do you consider this a screw up? </b>

Mmm . . . .Yep.

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