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Itchquake · 08-05-2003, 09:42 PM

I am curious about guy’s perspective on this situation:
My boyfriend often asks females he chats with on the Internet for sex or blowjobs. He says it in a way that might be taken as a joke and not threatening. I asked another male friend if he has ever asked females he chats with for sex or blow jobs and he said “no, never. A guy who would ask that actually wants sexual acts from the girl but says it in a joking matter so that if she refuses he can just say ha ha I’m joking.” I told my boyfriend that I didn’t think those “jokes” were funny, but he still is asking girls for sex acts. I was just curious if this is just something guys do to be funny, or if they are really trying to see what they can get.

slimshaydee · 08-05-2003, 09:48 PM

its a combination of both, they are trying to get an idea of who would sleep with them, but it can be done as a joke to make the conversation more interesting

Itchquake · 08-05-2003, 09:50 PM

thanks, never thought of it that way. I probably should just lighten up and stop worrying about it.

MacGnG · 08-05-2003, 09:59 PM

i'd b concered he's chattin with random chicks on the internet tryin to cyber with them but thats just my opinion.

classique75 · 08-05-2003, 10:04 PM

He sounds shady or at the least inconsiderate to you...

xxmsaxx · 08-05-2003, 10:08 PM

I joke like that with some of my chic friends online, and they joke back. But I would never do anything with them w/o my wife that is

classique75 · 08-05-2003, 10:29 PM

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Originally posted by xxmsaxx
I joke like that with some of my chic friends online, and they joke back. But I would never do anything with them w/o my wife that is

Yeah, I joke around with my female friends, but not with strangers on the net.

saucy knave · 08-05-2003, 10:31 PM

I joke like that with girls in real life...it's just funny to get a rise out of somebody. Hell, I joke like that with my guy friends now and then, just to fuck with 'em. It hardly ever works though...they mostly just laugh and play along 'til it gets gross.

As for your boyfriend, I have no idea what's going on in his head. I just know that I personally don't joke like that with any kind of 'agenda.'

mule12 · 08-05-2003, 10:39 PM

sounds like flirting to me, unless your boyfriend jokes that way even to women he'd be unattracted to (ugly)

kilty · 08-05-2003, 11:30 PM

Suck him off will he is chatting online. see if he still wants to joke then.

rodgerd · 08-06-2003, 12:01 AM

Has he got any cute friends? Start offering to go down on them. Then tell him, "Hey, honey, I'm just kidding!"

See if he still finds it hil-ar-ious.

Vyk · 08-06-2003, 06:06 AM

rodgerd, nice way to turn the tables. Doubt it'll win friends and influence people though hehe

Pellaz · 08-06-2003, 08:56 AM

In the words of dan savage DTMFA (dump the mother fucker already) He's doing something sexual towwards others, you don't like it, you tell him, and he keeps doing it. It doesn't matter if he really is convinced that he's just joking, now that you've discussed it, he can't claim ignorance, and you set the bar on what's ok for your partner to do and not do. It doesn't have to be rational, normal, or have any reason.

08-05-2003, 09:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
Itchquake Upright Location: Iowa	Question on joking about sex I am curious about guy’s perspective on this situation: My boyfriend often asks females he chats with on the Internet for sex or blowjobs. He says it in a way that might be taken as a joke and not threatening. I asked another male friend if he has ever asked females he chats with for sex or blow jobs and he said “no, never. A guy who would ask that actually wants sexual acts from the girl but says it in a joking matter so that if she refuses he can just say ha ha I’m joking.” I told my boyfriend that I didn’t think those “jokes” were funny, but he still is asking girls for sex acts. I was just curious if this is just something guys do to be funny, or if they are really trying to see what they can get. __________________ RENT THIS SPACE!!! now only $5

08-05-2003, 09:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
Itchquake Upright Location: Iowa	thanks, never thought of it that way. I probably should just lighten up and stop worrying about it. __________________ RENT THIS SPACE!!! now only $5

08-05-2003, 10:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
xxmsaxx Tilted Location: Home of the First Clone	I joke like that with some of my chic friends online, and they joke back. But I would never do anything with them w/o my wife that is __________________ .................. /..../\../\....\ \|.S.\|..V..\|.A.\| \....\..../..../ .................. Work for pay and pay for freedom

08-06-2003, 06:06 AM	#12 (permalink)
Vyk Insane Location: Dayton, Ohio	rodgerd, nice way to turn the tables. Doubt it'll win friends and influence people though hehe __________________ "Courage of the heart is very rare"

08-06-2003, 08:56 AM	#13 (permalink)
Pellaz Addict Location: Texas	In the words of dan savage DTMFA (dump the mother fucker already) He's doing something sexual towwards others, you don't like it, you tell him, and he keeps doing it. It doesn't matter if he really is convinced that he's just joking, now that you've discussed it, he can't claim ignorance, and you set the bar on what's ok for your partner to do and not do. It doesn't have to be rational, normal, or have any reason. __________________ " ' Big Mouth. Remember it took three of you to kill me. A god, a boy, and, last and least, a hero.' "

08-05-2003, 09:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	its a combination of both, they are trying to get an idea of who would sleep with them, but it can be done as a joke to make the conversation more interesting

08-05-2003, 09:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
MacGnG Know Where!	i'd b concered he's chattin with random chicks on the internet tryin to cyber with them but thats just my opinion.

08-05-2003, 10:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
classique75 Psycho	He sounds shady or at the least inconsiderate to you...

08-05-2003, 10:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
saucy knave Tilted Location: West Siiide	I joke like that with girls in real life...it's just funny to get a rise out of somebody. Hell, I joke like that with my guy friends now and then, just to fuck with 'em. It hardly ever works though...they mostly just laugh and play along 'til it gets gross. As for your boyfriend, I have no idea what's going on in his head. I just know that I personally don't joke like that with any kind of 'agenda.'

08-05-2003, 10:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
mule12 Crazy	sounds like flirting to me, unless your boyfriend jokes that way even to women he'd be unattracted to (ugly)

08-05-2003, 11:30 PM	#10 (permalink)
kilty Tilted	Suck him off will he is chatting online. see if he still wants to joke then.

08-06-2003, 12:01 AM	#11 (permalink)
rodgerd Psycho Location: Wellington, New Zealand	Has he got any cute friends? Start offering to go down on them. Then tell him, "Hey, honey, I'm just kidding!" See if he still finds it hil-ar-ious.