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Originally Posted by Grondar

I am not religious, but I do want to hold off on sex until I get invovled in a serious, long-term relationship.

I think sex is a special thing, and I do want to save it for the right person.. As corney as that may sound.

I did just that. I lost my virginity to my first love. Now we're good friends, he's a great guy and I dont regret it, even though I promised myself I'd wait until marriage (not for religious reasons).

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Originally Posted by Grondar

agreed, i didnt wait till marrage but i did wait till i was sure that i truly loved the man i was with and was sure he loved me back. i also waited untill i was sure that it was about far more then sex. i dont think sex has to just be some like quick pleasure fix, it can feel extremly good but i doubt it would feel as good if i didt love and trust the person totally. theres something about sex that makes you feel so vounerable .. if your having sex just for sex and with someoe you dont know and trust totally then you have to sort or put up emotional barriers...personally half of what i love about sex is feeling totally connected with the person..it was really special and meant something...

if you love someone and just love being around them then why is sex so important? and what about oral sex? i mean does that count?

Thanks for what you guys have said. She is planning on talking to her pastor, however, I don't know if she feels really comfortable around the one that she has (she goes to a big church, and doesn't really know him well) As for the dating thing, I only date girls that I can see myself with for a long time. I don't date for physical pleasure only.

If you don't have sex before you're married, then how do you know if you're sexually compatible or not? For me sex is an incredibly intimate act, a way to be intimate with your partner, a way to communicate and be close with them emotionally and physically. A whole lifetime with someone you don't mesh with sexually? How terribly depressing.

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Originally Posted by Lockjaw

If they are happy is that really a bad thing?
I mean look at it like this. Some kid living in a slum in Brazil lives their entire life in those slums but are as happy as can be. Now some other kid travels the world and lives in the best and worst situations ever...they then get stuck in a mediocre location and now unhappy because they've lived in the best place in the world. Who would you say was better off? The happy ignorant person or the experienced miserable person?

The happy ignorant person.

Their is nothing wrong, as long as the marriage works, but I bet most marriages like that end up getting screwed up in the long run, and they form all these disfunctional families out there when the parents just tolerate each other because they have kids and their religion tells them they will go to Hell if they divorce.