Why are girls raised without their dads more sexually active?
 

Read and give opinions. I'd especially like to hear from the momz on the boards, or girls who were raised without their dads. This article does not venture possible reasons why. I'd like us to discuss it.....

this is nonsense...all girls are sluts. period.

well not are all sluts...but not all are not either....that is the only truth

Vaultboy: Wait until you have a daughter and then give me a call.

48yrs old w/ 16 year old
She's my proof that God has a sense of humor
I might not remember what I had for breakfast but I certainly remember what I was like when I was 16

I'd like to see a lot more about the study before I comment, but have they accounted for other factors like socio-economic status, parental behavior, abuse, drug/alcohol use (both the girl's and the parents'), etc.

I guess what I'm saying is: is it the absence of the father that causes this, or some other factor related to the father's absence (either that caused his absence or caused by his absence) that leads to more sexual activity?

And bigoldalphamale, if you're not joking then I'm a bit offended by your statement. No, a lot offended.

Maybe it is because girls without fathers don't have anyone around to threaten and intimidate possible suitors.

My personal take is, girls without fathers turn to the boys around them to fill the "man" void in their lives. They're looking for a father figure in the male critters they're surrounded with. But the relationship they get with boys around them isn't <i>exactly</i> parent-child....

Ah, dimestore psychology! I love it so!

And so are all boys, too. I've realized something recently that really made a lot of sense... "Everyone is a slut, just to different degrees."

My friends say I'm Socrates now because of that. :p

I honestly believe it.

I think fathers preach to there daughters about love and sort of set the standard for what they want in a man, and its kind of the same with moms and there sons.

I don't think this is true. I would rather think that in some cases the mother is not willing or able to make up for the role played by the father and that is what causes it.

I dont think a mother is capable of filling the role of a father, and vice versa.

They can try, and do rather well. But its nothing close to a real father/mother

lurkette, i did not mean to offend. as a mature and educated man, i know that my previous blanket statement was uncalled for. as such, i will adjust the statement to read:

this is nonsense. MOST girls are sluts. period.

I want to know if the level of the biological father's involvement in his daughter's life was looked at. Does anyone know? I want to believe that if the parents maintained a positive relationship for the sake of the children and if the father maintained a good relationship with the daughter, then the daughter would not have a need to find "male love" through early sexual exploration.

Actually, women have a genetic need for male attention (there are some exempt) in their life, and if they aren't getting it from their fathers, they are more likely to look elsewhere.

Men use intamacy to get sex, women use sex to get intamacy. Vicous cycle.

quot: _____________________________________________________________Originally posted by ratbstid
My personal take is, girls without fathers turn to the boys around them to fill the "man" void in their lives. They're looking for a father figure in the male critters they're surrounded with. But the relationship they get with boys around them isn't exactly parent child.... _____________________________________________________________

Yeah, totally agree...that, & girls also I think find it harder to find negative aspects in men, rather than just positive...I always remember my dad telling me no one would ever get w/me unless he's proven himself to me...& my man knows this :)

:p :p :p :p

my question is how may a man (for example, i am referring to me) use this information study to find women for intercourse?

there is usually no way to decipher the parentage of a young lady in the discotheque, so this is me scratching my head.

Im gonna have to agree with air45 on this one

Its a typical case of " Love me, daddy"

Hey, this is Nicole I'm on my friends name. I have first hand experiance with this. I grew up without my dad cause hes a truck driver. I can imagine why girls would be more sexually active, I personally am not. Still waiting to fall in love. But you turn to men to fill the gap like a couple people already said. U dont get the attention u need, your mother definatly cant be both no matter how hard she trys. You dont have a male teaching you how you should be treated by a man or what kind of man is good for you. I guess it could work both ways.... one of my sisters moved in w/ a MUCH older man right out of high school and is still w/ him. Maybe because of the fact that he would never leave her, she has that stability and love she needs. My other sister has had a nonstop boyfriend her whole life, I dont think shes ever been single. Me on the other hand, I stay away from it for the most part. When u have a father ( if u can call him that, more like sperm donor) that is gone all the time it definatly causes lots of issues, a lot w/ being able to trust a guy and get over your fear of them leaving you. At least w/ me. I had a ' surigate' father for about 4 years when I was younger.... I had never had that kind of attnetion from a man so I didnt really know that the attention I was getting wasnt really the right kind all of the time. The realtionship ending horribly.... I hope more guys out there step up to the plate because daughters really need you. Anyways thats just a few of my thoughts....

I would agree. My father was not completely absent. In fact my parents never even separated let alone divorced. He is still alive to day even. BUT he was a workaholic. He was always gone doing this job or that and wasn't often available for the time I felt I needed. He was never there emotionally for me. In fact I think I was the more emotionally stable one in my family. My Dad was always depressed (to the point of suicidal), My mom was constantly controlling, and my younger brother was so full of anger that he was arrested several times for assault and battery charges. I don't know which of those things were the deal maker/breaker for me but I did find that when I was a pre-teen I craved guy attention to the point of doing almost anything to gain it. I had sexually fantasies in late elementary school and masterbated even then. As an adult I feel that because of my father's parental absence I have sought male "leadership" anywhere even in the wrong places and wrong ways.

Having a father gave me a point of reference. In my teenage years, a boy had to be a good guy like my dad in order for me to think about getting close to him.

Not having had a step father, I don't know for sure what that affect would be. However, I would think that many girls with step fathers think of their natural father as their "real" father and he is the standard they use to measure boys.

This second part is mostly speculation.

Most of the girls that I've porked had fathers...

And if they didn't they called me daddy.

Here is my theory. Father's are very protective of their daughters. The fear that their father might find out they are having sex and do something to the guy in anger is something that keeps the girl from having sex early on. It is also because the father tends to scare guys away from his daughter. Step-fathers don't care as much about that because they are not as emotionally attached to the daughter so they do less of what natural fathers do.

Personally, I agree with most of what has been said about girls wanting to fill the void their father left. I also think the question lurkette raised about other factors being considered is very important. A little background about me.... I was basically raised without a father. My parents divorced when I was 5 or so. At that time my dad decided he had his own life to focus on for a while before his children could be incorporated into it. My brother and I lived with my mom and saw my dad maybe once a month and then it was for a day visit. It has only been in the last couple of years that I see my dad on a regular basis (I'm 18 now) and still yet a regular basis consists of every- other weekend. My mom dated my step father for 7 years before they got married 4 years ago, but they have never lived together and probably never will. I know, confusing. Anyway, to the point.. I didn't become sexually active at a young age (just this year). I give my mother credit for that because she was very open with us, not to mention the fact I always wanted to please her. I guess my imput into why a girl may do this is beacause she lacks the control in her own life and can get that from a relationship, especially in a relationship that involves sex. As far as the step-father issue, when you add the fact another person (someone who for a large part the girls don't have a choice in) is becoming part of their already unbalanced family.. there goes the last bit of routine and control they had. I don't really know... just an idea thrown into the mix.

Obligitory Innapropriate/unfunny statement:
*spank* whos your daddy?

It seems obvious to me:

These girls don't have a dad to scare the shit out of potential boyfriends.

I went out with a girl who's parents were divorced and she lived with her mom because her dad died when she was younger. And i can say right now that she is very adventurous[:-)]. After we broke up, she went to go live in another state with her stepmom who she gets a long with more.

I just ran into her the last couple of weeks, which is really weird because she had been gone for a year now and she's still the same blonde little girl* begging for attention.

*She's actually 2 years my senior, which puts her around 21 now.

I know for a fact i could have a lot of fun with her. But that just wouldn't be right... Damn morals and ethics

I think it's all based on how you are raised...I have a few friends who were raised without their dads and their not sluts because they know their mother loves them and knows how to raise them. My personal opinion is that girls are more sexually active when dad isn't wround because they are trying to use sex to get love from a male party. Isn't that a Freudian theory?

I totally agree that most girls that don't have fathers in there lives are more sexually active. I am one of those girls. I didn't have a father growing up and I ended up having a baby at the age of 16. I am not blaming that on not having a father. But I was looking for some kind of love from a male. I thought that if I had sex with these guys they would love me. Now I see the error in my ways but then I was a stupid teenager.

From the initial post it would appear there is no hope and nothing can make a difference without the "natural" dad. I refuse to believe this! Can some of you women that have grown up in this situation let me know what made or would have made a difference in your life to prevent or at least mitigate some of the damage. At present I am witnessing all of the negative stuff discussed here and in child development studies. To you who have been there; what would have made a difference in your life? Could someone other than your biological father have made that difference? What works, what doesn't? How do I deal with the overly and sometimes overtly physically aggressive behavior without hurting her or driving her away? Sometimes I think rather than allowing parents adopt kids the kids should adopt the parents. In some situations it might work better that way.