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seedtime · 07-18-2003, 11:18 AM

Hello all,

We had our first child and well we love him to death but we are hacing some problems getting our sex life back together. My son is 9 months old now.

To complicate the problem I have a problem with my inability to last. I really want to bring her to orgasm. She is willing to work on it and we have had quite a few goes at it always with the same result.

She also is hesitant to let me go down on her. So that option is not availble.

Do the lubes with the de-sensitizing creams work? Or is there any way to get past my problem. I know this has probably been brought up before but I am looking for help.

I used to wank quite a bit but since my son has been born that has all but stopped. I just do not have the time anymore.

I used to be able to bring her to orgasm every time. This is the only woman I have ever been with and love her to death. Is there anything I can do?

Trilidon · 07-18-2003, 11:27 AM

the desensitizing condoms they brought out a bit ago work wonders.

If you can keep your erection while using them omg ;P

seedtime · 07-18-2003, 11:28 AM

Not to go into details but she hates the idea of condoms.

Any other options? I know there was some desensitizing lube.

Trilidon · 07-18-2003, 11:32 AM

alot of anti depressants have the side effect of prolonging your orgasm. Could look into that, dont remember the most reccomended one though.

Daddymem · 07-19-2003, 06:42 AM

It took a while for me and the misses to get back in the saddle again. She probably had discharges and sensitivity issues down there for a bit afterwards. She may feel insecure about her body now if any baby fat remains. You should talk with her, hold her, love her, and tell her how sexy she is to you. Women go through various levels of post partem depression and with women, generally if it is not all 0kay in their heads, their bodies don't respond well either.

Good luck

zipper · 07-19-2003, 07:02 AM

Just remember that any desensitizing lube that you use, will have the same effect on her. SO, that said, there are LOTS of techniques to help you go longer. Search the net, use your resources. I do know that you can pull out and give you willy a gentle squeeze on the glans (just behind the head) to last longer. Just get to the "point of no return", give him a squeeze and go back to work!!

Good luck! Don't get frustrated! Keep plugging away!

oushi · 07-19-2003, 12:42 PM

You can always try doing kegel exercises to strengthen your pubbocoxygennus (PC) muscle. I don't know any sites off the top of my head, but you can google for some exercise routines. The PC muscle is the muscle that pumps when you're ejaculating, and if you're able to strengthen and control it through these exercises, you can voluntarily contract the muscle at the point of orgasm. This will cause you to orgasm without ejaculating. When that happens, you'll still get the feeling of euphoria but your penis will stay erect and you can just keep on going until she's gotten enough.

On top of extending your lasting ability, doing kegel exercises is supposed to reduce the risk of prostate cancer, so all the more reason to try.

07-18-2003, 11:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
seedtime Upright	Sex after prenancy Hello all, We had our first child and well we love him to death but we are hacing some problems getting our sex life back together. My son is 9 months old now. To complicate the problem I have a problem with my inability to last. I really want to bring her to orgasm. She is willing to work on it and we have had quite a few goes at it always with the same result. She also is hesitant to let me go down on her. So that option is not availble. Do the lubes with the de-sensitizing creams work? Or is there any way to get past my problem. I know this has probably been brought up before but I am looking for help. I used to wank quite a bit but since my son has been born that has all but stopped. I just do not have the time anymore. I used to be able to bring her to orgasm every time. This is the only woman I have ever been with and love her to death. Is there anything I can do? Last edited by seedtime; 07-18-2003 at 11:23 AM..

07-18-2003, 11:28 AM	#3 (permalink)
seedtime Upright	My wife hates condoms. Not to go into details but she hates the idea of condoms. Any other options? I know there was some desensitizing lube.

07-19-2003, 06:42 AM	#5 (permalink)
Daddymem Insane	It took a while for me and the misses to get back in the saddle again. She probably had discharges and sensitivity issues down there for a bit afterwards. She may feel insecure about her body now if any baby fat remains. You should talk with her, hold her, love her, and tell her how sexy she is to you. Women go through various levels of post partem depression and with women, generally if it is not all 0kay in their heads, their bodies don't respond well either. Good luck Last edited by Daddymem; 01-15-2006 at 08:41 AM..

07-19-2003, 07:02 AM	#6 (permalink)
zipper Crazy Location: Georgia, USA	Just remember that any desensitizing lube that you use, will have the same effect on her. SO, that said, there are LOTS of techniques to help you go longer. Search the net, use your resources. I do know that you can pull out and give you willy a gentle squeeze on the glans (just behind the head) to last longer. Just get to the "point of no return", give him a squeeze and go back to work!! Good luck! Don't get frustrated! Keep plugging away! __________________ "If you wait 'til the last minute, it will only take you a minute!" Visit my home page http://zhphotography.zenfolio.com/

07-18-2003, 11:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
Trilidon Tilted	the desensitizing condoms they brought out a bit ago work wonders. If you can keep your erection while using them omg ;P

07-18-2003, 11:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
Trilidon Tilted	alot of anti depressants have the side effect of prolonging your orgasm. Could look into that, dont remember the most reccomended one though.

07-19-2003, 12:42 PM	#7 (permalink)
oushi Upright	You can always try doing kegel exercises to strengthen your pubbocoxygennus (PC) muscle. I don't know any sites off the top of my head, but you can google for some exercise routines. The PC muscle is the muscle that pumps when you're ejaculating, and if you're able to strengthen and control it through these exercises, you can voluntarily contract the muscle at the point of orgasm. This will cause you to orgasm without ejaculating. When that happens, you'll still get the feeling of euphoria but your penis will stay erect and you can just keep on going until she's gotten enough. On top of extending your lasting ability, doing kegel exercises is supposed to reduce the risk of prostate cancer, so all the more reason to try.