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angela146 · 07-29-2003, 10:04 PM

Gentlemen, please tell me if any of the following would work:

Tease him. Be subtle. Start doing some things that will drive him nuts but don't tell him about it and don't make it a quid-pro-quo. (Do this stuff even if it doesn't work and even if he doesn't come on to you).

1. Wear a small amount of *good* perfume on your wrists and neck.
2. Show of whatever your best feature(s) is/are are around the house, i.e. wear button down blouses with plunging bras if you have nice breasts. Show some thigh if you got'em.
3. Touch him briefly every once in a while in a non-sexual way. Brush your hand along the side of his neck under his ear or lightly run a finger along the length of the back of his hand.
4. Masturbate where he can see or hear you, maybe right next to him in bed, maybe on the couch in the next room. Make noise and enjoy it. (OK, maybe that one isn't so subtle).
5. Be clean and ready for sex at all times. Wear sexy underwear so that he knows it's there even if he can't see it.
6. Hug him and tell him you love him (while wearing that good perfume).

Also, try initiating it in the morning. Get up before he does, shower, put on something sexy and get back in bed with him. Some men are hornier in the morning.

Or... try initiating it while he is asleep. Be careful, and slow so that he doesn't wake up at first. You want him to wake up only after he is horny and ready to go.

If, after a month or two, none of that works, get aggressive. Try kneeling in front of him, unzipping him and giving him head. Get undressed in front of him. When you're in bed, climb on top of him.

Remember: you're married. You don't have to be respectable when you're alone in your own home.

denim · 07-30-2003, 06:25 AM

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Originally posted by angela146
Or... try initiating it while he is asleep. Be careful, and slow so that he doesn't wake up at first. You want him to wake up only after he is horny and ready to go.

Be very careful with this one. You might want to ask his permission first.

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Remember: you're married. You don't have to be respectable when you're alone in your own home.

Very true.

And what was that about you wearing clothes at home?? What's with that?

yankeefatboy · 07-30-2003, 09:39 AM

Try different route: suggest watching "movies" together, shopping at "toy" stores together, or maybe masturbating while he watches. A lot of men don't do the counseling thing well. Good luck and keep us posted.

angela146 · 07-30-2003, 03:33 PM

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Originally posted by denim

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Or... try initiating it while he is asleep.

Be very careful with this one. You might want to ask his permission first.

True.

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And what was that about you wearing clothes at home?? What's with that?

The idea is to save the nudity for times when you're turning him on. If you're naked all the time, he gets used to it and stripping doesn't do much for him.

07-29-2003, 10:04 PM	#41 (permalink)
angela146 Loser Location: Somewhere near Hubby	Gentlemen, please tell me if any of the following would work: Tease him. Be subtle. Start doing some things that will drive him nuts but don't tell him about it and don't make it a quid-pro-quo. (Do this stuff even if it doesn't work and even if he doesn't come on to you). 1. Wear a small amount of good perfume on your wrists and neck. 2. Show of whatever your best feature(s) is/are are around the house, i.e. wear button down blouses with plunging bras if you have nice breasts. Show some thigh if you got'em. 3. Touch him briefly every once in a while in a non-sexual way. Brush your hand along the side of his neck under his ear or lightly run a finger along the length of the back of his hand. 4. Masturbate where he can see or hear you, maybe right next to him in bed, maybe on the couch in the next room. Make noise and enjoy it. (OK, maybe that one isn't so subtle). 5. Be clean and ready for sex at all times. Wear sexy underwear so that he knows it's there even if he can't see it. 6. Hug him and tell him you love him (while wearing that good perfume). Also, try initiating it in the morning. Get up before he does, shower, put on something sexy and get back in bed with him. Some men are hornier in the morning. Or... try initiating it while he is asleep. Be careful, and slow so that he doesn't wake up at first. You want him to wake up only after he is horny and ready to go. If, after a month or two, none of that works, get aggressive. Try kneeling in front of him, unzipping him and giving him head. Get undressed in front of him. When you're in bed, climb on top of him. Remember: you're married. You don't have to be respectable when you're alone in your own home. Last edited by angela146; 07-29-2003 at 10:11 PM..

07-30-2003, 09:39 AM	#43 (permalink)
yankeefatboy Addict Location: northern california	Try different route: suggest watching "movies" together, shopping at "toy" stores together, or maybe masturbating while he watches. A lot of men don't do the counseling thing well. Good luck and keep us posted.