soma

I had a conversation about sex with some of my mates and two of the four guys I was with said that they like to slap their girls while having sex. The surprising part is that they like slapping them in the face.

I was like:

They don't slap their girls hard or anything, just enough to let them know: "hey I'm the boss". These guys are good guys and are not abusive, I think this is just a little tool in their sexual toolbox.

What do you all think about this type of thing during sex? If you're a guy, have you done this before? If you're a girl, have you had this done to you before (if yes, what did you think of it)?

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mixedmedia

I've never had it done, and don't suppose I would like it much, but if it rocks both their worlds then it's alright.

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The_Jazz

That's my answer, only from a guy's perspective. Not for me, but if she digs it, then I'll give it a whirl.

It kind of depends on exactly how the slap is being delivered, but there's a 50/50 chance of it being ok.

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purplelirpa

My ass is okay, but the face doesn't sound like it would do anything for me. Maybe if I was drunk. I slap my own face when I'm drunk because I think it's funny when I can't feel it.

snowy

Not my bag. I think the issue here is one of consent: if their partners consent to being hit during sex, that's one thing. If it isn't consensual, that's another.

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wraithhibn

I've been with a couple of girls who wanted slapping and choking, I just wasn't into it. There's girls out there that want it.

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Tusko

done it
they were into it
one would ask for it so it just became regular part of the routine

Willravel

I tried it after seeing the first episode of Californication (I was the hittee, not the hitter). It was laugh-out-loud hilarious the first time, kinda amusing the second time, and distracting the third. If I want to spice up sex these days, I just double my foreplay and withhold.

genuinegirly

Not for me, no thanks.
It's an interesting survey, though. I'm kinda curious now, is slapping common? Hm.

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amonkie

My ass, no problem.

My face.. me personally that's just never OK, even if its play. But if it's agreed on aheadof time and mutual consent.. Its their bedroom not mine.

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Manic_Skafe

I've slapped women in the face during sex. They've all loved it aside from that one time I accidentally slapped a partner in the face and ear. What can I say, I have big hands.

I enjoy aggressive sex generally but will just as willingly be on the receiving end. I used to love it when an ex of mine would spit into my mouth.

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ZombieSquirrel

I don't mind it. It's never been that hard and I was able to "fight back." If I couldn't give it out too, I wouldn't be into it. I find more men are open to it when they find out I want to give it too. They don't want to be the only one hitting because they don't want to be seen as an abuser of women. I suppose I feel the same way because I never have offered such an activity to women.

I haven't done it a lot, but it's fun every once in awhile. Rugby girl likes pain.

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cadre

I have been on both sides of this. Overall, I'm not a huge fan but there are times when it's rather fitting. As everyone else has said, if everyone is a willing participant then I don't see a problem.

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Craven Morehead

Not for me. Was asked once to spank a partner. I did but it seemed to be nothing but a distraction. To me, there so much better things to concentrate on. But, that's just me.

soma

Wow, I'm surprised at how many people have done this.

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jewels

What she said. Pull my hair, slap my ass, rub your unshaven face on my cheek but do not slap my face, thank you.

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YaWhateva

Neither me nor my girlfriend had done this before we met each other but we both found out that we really enjoy it during sex. It has to be in the right time though when we are being particularly rough. I enjoy being slapped much more than slapping her but it has been surprisingly fun.

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Strange Famous

I wouldnt hit a woman even if she asked me to or got some kind of thrill out of it.

Obviously some people are into these sorts of things, and its not for me to judge them, but anyone who felt that being "roiughed up" was an important part of their sex life or something they needed to have wouldnt be the person for me.

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Daniel_

How about rubbing unshaven faces on your ass? ;-)

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Plan9

Hit her? No problemo. I'll pommel her in the cervix with my throbbing splattering ram (TM)!

And why hasn't Jinn posted in this thread yet?

Heh, sorry.

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I had a one-nighter with this one trashy white girl that wanted me to beat her like a pimp. Totally not into that kinda thing with a new partner. I have no idea how far to go and it's totally not kosher to actually hurt somebody. My exwife and I had some really rough sex once where things escalated pretty quickly to some type of bizarre coital mixed martial arts. We were both bruised and scratched and couldn't walk straight afterward. Good times.

It's funny, the longer you do martial arts, the harder it is to hit somebody without trying to be precise and do damage. Aside from the traditional spread-finger ass slap, there is no generic hit. She's like, "Hit me." I'm like, "What? Ridge hand?" Totally kills the mood. I'll stick to biting and scratching, thanks.

I've had a few partners that enjoy getting man handled, pushed down and spread, held down by their necks, etc. Not exactly hitting, though.

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SUPER IMPORTANT EDIT:

If I was a mod, I'd have to change the title of this thread to, "I'D HIT IT: A Guide to Dealing Delicious Damage during Sex.

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I'm surprised that you're surprised. You're Soma. And this is Tilted Forum Project.

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jewels

Um, sure. Anything the face can take is easily welcomed anywhere else.

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KellyC

No face slapping, but some times I'd slap her butt if I'm pounding her away from the behind.

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SecretMethod70

I'm curious, how many people got the idea of slapping her in the face from porn?

Anyway, it's not for me. Slapping the ass is fun and all, but I get a little uncomfortable with things that are too close to actual abuse.

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Tusko

i love slapping and being slapped
so there

Shadowex3

This. I don't think I'm even capable of it.

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Charlatan

I have been slapped and, in the right moment, it works. I don't like it all the time though. As for slapping a woman's face... I've never been asked to do it but I suppose I would give it a try if she was into that sort of thing.

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Shauk

I bite, I pull hair, I squeeze, I restrain, but that's just something I won't do of my own volition.

Calypso15

I actually just laughed out loud! I do the same thing! When I'm plastered I can't feel my face.

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My thoughts exactly! Did porn help to encourage this sexual aggression?

YaWhateva

I don't think so, at least in my case the slapping was my girlfriend's idea. I think we are both very aggressive sexually with each other because we are the complete opposite of that in every other aspect of our lives. I don't know though, but it's fun!

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curiousbear

Slapping - NO
Spanking - Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes!!!

Have I Slapped? Yes only once! That is out of frustration and anger (during sex). I regret about it. I never would do it again

Have I Spanked? Yes several times. I even believe that spanking, pinching cheeks or upper arms when she is around her orgasm is good. I kind of like doing it again and again. Later at times when I spank/pinch she could feel GOOD! I could be entirely wrong though...

Would I let her slap me? NO
Would I let her spank me? YES ANYTIME

However I have a strong desire to do BDSM on her... another fantasy in my head

jadangel

Pull my hair, smack my ass, bite me, and rough me up a little.... But never smack me in my face. That would kill the mood instantly. If getting slapped in the face does it for you then go for it.....