Tusko

tell me stories about them.

i'm a rather dominant male, all of my partners have been very submissive (and very good subs at that) and i enjoy being able to do whatever i want

however i find i watch alot of femdom/cfnm/handjob type porn and find myself frequently fantasizing about a very dominant, rough girl. i've had some girls... try... to take charge but they end up just being very bad at it.

i wonder about the frequency of good, dominant girls is? or at least girls who can play both parts (the sub and the dominatrix), that would be ideal. for as often as i like to take charge and be filthy, it would be nice for a girl to once in a while take charge and just be brutal.

thoughts? anecdotes? experiences?
submissive ladies, do you ever find yourself thining about such things? slapping a guy in the face? tying him up/putting your feet in his mouth/sitting on his face/giving him a brutal handjob/leading him around on all 4s with a cockleash?? etc etc?

Marshmellofluff

Most girls can learn, but you have to give them time. Real doms start out as subs first and that's how they learn. Every woman has that part in them. Speak up, let them know what you want, and give them time. They'll get it.

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Oh, and to add - I'm generally pretty submissive, but when I want to be dominating I'm more control-based than anything else. I tie him up so he can't move, deny his orgasm and refuse to kiss him until he asks me the right way, and a lot of the time I pull away from the kiss last minute, to tease him. Then, after all that I give him what he wants. So yeah, no cockrings or flogging, but there is that side to most women.

Tusko

it moved
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cadre

I'm not gonna lie Tusko, I'm very much disappointed that this thread hasn't taken off. I'm sure that speaks to how much this place has changed in the past few years.

I myself am a switch. And to comment on marshmello's post, I don't believe it's possible for everyone to be able to be both dominant and submissive. At least not if they're doing it right. I've met some people that would never have the confidence to be dominant, and I've met others that are horrible at giving up control.

I think that good dominant women are few and far between because society as a whole seems to continue to put women in a submissive role. Although that is slowly changing.

But to answer your question, I love a man who can take a good beating!

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Wyodiver33

I have no problems with a dominant woman. Whips and chains, not so much. But a guy asked out by a woman, I have no problem with that.

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tasineah

I am a Dominant. Obviously. I make a horrible submissive. I have tried to be submissive and while I can play one on tv, I cant be one in real. (joke, just a joke. I am in no way associated with TV).

I use to believe I needed a Dominant male, buying into the cultural crap that I needed a strong man to handle me. Hah. It never ended well, for me nor him. I emasculated him and I cracked. It wasnt until I owned my gift of natural Dominance that I finally evolved into my Self.

When I met CDWonderful, I felt the heavens open up and pennies fall from the skies. He is such a wonderful submissive male, but in a very cocksure way. There is no lack of what I need there in a man.

damn..I need to go..more later..

curiousbear

Personally I am submissive with submissive. Dominant when signs of dominant are seen. I know its terrible. Thats the truth & instinct part.
I do have fantasies about dominant female who would take lead on unbelievable sex...

Tusko

more plz

Lindy

I don't know about dominant, (which has a specialized meaning here) but I can be aggressive. Sometimes I like my guy to just lie there (or stand... or sit...) and let me do him.
I'm not much for just lying on my back, myself, which is what my Sig other was used too. But that's another thread. I like a lot of movement and changing positions. Breast play and oral mixed with vaginal. Doggie and cowgirl.
Vigorous, but I don't dig pain.
But, to each his/her own. I wouldn't dream of trying to tell others what to do or not do but... most of the dom/sub stuff, the props, the costumes, (like when I see it in porn) strikes me as being somewhere between boring and silly. Like Willravel said in another thread...I first experienced sex on my fifteenth birthday, so I've been "sexually active" for just over 19 years, I've had quite a few partners, and there isn't much that I haven't tried at least once. But sometimes all I can do is just shake my head.

Lindy

Tusko

yes, i guess laying pipe until she cums several times is a pretty great thing, there's no denying that.

but, from what i've seen, there's definitely something more to be experienced from certain physical additions.
obviously not in all women, yes.
but during sex, the threshold between pleasure and pain starts to blur and it becomes more of a visceral sensory experience, where something in non-sex time may be received as painful, it is incorporated into the sensuality of the moment.

essentially, when i'm cumming i think all manner of vile things; that goes without saying. i feel at that moment my brain is functioning at a heightened state, able to multitask abstract images in a way it's hard to achieve at any other time.

i feel almost as though i'm offering myself up, and i'm demanding violent sensory bombardment.

when a girl is riding me on top, i have her pulled down close to me for maximum control and i'm hammering away, hearing her quiver and quake as she cums from my simple penetration is so super satisfying. i agree there.

and certainly, the inverse is true. penetrating a girl, or receiving a good blowjob is fantastic to finish.
but as the tension in my loins mounts, and i climb towards that climax, every nerve ending and neuron in your smpathetic nervous system is erupting, demanding more more more and it becomes less about pain and more about sensation, as i'd assume, the endorphins dull the pain received and transmit it as stimulation.

so, in short. if i can lay a girl on her back/on me and ride her till she's spraying all over my groin, that's incredible. her knees quivering, her body shaking and rasping involuntarily- if that kind of response can be garnered from simple dickthrustings, i can't imagine where you can take her when you attempt to bombard and dominate her senses.


then again, maybe i just have a weak erection and can't pump that well :S

MSD

By defining yourself as the dominant one, you're depriving yourself of what you really want: a girl who can top from the bottom.

Tusko

deep

SageSawdust

I'm gay so I can't make a sexual opinion, but I love seeing women take control of men. There's nothing I love more then a woman who can show off, take control, be intelligent, and be beautiful all at the same time.

cadre

I'm with you on the 'it's more about sensation than it is about pain' thing. I love to play with toys and roles and ..well, people. Some of my favorite things are paddles and nipple clamps and this is not because I love pain. When I'm going about my day, I actually do not like pain, but in the bedroom, in the midst of passionate lovemaking, pain isn't pain...it's sensation. Everything I do in the bedroom is about sensation. It could be chaining someone to a bed or just inviting a new guest to join us. Sex, for me, is about feeling things...physically and emotionally.

This is why I sometimes find myself in a dominant positon, because I want to feel something specific...control.

Sorry about the long run ons, I hope that makes sense.

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rr1024

I love being dominated by a woman, my girl does the forced masturbation while she fucks me with dildos and butt plugs