sexual acts while breastfeeding
 

ok, a disclaimer - No this did not happen. just something i thought about today.

I wanted to get everyones thought on this.

If you mrs was pregnant and breastfeeding your child and you were turned on so much that you couldnt help yourself, is it ok to engage in sexual acts while the kid was feeding off its mother.

of course, the child is not involved in any way with the sexual act.

does it cross any boundaries? and would you do it?

Yeah, you're a freak.

So "Hell no," but I'd pull the baby off the tit if I was hungry enough. I'm a big fan of dairy products. And boobs.

Father to baby: "Hey, I was here first! I was sucking on those when you were hanging out in my scrotum!"

I would ask what is turning you on about the situation?

The baby would be unaware of what was going on, other than being irritated at the disturbance of his peaceful feeding. If you think about it, the baby was far closer to that act when you were banging her in the third trimester. Also, if the baby is in a bassinet during the night, it's been pretty close to the act anyway. Finally, family units used to live in very tight quarters and it was fairly common for different generations to be in the same space as intimacy.

Now, having said all of that, I personally would not have sex with my wife WHILE she was breastfeeding. It is not the time for a sexual act. Also, the child could bite and injure her. I suspect it's as much a jealousy issue for you than anything else. The boobs are huge and you don't get to play with them. Plus, the wife is showing more attention at the time to someone other than you. Then there's the raging "I'm a man, I make baby, hear me roar!" testosterone surge...

Boobs are like model trains. They're meant for the kids, but dad usually ends up playing with 'em.

'bout time you chimed in with a pearl of wisdom. Stranger.

Fast forward 5 years: are you going to interrupt a nice family dinner to pound the mrs on the dining room table because you're hungry?

Firstly if it is a baby then it wont know a thing unless it is interrupted.
Secondly, what you mean by sexual acts? Is it foreplay? Kissing? Giving her a hand or head?

The boundary is crossed only when you are annoying the mother and/or baby by what ever you are doing.

Lastly, I don't think it is abnormal to be aroused seeing your wife feeding your baby. But practically I guess the mother could be tired and taxed. I dont know whether your turn-on will be understood and entertained in that situation.

To be fair, there was an episode of Seinfeld about that.

its not the breastfeeding that is a turn on. nor is it the baby.

but why should a sexual act be confined to the bedroom when a newborn is not aware of its surroundings? for all it cares, its suckling its mothers breast, albeit on a bumpier ride.

if i wanted to have sex with the mrs, and the baby is latched on to her breast, if she gave me some lovin' is that such a bad thing?

for the record, no i wouldnt do it with the kids at age 5. i wouldnt have sex in the bedroom with a 5 year old present, but theres no issues going at it with a newborn present.


curiousbear - by sexual acts i mean anything and everything.

Clearly you haven't been around newborns. They're not going to be happy when you stop mealtime. Which you're going to have to do to "get some" just because of the simple logistics involved.

And there's nothing more boner-crushing than a screaming infant.

Yep, guaranteed to work every time.:sad:

I don't think this is cool at all.

Do you want to have sex with your child in the room? More to the point, I can't imagine there are too many women who would be all that interested in fucking you while they are breastfeeding.

Yeahhhhh, you read my mind.

I don't know myself, but I've been told breastfeeding is an intimate moment between mother and baby, so I really don't see how a mother could, and would, want to do both. O_o

My wife once gave me a handjob while she was breastfeeding our son, it was somewhere in the first month or so. He was facing the other way, so no harm done.

Sometimes you gotta get it while you can. The mother is awake, and the baby don't care. Mom will probably be passed out later, and that's a definite no. Don't forget Mom might want the attention too.

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that's my question - is mom interested? If she's instigating, or intimating, that she's good to go at that very moment, i suppose what the hell.... but there has to be a line....? obviously the five years is a bit much, but what about a one-year-old? two? where does it stop? what age is appropriate for you to stop fucking while your offspring is in the room?

i think it's kind of a weird path to go down. i say watch mom feed the baby, get turned on, put the baby down and then have at it in the next room.

is it a baby from another guy? would that be some kind of freak revenge thing?

Speaking from experience, there is a shut off valve between mother and partner, when a baby is involved. It is normal to react to heaving bosoms, but nursing and sex are two very opposing things. I had a childless (female) friend, who could barely even talk about the fact that I went through with this act of barbarianism and would squirm with embarrassment when I strategically and innocently opened my blouse. God forbid, I ever mention “feeding” in front of her boob-loving husband.

“Don’t you get turned on?” She had asked me.

The answer is an emphatic NO! Nursing provides a very special instant between Mom and baby and men don’t really fit into this equation. Honestly, that is kind of the beauty of it. Nursing is probably THE most sacred of all female mammalian moments.

So, just for the record, the last thing on her mind, when she whips out her boob for a baby is your dick.

But, yeah. It’s okay for you to be turned on.

It’s just not very likely that she will be.