snowy

Since we have a fair share of married folk around here (and may I just say I'm still adjusting to thinking of myself as married folk), I thought I'd ask a question about something that came up when I was in the process of getting married a few weeks ago.

Did you have sex on your wedding night?

I won't relay the anecdote that brought this question up, as it was personal, but suffice it to say a quick poll of married couples present at my rehearsal dinner revealed that the majority of them had not had sex on their wedding nights. All of them said that after the big day, they were too tired to do the deed.

Well, after hearing that, I resolved to have sex on my wedding night . Nevermind that we'd had sex about a thousand times before

So how about you?

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Jinn

I imagine even virginal Christians don't seal the deal on the day. I've been in my fair share of weddings (never as the groom) and I wager even *I* was too drunk or tired to go for anything that night...

Answered "Marriage? Ew." by the way..

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ASU2003

Why have I never been to any rehearsal dinners where this question has come up?

I've never been married, but I would think part of the wedding planning (at least from what this guy would be interested in), would be scheduling it so there it ends early enough so there is time for sex afterwards.

Redlemon

Yes we did. Perhaps because neither of us are big drinkers, it was no problem.

As an aside, our wedding night was the first time using hormonal protection, rather than condoms, so that was something special as well.

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CinnamonGirl

I picked the last one, but back when I got married, yeah, we had sex. I remember being exhausted and falling asleep right after, though.



Edit: I guess I should also add that I was only 20 at the time, so I had a glass of champagne and a few sips of whatever was in the keg (High Life maybe? I don't know. I didn't like beer back then), so being drunk wasn't a factor.

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Lucifer

We can't remember, but in all probability, we just came home and watched "Buffy the Vampire Slayer."

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fancybone

Girlfriend's Italian, I'm Russian.

Pretty sure we'll be entirely too drunk and/or hung over by the time we're actually retreating into bed.

Vodka

my ex-husband and i didn't and we weren't 'big drinkers' either but organising the perfect wedding from where you live a 9hr drive from, was extra hard work

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FuglyStick

What's the rush? You're married, right? You can do the dirty whenever you want.

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genuinegirly

Yep! Our wedding was early in the day and our reception ended around 6pm, so there was plenty of time to fool around in our cushy hotel bed. It was all we were interested in doing once the family was out of the way.

The_Jazz

Yup, but it was forced on my part. I was rooked into doing shots with friends. Ugh.

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MSD

Isn't the whole point of going to a wedding getting drunk and fucking a bridesmaid in the bathroom at the reception hall?

The_Jazz

Not when you're the bride. Or groom.

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Shauk

I've heard of open marriages so... haha, def on somebodies radar out there I'm sure.

fresnelly

Yes but we were definitely tired. I don't even think we used the in-room hot tub.

Looking back on that night, we mostly joke about the horribly tacky decor. Every element was mismatched including wild flowery fabrics for the Curtains, Bedspread, furniture and carpet. It's like they did a decor test sometime in the 80's but were so demoralized that they gave up and locked the door until our wedding years later.

I'm dying to know what goes on behind the closed doors of most virginal christian couples. I wonder how much weight is given to that first night and how its success determines their downstream sex lives.

I remember watching a TV-doc about some mega-cruise ship and one of the couples featured was on their honeymoon. The wife admitted that this was the first time they had spent more than 24 hours together.

Wow.

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Charlatan

Yes. It was a long day and night but we were pretty much ready to relax in the giant hot tub and consummate the marriage.

I am not sure if the we did the second time we got married though. Funny that I don't remember.

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levite

We totally did. We were playing with the idea of not even trying, just because it seemed silly-- not like we weren't doing it our whole relationship. But we did very well with having a chill wedding, which was fun and exciting and, yes, something of a long day, but not exhausting, hurried, or nerve-fraying. And one of my wife's best friends (who also happened to be our photographer's wife) said to us, "You have to do it! Think of all those sad people in America that can't even celebrate their own wedding with a good hard fuck! You owe it to them!"

So after the wedding, we came home, we changed our relationship statuses on Facebook, we passed a bowl with our photographer and his wife, and after we were good and chilled out, we gave them the boot and got it on good and proper.

Good times.

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Frosstbyte

After most of the "adults" (i.e. people older than us) started to trickle out, we turned our wedding party into a karaoke party and sang and hung out literally until they forced us to leave around one am. At that point, we barely made it into the room before passing the fuck out.

On the other hand, we slept in the same room the night before the wedding and got breakfast in bed via room service and she gave me a bj while we were eating. We didn't have any issues with seeing each other the day of before, so that worked out pretty well.

im2smrt4u

Starkizzer and I did for sure, but I admit we were very tired. Not only did we have all the wedding preparation, formal photos, etc, but we also drove six hours to our first night honeymoon destination. I was all wonderful and totally awesome though!

However, after a good night's sleep the sex was even better the next day!

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freeload

We (especially her) was too tired when we finally got to the hotel - but we made up for it when we woke up

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Lucifer

at a friend's wedding her 5 bridesmaids hooked up with his 5 attendants; they considered it a good omen for their wedding.

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Seaver

I've known 6 couples... and not a single one liked it. Pretty much every one said the same thing, "It wasn't everything it was cracked out to be." Each and every one also refused to believe me when I told them no matter how much they read, no matter how much porn they watched, etc. no one ever has amazing sex the first time when both partners are virgins. They also refused to believe that there is a difference between friendship compatibility (what they had with no premarital sex) and sexual compatibility.

That is until the eventual divorce and they find someone experienced and they have sexual compatibility with.

Sounds like a blast. Honestly I have 3 weddings in the next 2 months, and as far as I can tell I'm the designated cute-single guy on each one. I just hope they actually have cute friends as the last two weddings seemed to cut out any single girls below 190lbs (can't have anyone cuter than the bride can we?).

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World's King

Well, yeah... you have to have sex at least once while you're married that doesn't involve, "But I want kids NOW!!"

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Bill O'Rights

I didn't vote because, even though we did have sex on our wedding night, it was no "Hell yeah!" We were both freakin' exhausted and went through the motions only because..."That's what you do."

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Leto

I voted too tired... but that was only a part of it. My newly minted wife turned her ankle on our wedding morning (caught her heel in the sidewalk crack) so couldn't stand very well.

Then at the reception, was sitting in a chair beside the dance floor (because she couldn't stand so well) saw somebody's bouttonier fall on the floor, so got up to retrieve it. A samaritan thought she was getting up to dance, so moved the chair away, but she sat right back down , landed on the floor and bruised her tail-bone.

Now she couldn't sit too well. We parted the reception, by train to Quebec City, but halfway to Montreal, the train ahead of us derailed, leaving us on the platform in Napanee (soon to be famous for giving us Avril Lavigne) tired, hungry, and her being unable to sit or stand comfortably. eventually we were bussed to Montreal, and since we missed out connecting train, bussed another 3 hrs to Quebec City.

We were too tired to even drink the champagne in our room. Oh yes, she was also on her period.

But we had good food on our honeymoon.

yes.

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Anxst

We did, but were awfully tired, so it wasn't very good. Not much foreplay, and we passed out right after.

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+1 Anxst

Exactly what I would have said. I read somewhere that only like 30% of people actually do. I think that's a bit low, but I'll bet only 30% do it and do it well...on that night.

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Shagg

My wedding isn't until April, but I doubt it will happen that night, probably going to be up real late that night.

The night before however will probably be a good time.

ASU2003

Don't they make a pill for that?

With all the planning that women do to have the perfect wedding, I just assumed that anymore they would take hormonal birth control to shift the week or day they get their period until after the wedding and honeymoon.
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Leto

you mean the birth control pill? never entered our minds. After living together for 4 years anyways, it seemed like a lessor priority at the time...

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Esco

Waaaaay too tired and drunk. We had been together for 7 years, lived together for 3, so we had held hands a couple of times before our wedding.

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MSD

Yeah, but he was talking about when he was just a guest and managed to be too tired.

dlish

i tried....

no bull

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Fettzilla

My wife and I did have sex on r wedding night. It was amazing. We were excited about it so there was no way we were not going to do it. We also did things we had never done before, we explored each other more then ever before.

$eabas$

sex on your wedding night, would love to

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Grasshopper Green

I had a horrendous headcold that day, so no. I dosed myself with NyQuil and went to bed early on my wedding night.

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maxhooters

we did, it was a long day so nothing to special. we saved it for the honeymoon

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