My penis is too wide
 

My girlfriend gets pretty wet, and we've even tried lubricant. She just can't handle my girth shes in pain for most of sex. Have any other women come across this problem and how did you handle it?

It plays to male vanity to think otherwise, but the fact is, if a baby's head can get through there, you're not too wide.

Quit whining.

Most men pray to have your problem.

I don't even have genitals and I have to hear this?

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The vagina is a pretty elastic organ. Like RatBastid said, her fleshy hangar will handle that widebody that emerges 9 months after the condom breaks.

So tell us: How long have you been having sex? "Pretty wet" and "tried lubricant" mean what? Spit and shove isn't the preferred method.

Exactly how big is your baby arm? Pringles can? Tuna? LordEden's bulbous cranium?

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Damnit, this thread reminds me of that "a vagina is not a rucksack" thing.

Shes a small girl shes like 5'4'' and im 6'1'' I never measured it. I always thought it was pretty average. She gets pretty wet means fingers slip in easily, tried lubricant means we've tried to have sex with lube before and she didn't like the feeling and it still hurt. W've been having sex for about 7 months now

Fear not. I'm roughly your size (although height has absolutely nothing to do with this thread) and I had to "break in" a pocket-sized Asian girlfriend of mine. Took a couple weeks. Whenever I was gone for a bit, the first time back was a little ouchy for her. Some girls just can't "go deep."

Liar. Is it bigger than a Coke can? Anyway, seven months of (what I'll assume is) regular sex with persistent discomfort, however, may mean a problem. Has she had surgical work in there? I've been with a few girls that have had cervix work and they can't handle anything near the bottom of the well.

no lol. SHes had other sexual partners as have i. I'm her girthiest to date. Just wanna find a way to make her enjoy sex more

have her talk to her ob/gyn. they sometimes use progressively larger dilators to stretch out the vagina if her anatomy is indeed causing a problem.

also, what lube did you try? if she didn't like the way it felt, you can always try a different lube, but make sure whatever you get is latex compatible if you're using comdoms

Use your tongue more :)

She doesn't really like that. SHe has a whole issue of my face being in her vagina that makes her uncomfortable.

I believe we used astroglide

Coat it with Teflon.

My guess is she's uncomfortable with sex in general, but TRYING to be comfortable with it, and that's not working so well.

Read this: The FBI Files: Vaginismus | Scarleteen. Vaginismus is a sort of sketchy thing to point to as a cause for this, because it's easy to turn "psychogenic" into "you're making it up". It's a real condition, it's just that it's of mental origins.

BTW, that site, Scarleteen, is a very good resource for real-world sex ed stuff that they never taught you in high school health class.

I would guess it was this as well.

If she fears sex (even unconsciously), the muscles down there won't relax.

There may be some other reasons, but the above should cover a large percentage of these cases.

These types of threads piss me off.


I'm calling bullshit.

My first thought was she was a man once, hence the surgery and lack of flexibility lol.

Uh, well... I was referring to something far more common... like a cervical biopsy.

I like how Seeker jumped right to the "She's a MAN baby!" answer, though! :thumbsup:

penis reduction?

I know, I just had to get that out as it really was the first thing I thought.

ratbastid, I even had Austin Powers saying it in my head at the time lol

If you arouse her enough, she should enjoy a nice thick cock. If I had the choice I prefer that wide girth becuase it stretches the labia wider and exposes the clit for a deep and fabulous orgasm.

Yeah . . . he kinda lost me at "I've never measured it."

We'll i've never measured it around. I'm only like 6 and a half long. I always thought i was just pretty average in the pants :-X

Too girthy and she doesnt like your face in her vag? I say get a new girlfriend, this one sounds like a real pain in the ass.

He's the pain in the ass. Did you not READ the OP?

Been there, I'm a little above average but definitely no where near coke can size. Anyway she always seemed to be uncomfortable and after many, many discussions, hours of tongue and tubs of lube we went our separate ways. Years later we ran into each other and in the ensuing discussion she said something that solved the mystery. We were talking about our new partners and she says 'He's really amazing in bed, I can just lay there and he does all the work, I don't even have to be there'. Some would take that to mean she doesn't enjoy sex, but I know her really well and that is not the case. She just seems to prefer sex as a means of relaxation instead of exhilaration. Some women just don't enjoy big dick. That's the way it is, move on and letter her find a smaller wiener.

If you insist on trying other lubes first try 'Gun Oil', that stuff is super thin and super slick. But don't be surprised to find it doesn't work to solve the issue either. Remember, little penises need lovin' to.

There are two types of guys: Those who have measured, and those who have vaginas.

Yeah, I can't really imagine a human male never having a thought to measure their flag pole/yard stick/Thumbelina.

I don't know first hand, as I haven't squeezed spawn through my bits...but I hear childbirth hurts.

What a great sentence.

stop eating the penis enlargement pills like flintstone tablets and the problems disappear.

seriously though, I'm asian. Stop showing off :P

I keep misreading the username 'pacaveli' as 'packawell', as in "I may not be able to hit the bottom of the well, but I can pound the hell out of the sides!"

She doesn't like you going down on her and you can't get it in. Both of these point to her having hangups about sex that make her nervous. Let me guess, religious or otherwise conservative upbringing? Nothing is going to get better until she learns to relax and enjoy herself. Easy to say, not so easy to do. It's going to take time and effort.
You didn't either, that's not the hole we're talking about.

I didn't want to bring it up, but there may be some type of abuse in her past with those symptoms.

Sir, I believe the proper term is "Penis in-smallment". I should know. I had to get my 17" reduced to the average 13".

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I thought the same thing myself. The vagina expands during childbirth assisted by other hormones. So the argument that you can squeeze a baby is moot. Now, can the vagina expand without prior proper preparation? Yes. Will it fucking hurt? FUCK YES!

What did you do with the left overs? donate them to charity?

Just because a women pushed a baby out doesn't mean a 2 liter bottle would feel good going in.

Just because it doesn't feel good, doesn't mean men won't try to stretch it to critical capacity because a baby can go through.

Well, until we have an actual girth measurement, I'm not sure how much help we can be.

Either way, I'm not sure if you want my help: my brain is too intelligent.

Well, technically most babies don't make it through on their own. Most women tear or have episiotomies. So maximum capacity shouldn't always be judged by the size of the baby.

I like how all these tfp dudes are big dick experts. Sure thing, gents ;). I suspect this discussion might be more fruitful if more ladies were involved.


On another note, my girlfriend thinks I'm too funny and charming. What should I do?

Despite our apparent fascination with boobies, bottoms, and ha-hoos, it is important to note that our greatest fascination is with cocks.

This thread reminds of that "My spoon is too big" thing.

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Baraka's brain is too intelligent... Filtherton's too funny and charming.

Is this the delusions thread?

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Uh, it's just a relative comparison to the "Say Ahh!" potential of our favorite orifice.

Let's say the dude's dick is half the circumference of a baby's head. A third even.

That's pretty goddamn big.

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If we could... I think we'd all be hung like coffee cans.

Pride over functionality. Every time.

No, not every time. Not this guy. I don't even know what pride feels like.

Pride feels something like this:

http://www.advertisingballoons.com/images/hillsbros.jpg

Eh, I just want my cock to work like Great Stuff.

Doesn't work so great now?

From what I've read this is somewhat common, and unfortunately there's no way around it. There's a possibility that her OB/GYN may have treatments if the problem is related to a disorder, but likely it's not.

The only thing you can really do is put her in control of the sex, allowing her to control depth and movement.

Good luck.

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she should have sex with me instead

She doesn't enjoy your "girthy" cock And she doesn't like your face in her vagina??????????????????Doesn't sound like a problem for the OB/GYN.
Sounds like she doesn't know a good thing when she has it...(or 2)
:confused:

Are you sure your in the right............um.........ya know?

I'm going to jump on the compatibility band wagon. Had a similar issue with a girl, I'm not that big and though she said she was into it and got wet it was just never possible to really get in properly. With her she just never seemed to relax properly, so her pussy was just always insanely tight. Good Luck.

Call 555-1212
 

Too wide?

Do you have my phone number?

This reminds me of those ridiculous Cialis commercials, suggesting that having an erection for four hours would be problematic!

....NOT IN MY WORLD, IT AIN'T! :)

I had a similar problem with a girl, was not every time thought mind you. I have no giant cock by any stretch of the imagination, but it works well enough. Anyways the girl would not do anything oral, either way, or hardly even hands for that matter. All she liked was straight cock in the vag (gets really boring really fast). About 1 in 4 times it was so damn tight I could hardly get it in there and when I did it would just hurt her.

Had this a while back and tfp where very supporting and useful back then. Went through various types of lube and different techniques, in the end though the thought of her crying in pain every time we made love stopped me wanting to try. We broke up, not over this, but I'm glad in a way that we did.
In our case she had hang-ups over sex anyway which exaserbated the issue.

If you're looking for a silver lining I'd say the one thing that help was having her cum first. Do whatever you need to do, be it fingering her, or using toys, just let her come once before you enter her. She'll already be relax from having cum and tired too. Sounds wierd but her whole body will just accept you more, especially if you assisited in her getting into that state.

I'd love to have your problem
 

and another GF!!

Bovine Scatology...:thumbsup:

Don't let it wee wee you off. Nuttin you can do about it. Tastesss lyke chicken!

The problem may not be your penis size at all. There are, in fact a couple medical and psychological conditions that cause painful intercourse (dyspareunia) or vaginal spasm (vaginismus). Your girlfriend may want to think about talking about this problem with her OBGYN or a psychiatrist with a specialization in this field. Some women go so far as to treat it with botox injections, which relaxes the vaginal muscles and allows for easier penetration, although this is an extreme action to take.

In terms of dealing with this problem on a personal level, I suggest maybe having her play with herself and stretch herself out with her own fingers, and then allow her to guide you in. This will give her a feeling of being in control. I don't mean to pry into your personal life, but has she suffered a sexual trauma in her life? This sometimes can create a psychological hang-up about sex.

However, this may not be a major medical issue. I have a similar (although it sounds like, less severe) situation with my boyfriend, who is very girthy and long, lol. Sorry to say, ther are certian positions which you may have to give up or at least modify. Doggy style? Great position; VERY painful. If you do doggy style, don't go ll the way in, think of it as dipping, and allow her to slide backwards as opposed to you thrusting forward. Her on top is difficult too, I imagine? Have her lean forward over you, as opposed to riding you, more like a reversed missionary position. This might make it a little more comfortable for her, and yet again, gives her a little more control.

So...I hope this helps.

spoon HER ON HER BACK, YOU AT AN ANGLE ON YOUR SIDE--IT GOES IN SIDEWAYS

Gnarly! Say it again... this time with emphasis.

I have this problem where my wife's vagina is just too wide.....

..wait.


If she really means something to you, it sounds like you might have some work to do in the communication department. I, like others, wonder if there isn't something else going on here emotionally. If she isn't completely into it, then she could definitely not be relaxing enough.

There is always the chance that she just really isn't built to handle the girth. Some women aren't. Regarding baby references - there are many women who can't give birth vaginally either. Often, they are small women, with small birth canals and vaginal cavities. The size of the woman doesn't necessarily mean anything related to the size (or ability to take size) of her vagina though. Just like the size of a man, means very little about the size of his member.

I call bullshit too.
It's not the size, it's what you're doing with it.
Sounds to me like pacaveli has got a thing or two to learn.