My penis is too wide
 

My girlfriend gets pretty wet, and we've even tried lubricant. She just can't handle my girth shes in pain for most of sex. Have any other women come across this problem and how did you handle it?

It plays to male vanity to think otherwise, but the fact is, if a baby's head can get through there, you're not too wide.

Quit whining.

Most men pray to have your problem.

I don't even have genitals and I have to hear this?

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The vagina is a pretty elastic organ. Like RatBastid said, her fleshy hangar will handle that widebody that emerges 9 months after the condom breaks.

So tell us: How long have you been having sex? "Pretty wet" and "tried lubricant" mean what? Spit and shove isn't the preferred method.

Exactly how big is your baby arm? Pringles can? Tuna? LordEden's bulbous cranium?

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Damnit, this thread reminds me of that "a vagina is not a rucksack" thing.

Shes a small girl shes like 5'4'' and im 6'1'' I never measured it. I always thought it was pretty average. She gets pretty wet means fingers slip in easily, tried lubricant means we've tried to have sex with lube before and she didn't like the feeling and it still hurt. W've been having sex for about 7 months now

Fear not. I'm roughly your size (although height has absolutely nothing to do with this thread) and I had to "break in" a pocket-sized Asian girlfriend of mine. Took a couple weeks. Whenever I was gone for a bit, the first time back was a little ouchy for her. Some girls just can't "go deep."

Liar. Is it bigger than a Coke can? Anyway, seven months of (what I'll assume is) regular sex with persistent discomfort, however, may mean a problem. Has she had surgical work in there? I've been with a few girls that have had cervix work and they can't handle anything near the bottom of the well.

no lol. SHes had other sexual partners as have i. I'm her girthiest to date. Just wanna find a way to make her enjoy sex more

have her talk to her ob/gyn. they sometimes use progressively larger dilators to stretch out the vagina if her anatomy is indeed causing a problem.

also, what lube did you try? if she didn't like the way it felt, you can always try a different lube, but make sure whatever you get is latex compatible if you're using comdoms

Use your tongue more :)

She doesn't really like that. SHe has a whole issue of my face being in her vagina that makes her uncomfortable.

I believe we used astroglide

Coat it with Teflon.

My guess is she's uncomfortable with sex in general, but TRYING to be comfortable with it, and that's not working so well.

Read this: The FBI Files: Vaginismus | Scarleteen. Vaginismus is a sort of sketchy thing to point to as a cause for this, because it's easy to turn "psychogenic" into "you're making it up". It's a real condition, it's just that it's of mental origins.

BTW, that site, Scarleteen, is a very good resource for real-world sex ed stuff that they never taught you in high school health class.

I would guess it was this as well.

If she fears sex (even unconsciously), the muscles down there won't relax.

There may be some other reasons, but the above should cover a large percentage of these cases.

These types of threads piss me off.


I'm calling bullshit.

My first thought was she was a man once, hence the surgery and lack of flexibility lol.

Uh, well... I was referring to something far more common... like a cervical biopsy.

I like how Seeker jumped right to the "She's a MAN baby!" answer, though! :thumbsup:

penis reduction?

I know, I just had to get that out as it really was the first thing I thought.

ratbastid, I even had Austin Powers saying it in my head at the time lol

If you arouse her enough, she should enjoy a nice thick cock. If I had the choice I prefer that wide girth becuase it stretches the labia wider and exposes the clit for a deep and fabulous orgasm.

Yeah . . . he kinda lost me at "I've never measured it."

We'll i've never measured it around. I'm only like 6 and a half long. I always thought i was just pretty average in the pants :-X

Too girthy and she doesnt like your face in her vag? I say get a new girlfriend, this one sounds like a real pain in the ass.

He's the pain in the ass. Did you not READ the OP?

Been there, I'm a little above average but definitely no where near coke can size. Anyway she always seemed to be uncomfortable and after many, many discussions, hours of tongue and tubs of lube we went our separate ways. Years later we ran into each other and in the ensuing discussion she said something that solved the mystery. We were talking about our new partners and she says 'He's really amazing in bed, I can just lay there and he does all the work, I don't even have to be there'. Some would take that to mean she doesn't enjoy sex, but I know her really well and that is not the case. She just seems to prefer sex as a means of relaxation instead of exhilaration. Some women just don't enjoy big dick. That's the way it is, move on and letter her find a smaller wiener.

If you insist on trying other lubes first try 'Gun Oil', that stuff is super thin and super slick. But don't be surprised to find it doesn't work to solve the issue either. Remember, little penises need lovin' to.

There are two types of guys: Those who have measured, and those who have vaginas.

Yeah, I can't really imagine a human male never having a thought to measure their flag pole/yard stick/Thumbelina.

I don't know first hand, as I haven't squeezed spawn through my bits...but I hear childbirth hurts.

What a great sentence.

stop eating the penis enlargement pills like flintstone tablets and the problems disappear.

seriously though, I'm asian. Stop showing off :P

I keep misreading the username 'pacaveli' as 'packawell', as in "I may not be able to hit the bottom of the well, but I can pound the hell out of the sides!"

She doesn't like you going down on her and you can't get it in. Both of these point to her having hangups about sex that make her nervous. Let me guess, religious or otherwise conservative upbringing? Nothing is going to get better until she learns to relax and enjoy herself. Easy to say, not so easy to do. It's going to take time and effort.
You didn't either, that's not the hole we're talking about.

I didn't want to bring it up, but there may be some type of abuse in her past with those symptoms.

Sir, I believe the proper term is "Penis in-smallment". I should know. I had to get my 17" reduced to the average 13".

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I thought the same thing myself. The vagina expands during childbirth assisted by other hormones. So the argument that you can squeeze a baby is moot. Now, can the vagina expand without prior proper preparation? Yes. Will it fucking hurt? FUCK YES!

What did you do with the left overs? donate them to charity?

Just because a women pushed a baby out doesn't mean a 2 liter bottle would feel good going in.

Just because it doesn't feel good, doesn't mean men won't try to stretch it to critical capacity because a baby can go through.

Well, until we have an actual girth measurement, I'm not sure how much help we can be.

Either way, I'm not sure if you want my help: my brain is too intelligent.

Well, technically most babies don't make it through on their own. Most women tear or have episiotomies. So maximum capacity shouldn't always be judged by the size of the baby.

I like how all these tfp dudes are big dick experts. Sure thing, gents ;). I suspect this discussion might be more fruitful if more ladies were involved.


On another note, my girlfriend thinks I'm too funny and charming. What should I do?

Despite our apparent fascination with boobies, bottoms, and ha-hoos, it is important to note that our greatest fascination is with cocks.