A Question About Circle Jerks
 

Okay, so, I'm a married man, age 30. Once upon a time in my early 20's a buddy and I both jacked off to the same porn at the same time. It was a lot of fun. We did it a few times. There was never anything "gay" going on aside from the fact that two naked guys were sitting on opposite ends of the couch beating their meat to a video of a couple girls who were teaching a man the meaning of the word "love."

It's been almost 10 years since then. I've long since lost contact with this old friend of mine. I'm happily married and have no interest in gay sex, or any sex at all outside of my marriage.

I would, however, enjoy getting together with another guy (or guys) and wanking as a group. It was fun before. I enjoyed it. And I'd like to do it again.

So far, about the closest thing I can come up with the Tilted Forum's own Titty Boards where someone must be beating it every hour of every day and a nearby peepshow where I know that all the other guys in the booths around me are jacking off to the same stripper I am -- but, as you can imagine, the thrill is nowhere near the same as looking over and seeing somebody pounding their cock and blowing their load.

My question then is who here has ever organized or been invited to a circle jerk? If you organized it, how did you go about it? If you were invited, how did it come about?

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What? Not a thread about the band? Oh. I see.

Hmmm.....Uhhhh... <b>Ewww!!!!</b>

Sorry. Involuntary reaction.

I always heard of this as a hazing ritual for college freshman but never as a planned, "Hey, Bob, wanna come over for a beer and a wank", type of thing.

I know there are groups here in NY that get together for such activities, but I think they are more gay oriented. Don't ask me how I know - wrong turn from Fark. Not really my bag, but to each his own.

are you sure you aren't gay?

unnecessary rudeness removed.

I'm for easing some of the barriers between men but I would be uncomfortable in that situation. Only person that gets to see me beat the bishop is my gf, and that isn't often if you know what I mean ;)

There's definitely some issues here.

erg...that was unnecessary.

it takes a bit of courage to post such a question, i'd imagine..

and childish responses ...are just...

bleh.

(ps) @ borf - sorry i can't help you, i'm female and have no clue.

but i think it's cool that you're comfortable enough to want to do it, and that you seem to realise that sexuality is all just shades of grey, no real black & white.

good luck ;)

i've heard of it happening before between heterosexual males. However, other than your friends, i don't imagine people promote these kind of "get-togethers" as a club (like a chess club) or anything. Although i am curious to wether you actually like watching a guy "pounding" he cock or if its just the aftermath. I've only heard of occurances where they don't look at each other until afterwards, tho i am noit to familar with this whatsoever. I think i'd only be involved, if there where other females involved, and thats not just on the tv screen. Although, there are other sessions known as "bukkake", i think, which means splash or something in japanese or one of the asian languages (sorry). Anyways, guys take turns to wank and ejactulate onto a girls face, such that in the end she looks like a melted wedding cake ;)
It'd be interesting to be involved in this, however i would think it'd be quite degrading to the girl involved....

Maybe you could try putting up some flyers around town, although i don't know how well that'd go down, lol
This is probably a little rarer between hetero males, so you may find it hard to find other willing participants.

Borf, ignore the immature knee jerk reactions some of our "less enlightened" members have stated. There are groups for that sort of thing. Would you be interested in couples actions, or just guys?
Gay guys ok?, or just straight guys?
Do you think you could be comfortable doing this with strangers? It's is a rather intimate experience.. Perhaps start off slow by going to peepshows, or maybe using a webcam and ifriends and then work your way up to organized events. Also keep in mind that since you are married and all you HAVE to tell your wife about these desires. She might have some serious moral issues with you masterbating with other men, and it could get very messy if you kept this from her. If you do deceide to go ahead with it I wish you the best of luck. Be Safe and Play it smart!

This link might help you out:
http://www.adultgroupfinder.com/link...on/default.asp

Good luck! :)

Yo Borf,

I'm curious, you did say there was nothing 'gay' about, but does this mean that it doesn't add to your excitement at all, is it purely a social thing?
Personally, I'm not interested in joining in, but I am very curious about all aspects of sexuality and this is a bit new to me - please do tell more :)
Does it change of jerking off? Is there a form of guilt involved?
Did the original event provide some level of intimacy that you were otherwise lacking?

Guess we can't all stand on the same rung of the evolutionary ladder...

Whatever gets your sexual juices flowin'


I hope you find what your looking for.

its not like wrong or anything, but it does seem like you have a homosexual orientation, because you enjoy masturbating with another guy more than when you masturbate alone. i mean go for the gold, but if i ever did that, it would feel like i was cheating on my gf.

thanks but no thanks

although I havn't tried this, my friends and I watch porn together sometimes. We tell each other how we get hardons watching, but we never did the jerk thing. I think it's mainly from the fear of being thought of as gay.

um, this is turning me on for some reason...:)

If you're genuinly doing it as just something to do together, and the act it self doesn't turn you on, then you're still pure-blood heterosexual. I don't think being turned on by jacking off with a friend neccesary turn you gay either. I believe Everyone has, at least deep down, bisexual tendencies whether they act on them or not. If you have no desire to have a sexual relationship with a man, I don't believe you're gay.

You could always try finding someone through the lovely internet. There's plenty of clubs and websites for Heterosexual men jacking off together. Although, with that method, you never know who's going to show up at your door.. -_-

I did this when I was younger. Again, it wasn't planned, it's just that when you watch pr0n with other guys and you're all young and horny and you know each other, you don't give a damn and jerk off. Still, it only happened once or twice and I never thought about planning such a thing.

To all the people that suggest that this has something to do with homosexuality: well, it doesn't. Some people are more prone to getting excited about various erotic situations. It doesn't matter who's involved, it's just that the whole thing has something to do with sex and intimacy and it gets you horny. Again, not all people, but some have this.

Heh, going to see the band next Wed

One time I was in a car with some pals getting high and we had a contest to see who could finish first. Closest I ever...
well you know.

Could this be the site of the first <b>circle jerk</b>?

http://www.ancientengineering.com/stonehenge.jpg
http://www.astrowww.org/stonehenge.jpg

hrrmmmm, seems a bit farfetched to me-- I'm pretty much convinced that it's only an astrological tool

Yeah, I can relate to Schwan. Me and my friends would always watch porn when we were like 12, lol, and we just couldn't help ourselves. But we never did it because we were doing it together. We never cared if anyone else did it, but of course, with a room full of prepubescent boys, we all ended up doing it. But we always had blankets and stuff. And I have no interest in doing this now. But I can KINDA relate I guess. But with us, it was just a hormonal thing, and we would always forget that other people were even in the room.

yeah some of my brother's friends did that... with kids that age, it happens a lot i think

An ad in the paper I guess
:confused:

A lot of posters have written about doing this as teens or prepubescents. At the age of 30 getting a thrill "looking over and seeing somebody pounding their cock and blowing their load" does sound slightly homosexual, slightly deviant. Not saying it in a bad way just making an observation. But if you must watch a dude whack off set up a webcam or something and go to town that way I guess.

Hey dude, do whatever you want. Just don't do it around me.

i'd like to add that being gay or straight is about SEXUAL *PREFERENCE* and not about the instance that any one activity turns you on. Ya dig? You're not gay if you prefer women, but sex with men is still in your repetoire. I fucking hate all these immature, uneducated schmucks warning you that you may be gay if you do _________ whatever. YOU decide if you're gay.

borf, you've decided that you're not gay. Now can we step past this, everybody?

The circle jerk thing sounds pretty arrousing to me, and I've done something of the sort in the past. Right now, it's not on my list of things to do, though. I guess you just gotta get a few friends who are sexually open and suggest it to them..

titty board? what titty board?

Stonehenge Depicts Female Genitalia, Researchers Say

By Amran Abocar

TORONTO (Reuters) - Stonehenge is a massive fertility symbol, according to Canadian researchers who believe they have finally cracked the mystery of the ancient monument in southern England.

In the arrangement of the stones, the researchers say they have spotted the original design: female genitalia.
. . .
Viewed from above, Perks suggests Stonehenge's inner bluestone circle represents the labia minora and the giant outer sarsen stone circle is the labia majora. The altar stone is the clitoris and the open center is the birth canal.

"Could the outer avenue of Stonehenge...represent the way by which new life entered?" the article wondered, adding that when comparing "the layout of the henge with the anatomy of the human vulva. There is a distinct similarity."

Bleh, crazy Canadians :)

last I heard the root of being gay was an emotional thing, not necessarily a sexual thing.

Please, cheerios, something more creative? :P

Umm that just sound way to gay for me. But if that's something you're into then go for it.

i like looking at big dicks, yet i don't want to do anything with them

something me and four of my buddies have said we want to do is
have our girl friends watch us do a circle jerk
I hope we can do it. One of my buddies has this girl friend that I would really like to jerk off in front of
we all hang around together and I think it would really be a great way to bond

I have actually done this before. A few years ago, when I was in my mid-20's, I attended a party at a friend's house. After a few hours of playing poker and drinking heavily, we went into the living room at started watching porn. I don't know how it started, but two of my friends started jerking off. My best friend and I were reluctant to join in, but after a little coaxing we both unzipped and started in. It was the most amazing load I have ever shot by jerking myself off. Once everyone had finished (and cleaned up) everything went back to normal.

I don't really know what made it so good. I think it may have simply been showing off in front of each other. Who knows? I never plan on actually throwing a party with the idea of this happening, but if I'm at a party and it happens again I will join in.

I think it'd be sexy, but then, I'm a freaky girl like that.

We had a guy from the aussie big brother talking about this. He was telling the about him and some of his mate would belt off to a movie and there was no contact with each other. It was kinda sad, cause he was telling the other guys about this, and they were just taking the piss out of him. I guess that makes saying somethings hard, the fact someone might think that you are strange and start hassling you. borf I think that its great that you can be that open about what you have done, and stand up and ask if anyone else has done it. I dont really think that is my thing, belt off is personal time for me. And I like it alone. But hey what ever turns you crank. Do whats best for you.....

Sorry I've done a lot of things.... But to sit around and jerking off with some Buds just not going to happen. But best of luck to you. To each his own.

One of the more unnecessary comments on this thread.

Done this sort of thing only with a friend and i each in separate sleeping bags when i was younger. He had the porn and brought it over, and we went to town individually. At that age, i think part of it was comparing size too. anyways, i'd definitely run this by the wife like someone above suggested, if she found out you were doing this and keeping it to yourself, that probably wouldn't go over so well. Otherwise hope you find someone to enjoy this experience with!!!!!!

Besides http://www.adultfriendfinder.com there is also http://www.alt.com (related site). I just did a search for Men seeking a Group for Watching only, to do or try Masturbation in my zip code and came up with several results. Also, if you go to http://groups.yahoo.com there are a few groups on there, too. I do know that it's not difficult to find a circle in NY, but it is not uncommon for the groups to be elitist or mostly gay. Not that that matters since interaction between men as far as I've gathered is pretty uncommon during circle jerks. Anyways, a few internet searches or asking some friends you're comfortable with and you'll probably find or create a group in no time.

And circle jerks don't make you gay!!

P.S. I know for a fact that some circle jerks allow women to join, too. Not that common, though.

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The post immediately below strikes me as hot for some reason.

I remember when I was little (12 or so) a friend and I did this. As usual we found the his parent's porn. We were watching the video, and could not help it.

The fun part for me was that during the search for porn, I stubbled upon his mothers lingerie collection. His mom was hot and I did have a school boy crush on her. Anyway I was using his mothers lingerie in during the jack session. Now I don't know if his mother found out, but soon after words, his mother was more friendlier to me. Giving me hugs, and pad on my butt when we were leaving the kitchen or the living room.

There are clubs actually. I saw it on that show that comes on after "Sunday Sex with Sue" ... there are wanking clubs that have both men and women members... its true.

could be that the your just an exhibitionist. maybe you could do it with your wife on the couch i dunno man

I would never feel comfortable wipping it out in the room with my guy friends for the purpose of self pleasure. :crazy:

I've done it too, something about grabbing your cock and stroking it while your buds are beating theirs. Would love to do it again too.

Never done it myself but have heard lots of stories from the boarding house in high school about them!

dang this is an old topic but since someone else brought it back and i've never seen it i might as well put in my two cents.

I think it's a shame how people sort of attacked borf when he posted this, probably a very hard thing to do even with the anonymity of the internet. Admitting this is something he is into probably wasn't easy for him. I mean, from the looks of his # of posts, the poor guy didn't really post again after this. And doing stuff like this doesn't necessarily make you "gay;" it all depends on how it's done or whatever. Hopefully people will be more open-minded or not reply insensitive things to people who post here looking for advice.

But anyways, I say, to each his own *shrug*

I'd love to do this with a group of women, but not with a bunch of guys alone. That would not feel right for me.
But if anybody wants to, fine by me. Help yourself ;)

Well if you totally look at it gay is just a word. You could dream about men all day long as a guy that really doesn't make you gay. It would make you curious. Our minds think and explore things. I remember hal saying something like this before. Hell someone could have a homosexual experience and that still doesn't make them gay. Just curious. I hate the fact that the word "gay" is such a widely used word like it is.
You may or may not enodorse homosexuality, or you may be curious about it. That doesn't make you gay. Gay is a lable in my opinion.

What I'm trying to get at here is the desire to do this "circle jerk" doesn't make you wierd per say. Some may disapprove of this but others may wonder. Some men think about other guys. Some watch them, some partake in activities with them. Simply doing this sort of activity does not neccessarily make you gay. This means your mind is exploring possibilities and ideas that it thinks of. That's not a bad thing, it's how the brain works.

So in a final note I want to say that anyone who knows any information about the said idea in question should just answer it. There is no point for negative comments, or comments that say, "Ew gross". This is forum is designed to help people out with questions or ideas about their sexuality. It isn't designed to make fun or slander them. Be nice.


And to answer your question, I've watched porn with a friend before.. it wasn't really planned. We were watching tv latenight and found it on the tube. We watched it a bit. We didn't really pay attention to each other. We did talk about about it and laugh and make some jokes. There wasn't anything sexual between the two of us, however the probably was on each of our personal sides. I mean watching porn has a purpose and it started that. I don't remember much after that. I mean we watched it for a bit and then it got boring. Since I can't say it was planned I'm not sure I can help you in your search to find out more about this. I do however hope that you will find the answers you're looking for. Good luck man.

I mean, to be honest, I think if you approached people with that proposition, it would probably sound a little bit gay to them. I am not really sure what having other guys in that situation would do for someone, in a heterosexual way.

When I was at school, there was apparently a game, called "cummy dodger" where a load of guys had to jack off on a piece of bread, all standing in a circle around it, and the last one to cum had to eat it. I mean, I never actually took part, and it could have all just been a myth - but again, I struggle to see it really in any other light than being a homosexual sex game.

Borf- if you're near a major metro area, check out www.craigslist.org ... they have a page for a lot of metros, and there's a "casual encounters" section where folks try to hook up with other folks, using anonymous e-mail and whatnot.

It might help you out. I've never used it, so I can't vouch, I've just read some of the ads for amusement. Pity me!

Done this with a couple friends before, it's more of a male bonding experience in my opinion.

Yes, I think circle jerking with a bunch of chicks would be AWESOME !

I'm a bit of an exhibionist myself... I love getting naked and doing the whatever with someone or someone's watching... its erotic.. almost like an ego trip... the HOLY HELL LOOK AT HIM GO! is amazing and makes it all the better...

never done a circle jerk... might try it I dunno... but if there's a woman or two involved.. definately... I'm game;)

i have to apologise for the number of rude comments made in this post; ignore them, of course; it certainly takes a good deal of courage to post like this

the first step would be to talk with your wife. maybe she can find some way to help you out in a way that doesn't involve your friends masturbating, which would cut out an extra step. otherwise, I imagine that your friends would be the target audience, although I don't have any suggestions as to how one brings it up.

good luck!

i think that might be a greater cause here, to have people centered on a common, mutual goal.
http://www.masturbateforpeace.com/

Just friends?

The blowjob Clinton got was not sex either.

That is not normal and I hope your wife does not read TF

:lol: we had Soggy Sao here in Australia :D
Albeit it was a Sao (i thin sao is Australian?) biscuit/cracker instead of bread :D

Isn't that Bukkake?

nope one girl and lots of guys is bukkake i believe

Bukkake is just where a bunch of guys cum on one or more girls untill they look kinda like an ameoba....

Depending on whether you would mind strangers or not. Most porn theaters usually ahve large rooms with lots of people in them and for sure you could find someone there to do that with. I visit one place once that actually had back rooms for men to go on and have full on sex in.
Best bet, look for a porn theater somewhere or look for friends who you might be comfortable doing that with.

I know what your talking about. It's usually more extreme with a buddy. Very enjoyable IMO.

Sounds quite a cool idea to me. Any girls up for it? lol :D

yuck!

I heard it called Limp Biscuit, that's where Limp Bizkit got their name.

I think masturbation is something that should remain private.... unless you're doing mutual masturbation with your partner, that is.

i dont think anything is wrong with you but what does it for ya. i know it is not my thing, and what is this titty board you are tlking about? how do i get it

I had some fantasies about it too, back when i was younger, 15 or so.
I kinda regret i never got to it , but if the opportunity ever comes forth i won't hesitate.

I don't think there's anything really wrong with it. There are far weirder things people are into than just jacking off in the same room. If you try some of the yahoo groups or other places for internet personal ads (craigslist) I'm sure there are people you can find.

who the hell are you to say what is normal and what isnt?

show some respect.

I'd have to agree with a few other people here that this thread is starting to turn me on. That being said, I'd be game, given the right circumstances (no other family around, etc.). Some alcohol wouldn't hurt either.