Giving Head... to a Woman
 

Now i saw the thread and all the tips and junk on girls giving guys head. but what i'm interested in expanding my knowledge and ability, is giving my girlfriend head.

does anyone have tips or an ultimate guide on that?

It's pretty complicated cause all women seem to be different in what gets them off. I think guys are allot simpler - put penis in mouth, mimic vaginal sex, voila he cums in your mouth.

Women on the other hand, it takes time to figure each one out what makes her tick. I guess if you could boil it down though - zoom in on the clit, try various techniques, note which one works the best.

One thing more than a few women have told me is that once her hips get rocking, DO NOT change your technique - stick to what you're doing until she blows.

Giving head is slang for a blow job. Unless your girlfriend has a penis, it's called cunnilingus or going down (this one, however, can be used for both males and females).

Capn' Kirk covered the basics. Once you find whatever it is that makes her all vically religious in bed, keep doing whatever it is you were doing. Another one I personally found out is that frequent rythm change is a no-no.

ask her whether she likes it...
ask her whether she can take it... (!!!)
be slow...

I think girls can answer your question better
Good luck

Look for the videos of Nina Hartley giving lessons on Sunny Lane. I think it's from Seymour Butt's DVD: How To Eat Pussy Like a Champ.

Watch Re-Animator for a new and NSFW technique.

^^ I love you man!

As usual, Kirk is good with the ladies, especially when they're green.

However, I take issue with:

I've never known a single woman who wanted her clit "zoomed in on".

Sidle up to the clit. Work your way there. Coyly say "hi there" to it, and then back off again.

Repeat. Spending a bit more time and attention on each "sidle-up".

It's true that every woman is different, but I can lay pretty good odds that after a few minutes of this, you'll have her FULL attention.

I'm with ratbastid on this one-- I can't stand a straight clit action sequence--it's too much and it really ends up being more uncomfortable then pleasurable. Spend some time in the other areas, work your way there, say "hi there" to it and back off a bit.

Ratbastid- you got it completely right in my book.

A lot of women like sucking. I can't stand it. It hurts me a lot. Lick away and flick your tongue but start sucking and I may very well kick you in the head. No, but really, I don't like it at all but a lot of my friends love it. Example of how we're all different I guess.

Get a lesbian to do it.

Some women love immediate and direct clit contact, but some find it downright painful. Better to work your way in slowly until you know for sure.

Some women like pressure, some like light, flicking motions. Some like their clit bit and sucked, some like just licking. Most like quick tongue movements and circling the clit quickly. Just like with a man, ask her to moan or give some verbal feedback when something feels particularly good.

I will say that female arousal isn't like a man's. Do not work the clit and then ignore it for any length of time (unless you know her very well and are playing with her arousal.) It's frustrating when your arousal falls because he's doing something less stimulating and he has to almost start over. Once you're fully engaged on the clit, stay with it, near it, not leaving it for more than a few seconds at a time until she cums. Yeah, I don't care if your jaw feels like it's going to fall off. If you need to take a jaw break, make sure to keep your fingers, thumb on the action in the meantime to "hold your place". And *never* tell a woman that you think she took too long to cum. It's the best way to get in her head...and make sure she takes even longer next time.

There's just no such thing as one guaranteed way to bring off a woman with your mouth. Women are too different from one another.

Guys are like phones from 1960 to 1980: they all look more or less the same-- some are a little bigger, some a little smaller, and they come in different colors, but it's the same unit overall, and the same three or four actions, repeated as necessary in roughly the same sequence, will get you connected up, no matter what.

But girls are like cell phones now: some are smart phones, some are bare-minimums phones, with every range of different options in between represented; some are pay-as-you-go, some are on the monthly plan, and some go according to confusing plans you've never heard of; none of them look precisely the same, and until you are actually using it for the first time, you have no real idea how the thing works. But they're all glossy and shiny and smooth and attractive, and in their own way, each is fun to play with. But most models aren't 100% intuitive, and you may need to read the manual, or ask someone else with the same model for advice.

Obviously, the best possible way to ensure your girl is pleased by your performance is to ask her what she likes. I don't know why more guys don't do this: in my experience, girls are pleased to be asked, and delighted that you want to know, and are invariably enthused with the results.

In any case, if you're determined to find your own way, at the least, it's never a bad idea to start out gentle. Find out what spots she likes best-- as mentioned previously, it might not always be the clit. Find out what levels of stimulation, pressure, and directness she likes. Some girls are all about "Suck my clit like it was a happiness-flavored hard candy," and others will kill you for sucking. Some girls are nuts for "Get your tongue up in there and lick the g-spot," and others will tell you never, ever to put your tongue all the way inside them. And some girls like an all-over tongue lashing like a Great Dane polishing his knob, while others want ceaseless, oh-so-light fluttering, like a vibrator set on "butterfly kisses."

But you have to be willing to be guided, to play along with what they want, to be a good student. Only then will they feel safe enough to both open up, relax, and come; and also to let you do some experimenting. Because in my experience, many women either have some fun sensitive places they haven't done much with-- lots have never had their taint licked, and it can come as a pleasant surprise-- or they may be initially averse to-- like the asshole, which can often come with unwanted associations to bad attempts at anal with less gentle and patient men. But if a girl feels safe and comfortable with you, she may be inclined to visit or revisit those out-of-the-way spots which can be lots of fun for you both. And then you also get to be the guy whom she tells her friends, "You know, I never even knew the taint was a thing, and then he just had me going wild!" or "I thought I just didn't like any kind of anal play, but then this guy came along, and wow, now I'm hooked!"

The girl lurkette and I dated before Stella used to say she had a "operator's manual". We determined together that lurky's manual is a choose-your-own-adventure book. I don't have a manual; I have a pamphlet.

Complicated. I'm plug and play with self loading software :)


Some good advice being banded about in this thread

I think I have the same pamphlet. I love getting sucked off. Most guys do. You meet the odd guy from time to time who doesn't. I never really understood that.

Anyway, when I said "zoom in on the clit" - I was basically cutting to the chase. Sure, there's lots of getting to the clit, but eventually, that's where I end up. The magic button.

You then have to figure out your woman's "clit sensitivity" Some have a very low threshold and those you can lick on top of the hood and it should be fine. Other's I've met - well, they love it rough. One ex I can think of used to LOVE riding my face. I'd lay on my back and she would GRIND her pussy into my face. Damn near broke my face, but she loved it. Other GF I am thinking of loved me to grind my jaw into her pussy as I was munching.

Like I said, it's way more complex giving a woman skull than a guy.

Yeah, I mean, I figured you meant that, but since it's a "how to" thread, seemed like a little clarification was in order.

lurkette is sensitive. StellaLuna is what we call "responsive". lurkette, you look at her clit too directly, you're pulling her down off the ceiling. Gotta be circumspect, with that one. Stella, given the right mood, is awfully hard to touch too hard.

Same goes for other erogenous zones. lurkette's nipples are too sensitive to be dealt with directly, whereas Stella very much enjoys FIRM biting and pinching.

What's not good is when I go on autopilot and forget who I'm with... Poly keeps you on your toes.

www.myfreepaysite.com is one of those sites that gives you free porn to try to sell you subscriptions to paysites, but if you sign up (use a disposable email address!) and click Porn2Go, down near the bottom they offer some of Nina Hartley's instructional videos, including guide to oral sex.
So many people use it to refer to both that it's lost that distinction.

Well, they're wrong.

ratbastid - some people have all the bad luck hey?


This thread is making my mouth water, really bad.

And you're being needlessly pedantic because the intended meaning was conveyed successfully to at least everyone who has responded. English words are defined by common use, not a singular authority.

edit: Yes, I know I'm also being needlessly pedantic.

Absolutely.

So, if you can roll your tongue, could you use that to go up and down on the clitoris? I would imagine you would have to be in a 69 type of position for it to work right.

Take your ring and middle fingers, palm facing you and finger her pussy with them. Place you chin in your palm and lick her clit. Be careful not to over stimulate or get squirted in the face. Oh and moving your fingers forward and back is nicer than in and out.

Then there's this advice...

men are sexual beings, women are emotional beings, giving "head," applies the same though, a females clitoris is a sexual organ and is the most sensitive erogenous zone and through stimulation may produce a "clitoral erection," like that of a male penis. during arousal, excess blood supplies the erectile tissues causing it to swell, same when you get a hard on. From my experience though a female needs for emotional attention to "get in the mood," then us fella's. A nastey pic can get us hard. to answer your immediate question, of course from a male's standpoint, I think you can give female head, wether its using your tounge, fingers, or the head of your penis, and toys...personally my partner needs alot of body massage and indirect stimulation of the clitoral hood, remember, depending on what kind of mood she's in that stimulation could be hard circular movments, or soft, she's great at telling what feels pleasurable...hope that helps.