I can see why you're confused, but really, it doesn't sound like he wants a relationship. The nekked pics of his ex on his phone just confirm that he's not exclusive. I think the jealousy id weird, but rather than try and guess, I'd be asking him wtf that was all about.


If you're confused (and I actually do understand why you are) you need to tell him. Ask him how he sees you guys. Don't come to him upset or pissed, but with a genuine desire to get to the bottom of what's bugging you. Don't expect to hear what you want to hear, but be open to what he's saying. Have an adult conversation, and you will likely understand this better.

Thank You Star & Cj.... I have made up my mind on the situation, when he comes to my families thanksgiving dinner i will talk to him in an adult manner outside before he leaves...

Interesting. :rolleyes:
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You too woods, I appreciate your advice also! This site is great...

You're welcome! :)

Life is short. Spare your sanity by talking with folks directly instead of assuming or being paranoid. I'm just now learning this if you wanna know the truth lol.

Oh please don't do this at Thanksgiving w/ your family. Bad idea. Try it on much more neutral ground. I'd feel waaaay uncomfortable in that situation if I were him. Another day, another place. Not a family get together. I'm thinking a day at the park or similar situation. Somewhere much more relaxed for the two of you.

/edit BTW good luck and you're welcome!

Very True... Good idea

Only where you live, not where I do!

What's the age for drinking there?

People lie.

Hah... oh, I can't believe you just said that.

...

in oz its 18

at least we dont kid ourselves

Wow, that certainly made me step back and think :O

And that's just how life rolls. But it's better to determine he's a jackass yourself instead of assuming or running on others opinions, when they don't even know the person... imo.
Shit, I guess I have it wrong...

All men are pigs and all women are psychotic bitches. Is that how it goes?

there...doesnt that makes you feel better now?

Imma get it tattooed on my upper back.

how ironic... the OP "needs advice"...

woods says "All men are pigs and all women are psychotic bitches"

lovely!


make sure u post pics in exhibition woodsie

I just try to fit in with the cool kids :o.

I think the guy has been completely honest. "I don't want to have a relationship (be committed to one person)." So, he talks to other girls and has some other girls in play on his phone. He is not being respectful to you as a lady which is the most disturbing part of his behavior, but he IS being honest. The only question you need to ask yourself is what do you want? Answer that and act on that.

Just to end the rumors... She's not talking about me.


Thank you. Have a nice day.

I want to add to this, but feel free to ignore at your own risk. I know a few serial daters, guys with a different girl for every day of the week... they all operate under the following idea: They think they have this mutual agreement with all the girls where they know they are not committed, but they also avoid mentioning the others to each other because they know how much of a sore spot it is if it ever gets brought up. If you don't want to be someone's flavor of the week, then you should probably stand up for yourself.

I disagree with "the talk". It's very likely that you'll either end up pissed and upset, or he'll say just enough to soothe you for now, but keep on without a real relationship.

He likes you. He likes hanging out with you. He especially likes being the only one fucking you. But seriously, when a man says he's not looking for a relationship, believe him until he says *and* shows otherwise. He'll take all the easy "relationship-y" things you provide, and he'll feel like he's being straight because, after all, he *told* you he wasn't in it for a relationship. It's not his fault that you read into the hanging out, enjoying time together and fucking as a relationship.

My opinion is that you really have just two choices, accept the status quo, or tell him calmly that you *are* looking for a relationship and you don't want to waste any more time or emotional energy with this situation. This is called a boundary. Boundaries are good things. It means you know what you want and more importantly, it means that you are *not* going to settle for less. If you can maturely state your boundary without criticizing his choices or making ultimatums and then *enforce* that boundary, you are lightyears ahead of your peers.

Sit down with him, watch the Notebook, and blow him.



You'll both feel much better about the whole thing.

Thank you so much, this is the best advice I could ask for! I really appreciate it!