On impotence
 

Now...the thing is, my whole life - I have always been able to get an erection pretty much within 1 minute of thinking about it, or being in any kind of sexy situation, even multiple times in one sitting. It can happen also when I dont particularly want it to, and never in my life have I not been able to get one when I did want to, until last night.

I was with my girlfriend, and we were like in bed together, kissing and so on...and I kind of kept getting a semi and then losing it again. She didnt make a big deal about it and without going into details we did something else that didnt involve the need for an erection on my behalf. She didnt make a big deal out of it, and I tried to act calm - but personally I am pretty concerned.

To answer the obvious questions - I didnt drink that night at all, I do smoke (only cigarettes and not much), I have been under a lot of pressure this week at work and havent had a day off in 12 days, I am overweight, I am in my early 30's - but this has NEVER happened to me before.

On the way to work this morning on the bus I was idly directing a porno movie in my head and without thinking about it got a hard on then which I had to repress by imagining my balls being rapped in a towell full of ice cubes - so I dont think anything is medically wrong with me - but I dont know if I should go and see a doctor in any case? When I got home tonight I watched a porno video for 5 minutes and nothing happened again.

Could this just be a one off, or could there be something seriously wrong with me? Obviously its the kind of thing I only have any experience or knowledge of with regards to myself, I dont know how it is for other men.

These are all factors.

Quick tips:

• Quit smoking
• Manage your stress: "me" time/quiet time, doing things you are passionate about, talk out your problems with those you can confide in, restful/unwinding activities, *time off work*
• Start exercising: cardio and resistance training 3/week
• Clean up your diet.
• Get enough sleep.

These are more connected than you might think.

What does this tell you? Some studies have documented problems with men watching too much porn. Yet, look what your imagination can do.... Keep this in mind when addressing your problem.

If it persists...yes, see a doctor. But this indeed might be a temporary problem. It happens to the best of us.

Take care of yourself.

You're over thirty. After nineteen, it gets harder (or doesn't, in this case) every year.

It happened once. Big deal. I'm a good five years younger than you, and this has happened to me before too. It's rare, but it does occur. Maybe you were stressed out about something that day, who knows. But now I can guarantee you're stressed out about something. You're getting all this performance anxiety, and it's not making your little dude want to perform.

Relax.

Dude, welcome to the human race. It happens. One time is not a trend. Don't over think it. Get some rest and manage your stress.

I tend to think that this sort of situation can easily become a self-fufiling prophecy if you are worrying about it a lot.

If you just put it down to a one-off and concentrate on just having fun you should be ok. If it persists even after you've stopped worrying then maybe I'd see a doctor.

As a woman I can't really give more advice because I don't understand the workings of it like a man does. I think some good advice has already been given by others in this thread in regards to lifestyle.

Performance anxiety. I heard it happens.

Sorry to sidetrack, but curious. Sources/any more info?

Don't have any such citations, but I want to chime in on the "welcome to your 30's" thing.

Since around my 30th birthday, I go through phases of low interest, lack of real physical response, etc. Probably last a couple-three days. I've been thoroughly checked out by a doc, it's entirely normal. During those times, it's a useful thing that I'm good with my hands, if you follow me. I enjoy satisfying my girl(s) and I don't particularly need anything back from them. And then there are phases where I'm a complete animal. Normal. Happens. Not a problem unless you make it one.

Here's the One Truth about sex: When you're hot you're hot, and when you're not you're not. All the rest is just noise.

Porn itself is not a problem. Expectations created if any due to watching porno can be a problem.
Working hard or for days together without off is not a problem. Lack of sleep, lack of rest and fatigue can be problem. learn to work hard without falling fatigue which is a separate topic of discussion by itself.

From your OP, seems the girl is practical and smart.

In such times you can also try to be completely passive! And let her take lead...

Tfp forums helped me a lot. I had overcome the exact above problems you described. Good luck to you

Sexual potency is hugely affected by your health. Follow Baraka's orders. Also consider taking omega3 pills, increasing salt, and (very rarely) iron supplements.

Do you drink alcohol?
Alcohol has ruined entire evenings for me several times.
What's more damaging is that women interpret lack of an erection as some sort of personal insult, even after filling you full of beer all night!

Get your testosterone level checked. I am 31 and am not afraid to admit had erectile issues for a while.

I knew there was something wrong. It's a simple blood test, but for some reason no doctors would check my levels. They even put me on anti-depressants, which certainly didn't help. I finally asked specifically for a testosterone level check. Guess what? It was a about 1/3 of the low-normal level. Now I get shots in the hip every 3 weeks and things are better. They even prescribed me Levitra just in case. That shit works.

The OP is from a year ago. He probably doesn't need the advice anymore.

and no offense, but this is why the forum is dying. new users are trying to take part in discussions(albeit old ones)but older members say things like this.

Yeah, I'll respond to that.

This is a specific advice thread. If Makhnov had come in to re-raise the question with his own perspective, I could see re-raising the question. But he's asking the OP to respond to him, and I seriously doubt the OP is still around. I didn't want Makhnov to be disappointed that he didn't get a response.

I don't mind an old thread coming back for good reason. It happens all the time.

I think there's value in all the comments and I don't think asking the question "Are you drinking alcohol?" was directed only at the OP.

I'm 54 and occasionally have problems. Impotence is related also to circulatory problems. If you smoke, your capillaries contract and blood flow slows. This is a lab in biology: drop some nicotine solution on a goldfish's tail and watch the blood flow through a microscope. I don't smoke, thank god.

If you have high cholesterol or high blood pressure due to being overweight or out of shape, your blood vessels are constricted and you might have trouble getting blood to your penis.
Omega 3 and eating fish are good for cholesterol. Mediterranean food is recommended. So diet is important as is exercise. It doesn't take a lot of exercise to lower your blood pressure. I did it be riding my bike to work for a week before my doctor's appointment and was able to avoid being prescribed blood pressure and cholesterol medication. I'd rather spend my money on Ciallis, which I don't really need, but gives me confidence.