Malik

> Lost my virginity a while ago. (IT TOOK FOR EVER, MY GOD.)
> Been doing missionary, and variants of it for a the most part.
> Decided to try doggy style the other night and stuff went wrong.

It felt awesome for me. Plus, girl has an awesome donk. <3

But she complained that if I went too far in it felt as if I was hitting her bladder(?) and every time I hit it she had the urge to go to the ladies room. On top of that, I couldn't really figure out a way of going in that she especially enjoyed, and consequently couldn't make her moan in ecstasy like in missionary. Come to think of it, most girls in porn don't seem to enjoy doggystyle as much as missionary either, how odd.

Anywho. I'm going to try switching up the position with some variations from AskMen and see if she likes it any better.

Other than that I'm not sure what to do as far as her pleasure in that position goes, so if any of you have had any difficulty with this position please share your solutions. You can be as 'scientific' as you want as well with your answer, I love to learn. (Hah.)

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Doggystyle hurts/doesn't satisfy my female partner, solutions?

Lucifer

you may be hitting her cervix, which would be uncomfortable for her. Don't plunge in right away, use some short strokes to get her warmed up (so to speak). In missionary, you rub her clit with your body, which obviously doesn't happen from behind. Why not try reaching around and using your fingers, or getting her to touch herself?

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snowy

My guy is too big for traditional doggy, so here is our variation: I lay flat on the bed with my legs together (sometimes with a pillow under my hips for a little bit of lift) and he puts his legs on either side of mine. It helps me control the depth. It's still pretty deep though, so I would recommend warming up in another position before switching to a doggy variant.

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Plan9

I've had three partners out of ten that liked doggystyle and only one of them actually came from it. My junk didn't hit their junk the right way. No biggie.

The usual complaint is that the penetration is too deep and that it's hitting something it isn't supposed to... like the cervix. Other complaint is that they get tired holding the "coffee table" position and would prefer to flop flat on the bed while you bang away from behind. Having the woman lay flat also adds the additional cushion of her buttocks to the equation, which helps prevent cervix-stabbing. I've had success with partners achieving orgasm from this position. Try it out.

Also ensure your partner is properly aroused through oral or manual stimulation. Foreplay is crucial to penetration comfort for women.

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Check it out if you need ideas for other ways to poke your partner.

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curiousbear

Honestly it depends your dick
I wanted to try it for long time. Since an year I do it. Only issue is I come very fast in this style. But it is very pleasurable for her! Later I learnt that is because my dick curves downwards. And in this style it seems to be rubbing the right parts of my SO

So check out what works best for your goods!!!

Recent addition to my favorites... in missionary, hold her ankles, and push it close to her face. I basically like the positions that make SO go Owwww!

(thanks to Tfp - we are having good times)

ChilliNy

Female here-is this the first time your partner has tried doggystle? If so, it does hurt for a while. Remember your getting in deeper than before, and in that position her cervix will be eaiser to hit. It took me a while to get used to it, but my boyfriend makes the effort not to go in very deep until after 15 minutes or so. It's a greatly satisfying position once you get it right. Try side by side then roll onto doggystyle-it makes it eaiser on her. Also she may need to put her face down and slant her lower body down while keeping her ass up-may stop you from going too deep-and the visual for you is amazing.

mixedmedia

Like others have said, if she is having discomfort, you need to allow her more time to become aroused. When a woman is aroused, her uterus will actually contract putting less pressure on the cervix and giving you a little more room.

Also, it can be more uncomfortable for a woman when she is near menstruation for the same reason - weight/pressure on the cervix.

You can also do the doggy position with her legs closed and yours open (opposite of how it is usually done) which will prevent you from going too deep.

Also, it's common for a woman to feel the urge to pee when she is receiving g-spot stimulation...

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jimk

lie on bed, have her on top facing your feet....some call it "backwards cowgirl," I think.

gives you similar visual & sensation to doggy but lets her control the depth.

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wooÐs

I was with a guy once who plain and simple, was just too long for me. No matter what we tried, it hurt. I thought I was going to choke on in a few times ffs.

I guess trying the above suggestions won't hurt. But also make sure to keep it gentle when starting out. Outright banging is fantastic but sometimes you need a more kinder approach beforehand. gl! And I'm interested to hear of the progress made.

FuglyStick

That wasn't her vagina.

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Seaver

Most have already stated it, you're hitting the Cervix, wait until it's a crazy monkey sex type of night to do the true doggy style. With my last GF we had different size issue, I'd be grazing the cervix during missionary... which means doggy would be pounding it pretty hard.

So 9/10 instead of doggy we usually would do it lying spoon position while she held her vibrator on her clit. This makes sure you never get all the way in, and she'd always cum pretty hard with the added help.

Though on that 1/10 crazy-monkey sex night (usually at height of ovulation) she'd get in missionary and say, "I want you to f- the sh- out of me!"

God I loved those nights.....

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Vigilante

My wife loves doggy, but it does make her bleed a little sometimes. Still, she has a lot of fun. She loves sticking her ass up for me.

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PonyPotato

I enjoy doggystyle.. but not if my partner is too big and hits my cervix too hard. That is, unfortunately, an issue with my current boyfriend. If he doesn't tease me mercilessly before any sex, it takes a bit of time for me to be able to take all of him. And he likes to go in deep. SIGH.

However, during that lovely ovulation time of the month when I'm constantly ready to jump him (like Sunday, whoooo), he can go as deep as he wants because I'm already super duper aroused. Lots of fun. Sort of makes me wish ovulation came more often than once a month.

Also note: doggystyle gives you a pretty good opportunity to reach around and give her breasts and clitoris some nice treatment with a finger or two that were, perhaps, recently lubed up by making a pass around her vulva. Encouraging her to do some of this pleasurable work herself may also help.

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YellowBird

All of the above is true. I find it hurts like hell when you start but gets better and better. I prefer it with my chest and arms on the bed, bum in the air.

girldetective

Doggiestyle: Ow?

Doggiesytle: WoW!

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Malik

@Lucifer: She's done that once during missionary before, I'll try getting her to do it in this position. >:)
@snowy: That may be my problem too, I'll try having her lay down.
@Crompsin: Two for the laying down position, hope it works. <3
@curiousbear: Yeah mine curves like that too. Was always horny while wearing tight jeans. :(
@ChilliNy: No it wasn't her first time with doggy, but she did say I was significantly bigger than her last few partners though, so I guess that could kinda throw everything off. We did try side-by-side once, but there wasnt enough room on my floor. We could attempt it again though. :p And yeah that view is amazing. <3
@mixedmedia: Yeah I have been told that about g-spot stimulation, but I didn't think that was it since she doesn't really have that problem in missionary. It could just be the position though.
@jimk: I'll have to see about getting her to do that. :D
@wooÐs: Nooo, don't say too long. D: I will.. try to be gentle, and report back. :p
@FuglyStick: She says: "[profanity], it was my vagina!"
@Seaver: Haha my friend will only tell me that when she's drunk.
@Vigilante: Lol it must be great doing it with someone who 'admits' they like doing things like that for you.
@PonyPotato: I'll be sure to leave nothing untouched.
@YellowBird: Yeah, I want her in that position too. >:D

Thanks for your input guys. :D <3333

Lol I'll get back to you two on that.

Sorry for replying all at once guys. (If it bothers you.)

Anormalguy

There is a device that a man can wear on his cock to stop him from going too deep. I have no idea how well it works because I've never had that problem .

As mixedmedia said, g-spot stimulation can cause the sensation of needing to pee. From my understanding, most women can learn to relax and enjoy the stimulation, but some women find it to be too much.

I guess that my wife & I are lucky because doggy-style and/or g-spot stimulation has never been a problem for us.

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curiousbear

boy here - it is one of my favorite position
there are minor variations with totally different results

Malik

That device sounds horrible, it's bad enough I have to use a condom.

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Xerxys

^^ Gross Man!!!

Anormalguy

We were up all night screwing, and now I'm hungry. Where the hell are the bagels I bought yesterday?

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Plan9

Uh, that's a Krispy Kreme donut.

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Malik

I borrowed one for some quality time, you can have it back now.

Daniel_

It's a GLAZED Krispy Kreme donut....

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Strange Famous

When one weighs a little over 20 stones, and your girlfriend weighs a bit under 9 stones... certain sex positions work better than others.

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Anormalguy

I think that a bagel would work much better than a donut.



I couldn't find a link to the quit-bruising-her-cervix device.

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Jesus, Big Pun!

I'm not as fat as Big Pun (or even Fat Joe). Im as fat as Beanie Sigel at the most.

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Plan9

The song, dude... not the guy.

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