Anal play
 

Inspired from the thread in the ladies forum, it seems that a lot (most?) of the women here are very open to anal sex, and enjoy it, which is great. I love to see people who are in touch with their sexuality, and willing to experiment.. even if they decide it's not for them.

A lot of the women here were/are interested in reversing the role a bit and trying some ass play on their men. Whether that's starting off slow with a tongue or finger, or going all out with a strap on.

So men, where do you stand on this subject? Have you tried it? Is it something you'd like to try? If you are totally against it, why is that?

Girls, I know we have the thread in the Ladies Lounge, but if you'd like to add anything to this (or in response to one of the guy's posts), please do. Have at it.

Myself, I love anal play (giving and receiving), and I love it when a guy is sexually adventurous enough to at least be open to the idea. Some of the guys I've been with have had their most "explosive" orgasms with a bit of ass play involved. :p

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As I've posted in other Tilted Sexuality threads, I enjoy receiving (and giving) anal stimulation. It's not something we do on a regular basis, but my wife & I do enjoy putting the strap-on to good use. My wife usually has several orgasms while pounding away.

Perhaps the guys here are a bit more bashful than I'd thought. :lol:

I don't have any desire to try it, but I wouldn't be opposed, either. If she was enthusiastic, I might even look forward to trying.

I love anal play both giving and receiving. My wife and I have anal sex about 5 times a year, usually as a special occasion kinda thing. She's not all that into it but I love it, so she takes one for the team every now and then. Usually when I'm getting a hand job she'll throw a little ass play in there...WOW!

I'm going to try this soon. I hear it provides for an orgasm like no other and, as with anything else, I'm willing to try at least once.

I'm going to dress up as a girl when we do it too...

Yeah.

I'd probably try it, but I can't really be in a controlling situation when someone else is ramming something up my ass. Being in control is what Bear Cub is all about in the bedroom.

I'll have to say that it is lots of fun!

Good, well built...um, equipment...is a must if you do some serious role reversal with any regularity. Once Starkizzer and I found a setup that worked well for us it was a lot more enjoyable. We haven't had enough time to do anything like that in a long, long time, but hopefully I can persuade her to do it again sometime soon.

The thick protective carpet of ass-fur basically removes all chances of anything getting remotely near my ass.

And I like it that way.

I doubt any woman will want to hack their way through fields of pubic hair just to stick their fingers/tongue in your ass, so you might just be safe.

Guys, be kind to your women and shave/trim (or better yet wax, although I know that's a long shot) before they play with your back end. :p

A few basic tips, especially for using a strap-on, larger vibe/dildo, etc.:

1. If you want to make sure that things don't get messy, use enemas.

They don't have to be large volume enemas that cause cramps. Two small ones using plain warm water, held a few minutes before emptying, then repeated, works well for us. Don't be afraid to experiment to find what works best for you.


2. Use plenty of lube.

Again, use plenty of lube. Obviously lube in the rectum is needed, but also give the lube time to soften the skin around the anus. If you feel a cracking and/or burning sensation around your anus, have your partner spend some time gently rubbing in more lube.


3. Find the toys/tools that work best for you.

Experiment, and be realistic (a baseball bat sized dildo might look really cool, but probably won't feel so cool to the less experienced). In the case of strap-ons, a sturdy harness that fits very snuggly is a must for serious prolonged thrusting.


4. Take it slow.

It takes a while before the spincter will relax enough to allow penetration. Don't start vigorous thrusting until you're ready for it. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. Don't force it, you can always try again another time.


5. Try different positions.

Especially when using a strap-on. Most women aren't used to being in the male role, and might experience discomfort such leg cramps. It helps if the man isn't straining to maintain an awkward position.


6. Know when enough is enough.

When things get uncomfortable, stop. A willingness to experiment combined with a healthy dose of common sense is key.


7. Don't base your expectations or judge your results on what you see in porn.

Just the same as regular sex. The people working in porn are employed because they have certain abilities and experience that us mere mortals probably don't have.

I always see this in threads and wonder...

Perhaps overkill in some cases?

To my knowledge, none of the ladies I've ravaged over the years have ever used anything other than a bowl of Raisin Bran the night before. Never had any mess issues in any of my booty pillaging adventures... and there is always that inner monologue moment of "Well, is someone gonna shit the bed here?" where you careful examine the workspace. Smooth sailing. If your partner likes to drink PBR and eat McDonalds all the time... yeah, you'll need an enema.

This is why high fiber hippie chicks are so much better in bed.

Ive never tried it, and I have to admit I have absolutely no desire or wish to try it. Its something that completely turns me off.

Just curious...if you've never tried it how do you know it turns you off?

I've been with people with the same outlook, but communication and taking it really slow, one step at a time, 9 times out of 10 they find they like it

Overkill perhaps, but we prefer to take the better safe than sorry approach. We don't use enemas when I do my wife anally & we've never had a problem, but a lot of that has to do with the depth of penetration and the amount of lubricant used. I don't have a horse dick and copious amounts of lube aren't needed, so the chances of me getting into the 'danger zone' are pretty slim.

Our strap-on has a fairly sizeable dildo attachment, & we use plenty of lube. This combination can get messy, and there's nothing sexy about smelling and seeing shit (for most people anyway), hence the enemas.

My, what a fitting custom user title.

I've done my boyfriend several times with some nice glass dildo's he loves it

You could say the same thing about homosexuality, or many other things. Ive never had sex with a man, but I know that the idea of it turns me off.

I truly believe that even with homosexuality you can't really know until you give it a shot. Just because the idea of it turns you off doesn't mean the act will turn you off, once you get past the taboo...

How roughly you're railing her will also play a big factor in this. Enemas are useful if you plan on having pretty rough, anal sex. Gentle/moderate anal sex shouldn't really be a problem.

There might be something to that, but right now - I personally dont feel aroused by homosexuality. If I see a nude man it doesnt arouse me or interst me. If I see a nude female it does.

To me, in my personal sexuality, I see anal sex with a woman as a semi-homosexual act.

I am not implying either that there is anything morally wrong with homoexuality, or that straight men who have anal sex with women are latent homosexuals - but it my own feeling the two thing are linked.

Even if I am watching a porno and the man starts taking the woman up the wrong pipe I skip the scene, it makes me feel slightly queasy to watch. I/m not saying my feelings are normal, its just how they are.

If my girl was to confess to me that she liked most of all to be taken up the arse - I dont know what I'd do. For her sake I guess I'd have a go, but I dont know if I could physically do it (in terms of keeping an erection while committing such actions). Although I think it is very unlikely that she has such wishes either to be honest.

While I do see what you're saying and do respect your opinion, SF, I must say I don't agree with you at all here, man. The only way any sexual act can be construed as homosexuality, in my opinion, is if two people of the same sex are involved in it. Saying that a man having anal sex with a woman, whether he catching or pitching, shows homosexual tendencies is the same as saying that a man who receives a hand/blow job from a woman has homosexual tendencies. At least, in my mind.

You know, I don't believe we were necessarily "meant" to do any of those things, but that's the great thing about these creative minds we were given; we can find all kinds of new ways to have fun with our bodies.

I'm a complete hedonist, though, and you, sir, are clearly not, so I can see where we'd differ in opinion here...

Maybe... I wouldnt deny that I have some things Im a bit uptight about. I take the point about for example getting head - if your eyes were closed you might not tell the difference between a man and a woman sucking you off - but its just the way I feel about anal sex.

Another thing which I've always found, and always found a bit strange about myself is that for me I am much more interested in my partner "getting off" than in myself "getting off"... although of course in the normal course of things I aim for both....

I dont want to go into details about like my personal life with my girlfriend - but I sometimes get more emotionally excited about the foreplay (using your hands and mouth etc) to the actual act. But anyway, I dont want to go too off topic.

When I think about anal sex, in my mind I have an image of - you know - shitting, and I just find it an utter turn off. I know factually that any girl probably must have to take a shit sometimes, but I dont accept this emotionally and dont want to think about it at all.

lolwhat?!?

I have to actually suck a dick before I know that I won't like sucking a dick?

This feels like a trap...

^^ It's how he got me ...

Only probably? :eek:

To answer Ally's original question.

I am willing to try about anything in the bedroom.


My wife has been doing some experimenting with anal play with me. She is not a big fan of it being done to her. I would like to experiment with her more, but that makes her uncomfortable.


Recently I have learned how to make her squirt. She seems intent on returning the favor.
She is looking to find the best way to please me. Some oral while she gently rubs my anus is very pleasurable. It feels great and gives me a warm sensation.

My wife has done a little experimenting with trying to massage my prostrate. It was not bad, but it was not some amazing thing either.

She has tried a small toy of hers on me as well. I am sure we will try more on some other occasions.

If anyone has some good tips on how to find the right spots please share them.

Anal is alright in my book! My wife loves it, and it's cool with me when she does it to me. Been a long while, but can't wait till the next time. I think about it all the time, giving her and her giving me. It's a weird feeling at first, but after that, it becomes awesome!

Anal: There needs to be more consensual and less federal.

I, personally, don't think you can really know whether you like anything or not unless you try it.

I can understand the idea turning you off to the point you don't want to try it, but then you don't know if the act truly turns you off.

If there's one thing I know for sure about sex, thinking about it and doing it are two very different things in these matters.

Can I be the one who takes a dump on your chest?


Preferably on a post-Pabst morning when I eat peeled shrimp for breakfast.

I've never tried it, would be open to it, but I don't think I'd care for it. It's gross. Shit needs to be the farthest thing from my mind when I'm having sex.

You're too late, sir...

Sex, in general, is pretty dang gross. Just think about it. If that doesn't work, I'll use some colorful language in my next post.

I would never let someone stick something up my ass. I know a guy who was with this woman, and when she tried to stick her finger up his ass, he stuck her in the face. He said he really didn't think about doing it, it was just an instinctual defense mechanism. I'd be worried about doing the same thing.

I feel the need to make this anonymously.

I've tried it and I'm addicted. I started ass play long before I had sex for the first time, around 14. I made a dildo, topped it with a condom tied over it, and after everyone went to bed I went to town. It was about 7 inches long and I got nearly the whole thing up there. There was no mess fortunately, and I kept it stashed safely and used it repeatedly for a few weeks before I threw it away in pieces. I hated trashing it because it was fantastic release, but the risk of family finding it was too high.

After that I got away from ass play for a few years, but around 18 I wanted to try it again. I fingered my ass all the time in the shower so the next step was a new toy. I found some things I could use around the house, but stash in plain sight and never be questioned for it, like my shampoo bottles. After that the habit stuck.

Once I was feeling a bit adventurous and decided to try male on male. It's not the male I was interested in, but the penetration and the penis. It was pleasurable, but I felt a bit weird after that. I didn't do it again. Hey, at least i tried and now i know. Men in and of themselves are inherently ugly to me. Seeing a massive cock without the male is not repulsive, however, and if some magical floating cock could produce gallons of cum, I would spend my life savings to buy it. If I found a hot very fem tranny with an 8in cock that was the width of a soda can, I think I might have a heart attack. I love cum and I love anal and the combination of anal sex and hentai-style flowing of gallons of fluids are quite a turn-on even if unrealistic. I never turn down my own cream pie if I'm in that sort of mood, and my SO doesn't mind one bit if she hasn't finished yet. ;) I've even gone so far as to stash cum in sealable containers over time, saving my load every morning and pouring it in with the rest until I have enough to have a massive cream pie with my SO on the receiving end of a very happy tongue. And yes, i swallow.

back to anal play. Most of the pleasure, for me, is in the stretch. It's not always how deep, but how wide. My SO helps me with this now, and it's really nothing to put her hand up there wrist deep. We've gone so far as to get 2 hands up there. By that time I'm practically blowing my load without any stimulation of my cock. She'll do different things such as rubbing my prostate, or in and out sliding over her knuckles, rolling her hand around or going for double. Sometimes I am able to breathe, relax and enjoy the stimulation. More often than not I can't keep my hands off myself and I end up blowing within minutes. It's always a huge mess of cum on the towel under me, after that. Sometimes I got for round 2, but usually it's just once.

I always do a simple wash-out before ass play. Sometimes in the morning when we wake up I don't, but in the morning I'm clean anyways. I can tell if thing are "on the move" so if I feel my gut active, I tell her let's do something else. She's not big into anal penetration so if she's not in the mood herself I tongue her ass and get off that way. There is no ass on this big blue planet sweeter than her's.

For the future, I would love to wake up to her fingering me. By the time i wake up I am usually pointing my butt at her anyways, because I get hot at night ans roll over the other way. I would have absolutely no complaints if she shoved her fingers in my ass then shoved them in my mouth. Like i said, I'm clean in the morning, and the dirtiness of the act would send my over the edge. If she fingered her own butt (or cooch, that would be hot too) and slid her finger in my mouth, I would lose it then as well. If she frenched me after that, I would lose all coherent thought. Nothing could be hotter. She won't do either, but if she got off to dirty sex like that I wouldn't know what to do with myself, but I have no doubt I would know exactly what to do with her!

This is the first time I've ever said this to anyone, so as i said, i prefer this remain anon.

My wife does it to occasionally but not often enough for me what a turn on, we are planning on getting a feeldoe so she can get off while doing me with it, i think she will want to do it more often, i think she likes having the power when she bangs me with it just not enough stimulation for her, we are planning on getting the feeldoe and femdom costume for her oh ya i can't wait, nothing is better than being tied up and spanked and getting anal screwed by your lover.

It's totally true. As a man, I thoroughly enjoy a bit of anal stimulation, especially in the form of a wriggling, probing tongue. We've also explored the deeper prostate massage. The results are *always* quite intense orgasms, both in the amount of fluid of produced (both pre-cum and semen) and in the overall physical sensations. If there is "ecstasy" achieved in orgasm, this has to be it. It's a different type of orgasm all together and I am extremely fortunate to have a SO who enjoys exploring the kinkier avenues of our sexuality together; naturally, I gladly reciprocate with *whatever* she wants to explore as well. :thumbsup:

My ex wife would do it. She used a vibrator on me, but said no way to a strap-on. My current wife will lick me, rub me on the outside with fingers, but cried after I asked her to put a finger in. She did it and afterwards said she didn't like it. I guess my days of having a woman use a strap-on with me are over. To all the guys who have a lady willing to do it, wow you are so lucky. To all the women willing to do it, you are something special indeed. I am envious of you! I would love to have a woman do that to me.

I don't know. If my wife wanted to try something, I'd be okay with it. I'll try almost anything once.

But I'm one of those guys who aren't really into ass. I've only ever asked to fuck my wife in the ass once in the six years we've been together, and I honestly just prefer the pussy. Besides, getting a whiff of ass just kills the sex for me. I find it very offensive.