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Sorry to pick on you, but it's all rooted in this myth. Male sexuality is what controls and drives him, female sexuality is something to put on a pedestal and defend or to be ashamed of. Sex toys for women are OK because millenia of male-dominated society was fought by feminism, creating both a celebration of female sexuality and a reactionary movement against that. Male sexuality is the same as it's always been, and it's still seen by many as a competition in which masturbating instead of going out and asserting it is emasculating.
Face it, after having enough food and water to survive, the next strongest instinct is to fuck. If it wasn't, there wouldn't be six billion of us, over 3.5 billion years after the first known life appeared on earth. |
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Ive never heard of this thing before, and it does strike me as a bit sleazy. I mean, if you dont use a wank sock, or a rubber johnny every time you use the thing, its gonna get abit messy inside.
I cant imagine it would feel like the real thing, I think it would just make me feel ridicolous, I'd just as soon as have a normal wank.
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Haven't really heard of those two terms (although I hope they're as fun as they sound), but yes - as I stated way earlier in the post, the cleanup is a bit off-putting (as is the preparation). You think staying awake to cuddle is tough? Try cleaning and drying a rubber sleeve, then powdering it with corn starch before you doze off! Of course nothing is going to feel like the real thing - but it's pretty darn close. What's a normal wank? Fist grip? One hand or two? Left hand or right? Underhand or overhand? Dry? With lube? Water-based or oil-based? Shaft or Head? Knuckle babies or kleenex? There are as many ways to masturbate as there are people. I find it funny that this thread, in so many instances, boils down to two camps - the "whatever floats your boat" vs "that's why God gave us hands, dammit." I think - and it's been said many times in this post - the longer the thing is around, the more acceptance it'll find. I'm surprised the comments are so across the board here, though. There was a thread about this a few years ago that was full of glowing recommendations: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...leshlight.html .
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What the Heck is a Rubber Johnny???
(See, this is yet another reason to love Strange Famous, he's so unique and has taught us Yanks sumthin' new almost daily!) ![]()
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That's why I had to respond - those were perhaps the most interesting two sentences I've read in a long time!
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a rubber johnny is a condom
a wank sock I guess is self explanatory - basically something that teenage lads sometimes use to save having to clean up the mess As for having a wank two handed... Christ! Im ashamed to admit Ive only ever need to use one hand!
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has all her shots.
Location: Florida
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Consumer Alert!
My boyfriend had a fleshlight and he said it fell apart - the latex or silicone lining came apart at the seams...take from that what you will. ![]()
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Hi floor! Make me a samwich.
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When my honey first bought one I was, well we will just say, less than pleased. But then one night he used it on himself while going down on me...it was A-M-A-ZING! I don't know how else to explain it other than he said it felt really good and going down on me was turning him on more and his licking and sucking reflected as such.
Hmmm I think we need to break it out again.
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I'm a dude, and I don't think I would use one. They're rather large, and do have that certain stigma, more so than a dildo. So I wouldn't want one standing tall on my PC desk.
But mainly, I'm perfectly satisfied with my hands.
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I feel the same way about vibrators. Meh.
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Hi floor! Make me a samwich.
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Now as for vibes, nothing on him vibrates, so I am not replacing him with something that does the same thing he can. And while you may say that I could just as easily get my pleasure from his tongue, I say his tongue is not long enough to reach my clit while I am riding him cowgirl style. Enter vibrator! Does the job that I can't seem to get done with sex or fingers alone. He can jerk off with his hands and get an orgasm...I am incapable of getting myself off with out his tongue or my handy dandy vibe. Thus while I do not think buying a fleshlight is more offensive than buying a vibe, it was a bit of a shock when one showed up and I was not told that it would be.
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You know, Starkizzer brings up a good point.
It's women that perpetuate the sleazy stereotype. They know that if every guy had a fleshlight, we'd have no need for women. Ever.
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I'd be less concerned about an "equal" substitute than I would about an item that could do something I could not.
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Hi floor! Make me a samwich.
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I think I should clarify that at the time he purchased it, not only did he not inform me of it first, but I was at a point in my life where I did not have good self esteem. I was at my heaviest and I was just in a bad place overall. My own insecurities (and I stress again that the problems were from my end) made me think that I was being replaced, I didn't understand why he would want to have anything to do with me. Though now thinking back to the time when he purchased me my first vibrator and dildo, I was a little taken a back by that act as well. Guess I just don't take surprises well. Oh and I like to poke the fleshlight it feels really cool. ![]() ![]()
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#63 (permalink) |
The sky calls to us ...
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And for some reason, people seem to think it's a zero-sum game. I go down on her twice, she owes me 3 BJs. She agrees to try anal, I have to let her peg me. Even somewhere as allegedly progressive, open-minded, and enlightened as TFP, this kind of stuff is still pervasive.
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Hi floor! Make me a samwich.
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No phoning a friend for me, so I still have all my life lines. ![]() Honestly, I think they need to make stress relief balls out of the material that the fleshlights are made out of. They feel really awesome, and now that I have had the chance to poke and play with one first hand I know why guys like them...hell dildos don't feel as nice. Granted the "flashlight" cover does nothing but draw more attention. ![]()
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I have no problem with masturbation since I own one of those clitoral vibrators myself but I would never buy my bf a fleshlight. Don't know why but if I buy a sextoy it should be something we both can have fun with.
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i dont think its any more sleazy....
i would laugh just as hard if i found a vibrator at a female friends house as I would if I found a fleshlight at a male friends house... its not wrong i would just think it was funny if i saw it
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Example: You're a guy in a relationship. Your female partner doesn't want you to masturbate unless she's there or doesn't want you to masturbate period... the only masturbation you're going to be doing, buddy, is when you're using her body. And your female partner? She doesn't masturbate unless you're fucking her or perhaps at all anymore. Since she gets all-serving The Cock, why would she possibly need to engage in self love? Right? Total shameful 1940s housewife logic. It isn't about pleasure, it's about control. Silly. It's like mentally putting your dick in handcuffs and giving the key to your bitch partner. ... When I'm in a relationship... I'm going to masturbate. All the time. She'll be at work, I'll be at work... she'll send a naughty email and I'll need to bludgeon the Crompbat down to manageable size before the presentation or heading out to lunch. I'll be thinking about my partner or I'll be spanking it to an adult entertainer I wouldn't give the time of day to in an attempt to avoid acquiring an STD, but it doesn't matter because my loyalties lie with my partner. I'm not shoving a stiffy in a Craigslist hookup. Turns out masturbation is fantasy and release. I'd expect my partner to do the same. If my partner is incapable of enjoying fantasy and experiencing release... there are bigger issues than sexual compatibility at play here. Relationships joined at the hip don't work. Relationships joined at the crotch especially don't work. ... I get the feeling a lot more people operate like that than will admit to it. And they wonder why they're unhappy with their sex lives. Fight the power. Masturbate constantly. /nonsense post Last edited by Plan9; 08-08-2009 at 08:40 AM.. |
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For us, they're usually a piece of hard plastic that kind of gets in the way and pokes us in the belly when we thrust in. And it's loud. Don't get me wrong, I love seeing a woman having an amazing time when she's with me, and I'd love to try it with those fingertip vibrators, but vibrators don't add more fun to sex than any other sex toy, if the mood is right and if both people are having fun. Trust me, between a plastic sleeve and a woman, we're not gonna ever replace real sex with you for a fleshlight. Let him have his fun when you can't have fun together.
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Location: Indiana
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The idea of male masturbation really turns me on, so I think that colors my opinion of the fleshlight. My guy doesn't seem that interested in getting a fleshlight, I felt like a weirdo for getting all excited when I discovered it. I called him in and was pointing to all the different configurations he could have. His reply:
"Why do I need that when I have you?" Because it's freaking awesome, that's why. He did happen to see a commercial about The Egg recently, and now wants one of those. I'd rather get him a clear fleshlight. I'd really like to watch it moving through there. |
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