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starbum · 07-04-2003, 09:34 AM

I cant keep it hard. Im not old or anything with issues with getting a hard on, but I just cant maintain it sometimes. Well, sometimes as in.... when I have sex a certain way. And its the most basic of positions...missionary. I mean I can keep it hard and its all great in every position I've tried.... but missionary just makes it go *poof*. Its not that im not turned on...im incredibly horny when I go missionary. I just dont know whats making it go limp. Is it because I have to use my muscles to thrust and stuff? Am I concenrating too hard? The fact that my gf doesnt want to have her breasts showing when we have sex? (she's incredibly self-concious.... ungh. Im trying to work at least the breasts during sex part out. I mean, comon.... eye candy... I am so turned on when I get to watch her ride me or do things to me, I just love watching the act. Whatever it is. (not watching others do it to her, mind you... No. No. Never.))

Im ranting. Sorry. What are some recommendations? Not doing that position? Spicing it up? New technique?

Anyone else have this problem?

sbscout · 07-04-2003, 09:39 AM

try starting with another position and "switch" into missionary...

could be you're trying too hard...

some positions just aren't as satisfying as others...

whatever you do, don't stop "practicing"

starbum · 07-04-2003, 09:44 AM

Well what we usually do is start with girl-on-top and then switch to whatever. When she's on top is the best position so far, its just the reverse...

dudemac · 07-04-2003, 09:52 AM

so she does not want to have her breasts showing during sex? Are the lights off too?

My Totally untrained and un professiona thoughts here, i would say its effecting you by her not being open. Just my psyc 101 there

How about some lingrie that is sheer and you can see thru it?

flamingpeach · 07-04-2003, 10:03 AM

I use to be the same way with my breasts, it took me quite awhile to realize that the person i was with liked my body and liked my breasts, and I had no reason to be self concious.

As for your problem, I don't know what to say except maybe see a doctor about it, so it doesn't turn into a larger problem.

Derwood · 07-05-2003, 09:57 AM

My feeling would be that if she is not able to show you her breasts, then she is probably not ready for sex either. Not to tell you what to do or anything....

nitrorclover · 07-05-2003, 05:15 PM

Sounds like just a preference issue. I just to go almost limp when she was on top of me, but then when I went to missionary it was great! Just do whatever suits you best.

GoldenOuroboros · 07-06-2003, 02:02 PM

Stop concentrating and just do it

If you're thinking about doin a million other things while having sex.. it aint gonna work

rodimus · 07-06-2003, 07:18 PM

don't think about it so much. the problem could be all in your head. no pun intended. if you need help, they do make pills for that

isandro · 07-07-2003, 12:15 PM

Could it be a self fulfilling prophecy?
I mean, that as soon as you shift in that position, you get scared to lose the beef, while normally you'd be too busy enjoying yourself?

Nova_Dust · 07-07-2003, 12:18 PM

It has to go limp at some point. I mean, you can't stay hard 24/7...

So, I say it is mostly a psychological thing then physical. You think too much.

07-07-2003, 01:27 PM

Sounds way more psychological, but it's nothing that the little blue pill can't take care of. (if you're willing to speak to your GP)

GSRIDER · 07-08-2003, 08:21 AM

Are you wanking it a bit too much?.... sometimes with all the cyber visual stimuli its hard to keep that same drive when yer with a girl... especially if she is not.. as you say... showing you the candy. Then you start wondering why and now you've forgotten all about sex and you are slowly "deflating".

but thats just my opinion

Mondak · 07-12-2003, 02:39 PM

Grab soome little blue pills off the internet and try them out. The way I figure it, you can use them for a little while and build up your confidence. You won't have to concentrate so hard and then you will just stop thinking about it. Then you can wean yourself off the pills.

They are not addictive per se - it is just that you will like haveing a hunk of marble between your legs.

07-04-2003, 09:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
starbum Tilted	This is just embarassing. I cant keep it hard. Im not old or anything with issues with getting a hard on, but I just cant maintain it sometimes. Well, sometimes as in.... when I have sex a certain way. And its the most basic of positions...missionary. I mean I can keep it hard and its all great in every position I've tried.... but missionary just makes it go poof. Its not that im not turned on...im incredibly horny when I go missionary. I just dont know whats making it go limp. Is it because I have to use my muscles to thrust and stuff? Am I concenrating too hard? The fact that my gf doesnt want to have her breasts showing when we have sex? (she's incredibly self-concious.... ungh. Im trying to work at least the breasts during sex part out. I mean, comon.... eye candy... I am so turned on when I get to watch her ride me or do things to me, I just love watching the act. Whatever it is. (not watching others do it to her, mind you... No. No. Never.)) Im ranting. Sorry. What are some recommendations? Not doing that position? Spicing it up? New technique? Anyone else have this problem?

07-04-2003, 09:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
sbscout Disorganized Location: back home again...	try starting with another position and "switch" into missionary... could be you're trying too hard... some positions just aren't as satisfying as others... whatever you do, don't stop "practicing" __________________ Always question authority... it'll keep the bastards on their toes!

07-04-2003, 09:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
dudemac Tilted Location: College Station, TX	so she does not want to have her breasts showing during sex? Are the lights off too? My Totally untrained and un professiona thoughts here, i would say its effecting you by her not being open. Just my psyc 101 there How about some lingrie that is sheer and you can see thru it? __________________ Dudemac Author Somewhere

07-04-2003, 10:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
flamingpeach hip mama Location: redmond, washington	I use to be the same way with my breasts, it took me quite awhile to realize that the person i was with liked my body and liked my breasts, and I had no reason to be self concious. As for your problem, I don't know what to say except maybe see a doctor about it, so it doesn't turn into a larger problem. __________________ I've eaten my veggies all my life so bring it on, I am educated and strong for the revolution.

07-05-2003, 09:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
Derwood Who You Crappin? Location: Everywhere and Nowhere	My feeling would be that if she is not able to show you her breasts, then she is probably not ready for sex either. Not to tell you what to do or anything.... __________________ "You can't shoot a country until it becomes a democracy." - Willravel

07-04-2003, 09:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
starbum Tilted	Well what we usually do is start with girl-on-top and then switch to whatever. When she's on top is the best position so far, its just the reverse...

07-05-2003, 05:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
nitrorclover Crazy	Sounds like just a preference issue. I just to go almost limp when she was on top of me, but then when I went to missionary it was great! Just do whatever suits you best.

07-06-2003, 02:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	Stop concentrating and just do it If you're thinking about doin a million other things while having sex.. it aint gonna work __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

07-06-2003, 07:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
rodimus Insane	don't think about it so much. the problem could be all in your head. no pun intended. if you need help, they do make pills for that

07-07-2003, 12:15 PM	#10 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	Could it be a self fulfilling prophecy? I mean, that as soon as you shift in that position, you get scared to lose the beef, while normally you'd be too busy enjoying yourself? __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

07-07-2003, 12:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nova_Dust Upright Location: Toronto	It has to go limp at some point. I mean, you can't stay hard 24/7... So, I say it is mostly a psychological thing then physical. You think too much.

07-07-2003, 01:27 PM	#12 (permalink)
smithja0423 Guest	Sounds way more psychological, but it's nothing that the little blue pill can't take care of. (if you're willing to speak to your GP)

07-08-2003, 08:21 AM	#13 (permalink)
GSRIDER spurt king Location: Out of my mind	Are you wanking it a bit too much?.... sometimes with all the cyber visual stimuli its hard to keep that same drive when yer with a girl... especially if she is not.. as you say... showing you the candy. Then you start wondering why and now you've forgotten all about sex and you are slowly "deflating". but thats just my opinion __________________ No signature at this time.

07-12-2003, 02:39 PM	#14 (permalink)
Mondak Industrialist Location: Southern California	Grab soome little blue pills off the internet and try them out. The way I figure it, you can use them for a little while and build up your confidence. You won't have to concentrate so hard and then you will just stop thinking about it. Then you can wean yourself off the pills. They are not addictive per se - it is just that you will like haveing a hunk of marble between your legs. __________________ All truth passes through three stages: First it is ridiculed Second, it is violently opposed and Third, it is accepted as self-evident. ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)