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Eating a girl out

What are some tips and stuff to make it better?

Make sure she's alive? :)

No really...

Going down on a girl properly is as complicated as it gets when it comes to sex. Each girl is so different that you can find a badass move that works on one and it will just piss off the next. You just have to be aware of the girls movements and if you can hear with her legs wrapped aropund your head noises are a good sign that your doing your job... And last but not least don't be affraid to ask a girl if it's going alright.

Oh, and remember to whipe off your mouth before you go in for a kiss... some girls don't like to taste themselves.

Shave close before you do it, rough on smooth will piss her off.

Brainwave's Cunnilingus FAQ
http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=660841

Everything you could possibly need to know about going down on a girl.

Includes Positions, Tips, Techniques, What to do if it feels good but she can't cum, The Anal Factor, Methods for Multiple Orgasm, Cunnilingus foreplay, and a bunch of other stuff.

From my experience (or lack thereof) it seems that girls like it when you put your tongue all in there, and lick. Doing so gets the most reactions.

Also, do not forget the clitoris, lick that some too..it's reputed to feel really good :D

Addendum: http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip/36_love_tip.html

Check out the whole sexuality section...good stuff.

I don't ever remember a time when a man did a 'badass move' that pissed me off. ;) Maybe I'm just easy to please or the man just had some mad skills lol

just remember: you aren't actually eating!!!!!

teeth are NEVER an acceptable apparatus to use when doing this. I've found that a mixture of the two primary methods (licking and/or sucking) used properly has great effect. had to settle for oral with my last relationship for 9 months before she ready to lose her virginity, so I had lots of practice. It's been 7 months since we were together, so I'm probably woefully in need of practice.

cheers for those links

well i am still a rookie at this, but its not like with basketball in that i can just go practice my jumpshot and ball skills on the court outside.

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I would have to say that listening. Do something and listen to her breathing and how she moves. Did you do something and she tensed up? Did she sound like she liked it? Things like that are important.

For me the idea is to have fun. You have somebodies' very sensitive special parts under your power. Be respectful and gentle. If she asks for more give her more. Tease, pull away, go softer. Try stuff. Mix it up. Explore.

Pay attention.

avoiding it like the plague?

Practice makes perfect!!

Remember doing it to soft or being to gentle is not a good thing. Use pressure and lots of tounge. Lots of jaw movement and use your finger for godsakes!! That feels so damn good.;)

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Originally posted by *Nikki*
Practice makes perfect!!

Remember doing it to soft or being to gentle is not a good thing. Use pressure and lots of tounge. Lots of jaw movement and use your finger for godsakes!! That feels so damn good.;)

See, not for all women! Some like it so light that you are barely touching it, while others (like yourself) like it to be full on face-to-crotch grinding. What works for you doesn't work for everyone!

Derwood, I agree with you. Not all women are the same. Personally, I like both rough grinding and gently and slowly. It all depends on my mood and the amount of horniness I feel at a given moment.

go to bed with a face like a glazed donut

wake up with crazy whiteheads all over your chin

wonder where the hell that chick has been

ice cubes are always fun to play with

go slow and easy....
the clit should receive most of your attention,
and DONT STOP!!!

once she gets excited... DONT STOP. not for any reason. not if you get tired, not if the house burns down. DONT STOP!!

Here's a summarised list that I got from a girl on another forum. We call it: Doing Down 101.

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This is quite an individual thing actually, you'd be surprised how much "good technique" varies from one woman to the next.

A few things to think about:

a) Communication is king (or, perhaps, queen). If you can't tell what works and what doesn't just from her reactions, then you need to have her tell you or guide you in some way. If she's too embarassed to do that, then you need to get her feeling comfortable.

b) Feeling comfortable is a big thing for most women. No matter how good your technique is, many women won't reach orgasm unless they are relaxed. Often the main concern is that performing oral sex is unpleasant for you. Make sure she understands that you love it.

c) Women taste good. If you don't like it much at first, then you will soon. If it's *very* unpleasant, she may have an infection. The taste *will* be stronger after exercise, so keep that in mind if you have difficulties with it. Also the taste changes as a woman gets closer to orgasm. Anxiety about taste is one of the main problems women have when recieving oral sex. If you can't manage to convince her you like the taste and she shouldn't worry about it, take a shower with her first. The taste is very neutral right after a shower.

d) One thing nobody seems to expect is how hard it is. Your tongue *will* get tired, especially if you haven't done it much before. Change techniques to alleviate this, and don't forget that you don't necessarily have to move your tongue all the time, make good use of your lips, and movement of your head and neck.

I've been doing this seven years, now I can practically do push-ups with my tongue.

e) Some people will tell you things like "trace out the letters of the alphabet". That's crap. The only thing that is useful for is helping you get into a nice regular rhythm - the actual movements aren't that special, and if that's all you do chances are you'll have a lot of difficulty making her come.

f) Variety is good. Very good. But it's best early on, when you're teasing her and making sure she's very aroused. Variety isn't generally very good when you're going for the orgasm. Usually it takes something consistent to push her over the edge.

g) Don't go straight for her pussy. She should already be very aroused before you start. Pay attention to the rest of her body. Oral sex can be very uncomfortable for a woman if she isn't aroused when you start.

h) On the same note, often the clitoris is too sensitive to touch at first. This varies a lot from woman to woman, but in general you'll want to avoid it at first, just tease around it. Some women are too sensitive to ever have direct contact on the clit, in that situation you can stimulate it from the side, or through the clitoral hood if she's "hide and seek".

i) As you will have seen, and I mentioned earlier, PAY ATTENTION. If you know how she is feeling at each moment you're at least halfway to being great at oral sex.

j) The clitoris isn't the be all and end all of oral sex. You'll usually need to focus on it to get her to her orgasm, but the rest of the vulva is senstive too, and responds very well to attention.

k) One really common mistake guys make is to try and fuck a woman with their tongue. In general, this is really unimpressive. A few women like it a lot, and it can make a nice different sort of sensation, but most of the time you're much better off directing your attention to the labia and clitoris.

l) There are various "tricks" people use to make oral sex extra special, such as the hot/cold thing Calliope mentioned, and another common one is to do it with a peppermint in your mouth. Personally I think this stuff can be fun, but it's something you should be doing once you're already very good at oral sex, not when you're starting out.

m) Teeth are a BIG nono. Avoid, avoid, avoid. Under certain circumstances and for certain women, teeth gently used can have a place in oral sex, but it's really something you shouldn't even consider until you're a pro. And even when you are, my advice is don't consider it unless she actually asks for it.

n) Fingers can be useful additions or not depending on the woman. I could write a whole seperate post on the subject of using fingers. This is really something you're best off following the advice of your woman on (and learning by experimentation).

o) These are just guidelines. If your woman tells you to do something, DO IT. Regardless of whether or not it agrees with what I've said here. Nobody knows better what pleases a woman than the woman herself.

Vaultboy knows his shit! I could not have put it better myself! Listen to the man, his advice will take you a long way.

For mine, if you are gonna make a woman come, you need some stamina in your tongue - work it out, get it strong, because it will get tired and sore when you are pushing for the Big O, the repitition is a necessity and you have to be able to go the distance!

I've found that grinding some with my chin works wonders too, as well as utilizing my hands to provide added pressure and stimulation. Like the gynecologist says, every one is different, and requires special attention. :)

All I can say is, if you can't love the pussy, you can possibly eat it with passion.

Those sites were wonderful
They helped alot!

Yeah, it may be called eating her out, but if you wear a bib and make munching noises, you'll probably get slapped pretty hard.

OMFG some of the advice here is hilarious.

Take it slow at first.

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Originally posted by nickt
For mine, if you are gonna make a woman come, you need some stamina in your tongue - work it out, get it strong, because it will get tired and sore when you are pushing for the Big O, the repitition is a necessity and you have to be able to go the distance!

Thank god I married a sax player!!!

VaultBoy is right on the money. Every woman is different. Contrary to the ladies posts, my wife lamost NEVER likes it rough. The lighter the better for her.

I always tend to use my tongue on the clit while my fingers gently or occasionally roughly (depending on how she responds) push and rub her G-Spot. Yes ladies I do know where it is on some girls.

use your tounge, try and tease her at first but try and get your fingers (FINGERS!!! not hands) in there as well, try not to push to hard untill shes screaming, even then be careful :)

A B C D E F -- make the alphabet!

Tell them to wash it first! You don't want to go down on a foul smelling pussy. Trust me..

Mix in some Altoids for that hot/minty sensation ;)

I've done the icecube thing too. Much fun for both of us.

Well i know there is a lot of rules and "correct ways" of performing oral on a female... but truly if you want it to be the best it can be you need to communicate with the lady and see what SHE likes personally. You dont have to talk like an eye doctor, but you should try multiple things until she shows what she likes.

repitition, not speed, is key. speed up more towards the end, but repitition is the best way to get you there. every girl is different. keep licking! :)

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Originally posted by Jonsgirl
Thank god I married a sax player!!!

lol. my first bf was a sax player. and he was the worse kisser ever. his tongue was too strong for me... he never went down on me tho. that might have been a different story....

people are mostly talking about technique and not so much logistical planning, so here's a little. i will use the word "pussy" as it is all encompassing, i do not mean to offend.

i don't like to eat a pussy right out of the shower. the non-synthetic taste of real woman is absolutely amazing. if the scent and feeling turns you on, your sexual autopilot will turn on and you should be able to munch quite successfully based on the above or natural tactics.

HOWEVER, depending on the female's activity level of the day and probably race, it will probably be of some discomfort to you to eat day-old pussy. i know this will be very difficult to communicate to her, but try to find a way.

make sure she has a good experience, even if it doesn't work (she can't fake an orgasm if you're eating). if she doesn't finish, make absolutely sure she gets off manually or otherwise, as it may decrease your future chances to try again later.

do _not_, i repeat, do _not_ earn your "red wings." iron-rich vagina is bad. though maybe we should start a thread on that, i hear some guys like it.

personaly i never aim for her vagina, i start from belly taking my time all the way down then turn her around and go up to her ass crack..

and then back to her vagina, use hand fingering (3 fingers close together with a twist as they come out and in)and offcourse eat with your tonge and soft kisses.

but she have o be trimed, and i am shaved.

I agree with sltkr2000, they have to be trimed or shaved. However, I'm not too much of a fan of going down on girls... I've never tried the ice thing though, may be interesting... I might throw that in sometime...

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Originally Posted by Sleepyjack

cheers for those links

well i am still a rookie at this, but its not like with basketball in that i can just go practice my jumpshot and ball skills on the court outside.

:(

Heh... sure it is. You just can't practice on every court. :rolleyes:

Practice makes perfect. Practice with the same girl for a long time, and, chances are, it'll seem pretty perfect for both of you.

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Originally Posted by The Original King

This is so totally right on.

I think for myself, I just don't want a mess of my own juices rubbed all over my face. The taste doesn't really bother me, but it depends.

The only thing that I might mention as a tip is to stick out your tongue and move your head back and forth like you're saying, "No" (your tongue brushing across the clit each time) and then dipping down into the opening for juices, then back to the clit. I've found that the head motion gives the tongue a break and gets a consistent rhythm going which is important.

Best of luck!