Think he remembers where the clitoris is?

He can't make new memories, but I'm guessing he went on plenty of crotch safaris before the accident.

Not bragging, cuz I don't think it's me, but my wife cums in about 30 seconds, as often as she wants. She can cum from nipple play. I've got an easy job.

Aren't we missing this crucial bit here? It's not about her having orgasms. It's that the frequency and power of her orgasms are disrupting his flow.

No recommendations from me, but I thought I might redirect the conversation.

That's not how I understood that. I understood her to mean that she was stopping herself from coming by pausing at her work, and those pauses threw him off his game.

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If you can have multiples, you should have them.

Orgasms are like Lays potato chips...you can't have just one! If you do want to cum at the same time, just keep an eye out for the signs that he's getting close and try and time it right for your last O. My success rate is not 100% with this, but I blame that on the fact that my guy is super-quiet and not at all obvious about when he's close.

And I'm sure there's lots of comedy gold in this thread, but I haven't read it yet :p

Ametc is it the frequency of the orgasm that's causing you problems or the fact that you find it difficult to keep going on top after a particularly intense orgasm?

If it's the first one - don't worry keep going, get yourself off and let him enjoy the little spasms you'll be having - from what I have heard they're quite pleasant.

If it's the second you can try to hold off with any of the numbing gels supplied for guys (unfortunately that will only work if it's clitoral stimulation causing the orgasm) they work the exact same way as the sensitizing ones ( gels and sprays are better then creams to avoid getting it on him) and you're definitely able to use them allowing for allergies and stuff like that. Or you can simply shift position, I'm sure he won't mind - infact he might enjoy watching you get off and then ebing allowed to take charge.

Getting back to the topic and moving away from the patting ourselves on the back for our sexual prowess...

ametc: have you triedanother position to start and move to you on top once he starts getting close?

And really, what difference does it make who orgasms first? If you can have multiple orgasms in the process, go for it! Being inside of a woman as she orgasms is a great sensation and he will probably enjoy it even more if you do orgasm multiple times.

What goes on down there while I'm on top and I'm feeling myself about to come.. I feel like I'll explode and have an awesome one.. then of course I'll have to slow down (I would have to slow down and then get a good pace again).. and would THAT be better than just slowing down even more without cumming?

I pretty much know when he's about to cum by how he feels inside me.. so I'm able to time and work my movements .. until.. I feel myself about to cum uncontrollably. What should I do at that moment???


Does that make better sense?

How about practicing the classic dismount slide down between his legs/total oral engulfment while looking at his face and his cock in turns/remounting with a real rumba stern stirring? When you time it so that the smooth dismount is shortly before your own point of no return, and after hothot deep throat action your remount/rejoining occurs when he is 10 seconds from liftoff, both of you ought to be thoroughly pleased. Just the practice, "getting it down smooth" :thumbsup: is a joy to witness/experience. When it becomes the way to achieve mutual O that would be even better.
IMHO

amtec, you do not have a problem. What you should do is ask him if he would mind you having multiple orgasms while riding him. I'm willing to bet my paycheck that the answer would be a resounding "hell no."

You said you can have multiple? Why not time your SECOND one with his? Watching you seems like it would be pretty exciting even if you lose your rhythm for a little while. He really shouldn't mind you taking a little break before starting again as long as he gets his, and honestly, if he has a problem with waiting a minute before you're back up to speed, then he's being pretty selfish.

Most women think it's pretty cool to have a man who comes twice in one session, even with a pause in between, so I don't see why a man would feel differently, especially since you're on top and he can just watch and enjoy.

Tell you what - let him know next time that you're going to go ahead and cum and then resume sexing him (so he stays still and doesn't ruin your groove) and then go for it. See if you both like it. If not, you can try something else - experimenting is fun!

If you just go for it, I can almost guarantee it'll be awesome.

When you orgasm it's going to feel great for him, so the more you do, the better it is for him!

Plus there's a mental "oh yeah!!" he'll get, probably boosting his self esteem massively :p

haha, srsly. The ratio in my relationship is literally 10:1. My GF will orgasm within 15-30 seconds of my going down on her, and will continue climaxing every 2 minutes or so. Penetration, she climaxes every 3-5 minutes. If I'm using my fingers on her clit, I can keep her cumming (multiple/back to back) for a good 3-4 minutes, or until she can't take it anymore.

I on the other hand, cum once a "session". lol :shakehead: