FuglyStick

Judging from the flood of amateur porn flooding the internet, video taping sex is becoming more and more mainstream. My question is, what's the appeal? Is it the implied (or actual, if it is uploaded somewhere) voyeurism/exhibitionism? Is the reward sexual (immediate gratification during filming) or psychological (satisfaction retained for future referral)? What is the motivation for taping sex?

I, obviously, have never been taped while having sex (that I'm aware of ), and am curious why someone would want to have potentially damaging footage lying around, when it seems to me that the consequences far outweigh the advantages, whatever those advantages may be.

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Daniel_

I agree on the "damaging evidence" score. That shit can surface years later and you'll never become a Senator

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telekinetic

Been there, done that, don't see the issue. *shrug*

Our current President smoked pot and did coke...you really think some vid someone dug up on the net somewhere of him doing his wife would have hurt things?

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FuglyStick

But what's the appeal? There's obviously a degree of narcissism involved, but is there any other reason for taping yourself having sex?

edit: and you're damn right it would have kept Obama out of office. Public figures have been hung for much less.

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Punk.of.Ages

Bingo....

At least for me.

My narcissism directly feeds my exhibitionist tendencies.

Porn that involves me is way better than any other kind of porn.

Plus, I get off on the thought of someone watching.

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Shaindra

I get off on seeing my lover from my own perspective. I can imagine that it would be that much hotter to see the action from other perspectives. Hmmm...maybe even ask him to record certain activities from *his* perspective. *runs off to find the cam*

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Tiny Dancer

I do this because I love the fact that my lover can watch it latter when I'm not around while he takes care of himself, that turns me on like crazy. You also then have the option to watch you while you're in the middle of the deed. That can be fun too. Drunk sex tapes can be the best sometimes because you get a different perspective. Then there is also putting it so it's live on the screen so you can watch what you're filming at the same time.

But never for anyone elses eye's except for me and my lover. At least I don't think anyone else has ever seen my tapes that have ever been created and I am confident that they haven't been shared.

settie

Double Bingo for me.

ASU2003

It's usually the sex tapes with mistresses and call girls that get people in trouble. A sex tape with someone you are married to would be a shocker since a politician is actually sleeping with the person they are married to.

I'm disappointed, I thought this was going to be about getting advice on how to make a good amateur porn video. I've seen a bunch, but only a handful are memorable and done properly.

Bear Cub

I'll be honest, at first glance, I thought the title of this was "video taping the dead". Then I saw it was in sexuality and got all excited. Then I saw it said "deed". Now I'm sad.

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Punk.of.Ages

I also thought it said "dead".

I was thinking, "Necrophilia! Allllllright! This should be interesting."

Still an interesting topic though...

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telekinetic

Me too, but I was coming off back to back watchings of the witch burning video in Africa ( ) and the vid about the India cannibals...so that kind of steered me in that direction.

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little_tippler

I saw dead too...weird! My eyes are playing tricks on me.

Well, I don't know if I'd do it, haven't done it before. But I can see the attraction factor, it's the getting off on being watched factor, or the option of watching yourself mid-action....

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Tully Mars

Yeah I've done it, recently. Not so much turned on by making it as getting the fed-ex with the disc a couple weeks later with a note saying "enjoy! see you next year."

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SabrinaFair

I've never had the desire to film myself gettin' down. Number one, I'd be afraid it would bite me in the ass at some point in my life. Number two, I'm not sure I want to see the faces I make mid-coitus. It might make me a bit self-conscious, and I'm delightfully free of bedroom inhibitions at present.

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telekinetic

If the video focuses on the faces, you're doing it wrong

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FuglyStick

See, this is what I'm sayin'. Is it about the "sex," or is it about the "performance?"

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Tiny Dancer

It's about what aspect of it makes your heart race. It could be the performance or it could be the sex, it just depends on what gets you off.

Tully Mars

In your line of work I could see this being a huge problem. I'd have never done this while still working.

Now really I just don't care. I prefer it not become available for public consumption. But if it did, meh.

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jimmy1s269

i have never recorded us doing it, but i would love to have some recordings of it. i think its the only way my wife would approve of me looking at any porn. and i would like to have it for while i am travelling. be nice to be able to look at my own woman getting pleasured while i have to settle for pleasuring myself on a long trip.

digme

I like the thought of it, but don't know if I could go through with it. I'd also be afraid of someone finding it at some point.

n0nsensical

Honestly, "damaging"? People have sex, what's the big deal? If other people don't wanna see it, they shouldn't watch. This has always been a fantasy of mine, but I've never had the "equipment" for it, if you know what I mean. I wouldn't necessarily want to share it with strangers but I wouldn't be all too concerned if they found it. What I really want is to set up a live feed to the TV and watch us as we do it.

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jimmy1s269

that's part of my wife's fear with pics videos or even toys. she is afraid that we would die in a car accident or something and while our kids were going through our things they would find them.

Xerxys

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Why is she afraid exactly?? Are you not human beings? How old are the kids? Why not hide them very well and if worst comes to worst, they should have layers upon layers of security then on the very last envelope, a label, that says "Kids, proceed with caution!!!"

I on the other hand, do not want to be a senetor. So yeah, I wanna tape it all.

n0nsensical

It's like wow, you mean our parents had sex? lol.

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jimmy1s269

hah, i hear you guys. to me all it would show anyone who found it would be that we had a healthy sex life.

our kids are babies right now, 3.5 and almost 2 years old.

other than other people seeing her naked, or the possibility of it getting stolen and spread around, i have no idea what she is afraid of.

i have a couple of pictures of her. like, 2 when she was taking a bath with the babies, she is of course hiding everything, and then one when she was in a piece of lingerie that made her boobs look so good that she asked me to take the pic, and in that one you cant see her face, its a total boob shot. but she is still scared of someone hacking into my computer and finding them. so they are hidden in weird random places and protected with security.

i think part of it is she doesn't want me looking at porn at all, and she thinks pics or videos of her would just fuel my desire to look at other stuff. she doesn't really understand this addiction i have been fighting since i was 14. i would love to have pictures and videos of her to sate my desires when they arise instead of turning to the net. especially when i am traveling.

Strange Famous

I quite like the idea of all of my mates seeing me at it - and I dont think I mean that in a sexual way (such as being a exhibishinist or whatever)

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cadre

I think this idea of "damage" that sex videos can do is a bit ridiculous honestly. Unless you're with a mistress or something else, I don't think it's that big of a deal. My boyfriend is of this opinion though, so as of now, we haven't really video taped anything. We have photos that tend not to stick around long but that's it.

That said, I've video taped myself before, and I've used web cams to send videos to other people. If someone wants to make a big deal about finding videos of me, I'm happy to discuss it with them but I have a feeling it won't really be an issue for me. I've never recorded anything illegal so why is it so bad?

The appeal to me is exhibitionism. Plus, the personal stuff is the best type of porn for me. The appeal has little to do with whether it's on the web or not. I like to be able to go back and watch videos of myself and my partner. It's an immediate gratification that yes, this is being recorded; but it's also great after the fact.

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Konichiwaneko

I like the naughtiness of it. It's fun.

Vote of yea from me.

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NorthernGirl

I wanted to see what it would look like . watched it, deleted it . I felt like such a pervert . bad lighting ! need better casting next time .

bloody_rose20

I dunno I find it fun :-) I have taped it a few times, but I never uploaded it anywhere lol. Even if I did, I wouldn't care too much...unless friends of mine found the videos then I would have an issue with it, only because they would get to see how my man is in bed lol. And that part I would not like. I don't care if people see me, I am not afraid to show my body or anything. I just don't want people I know seeing my man. After all, someone as sexy as he is, I dun want to share with the world lol.

But, I guess for people doing it, you get the thrill while taping it, and then after when you see all the comments you get from people watching it *shrugs* Thats how I felt when I did nude commission work. I loved taking photos for people and then seeing their comments.

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conor

For me it gives me something to watch when my wife is out or away. Wouldn't dream of putting it online. My life wouldn't be worth living if i did that!

Iliftrocks

I thought the title was "dead" too. I just thought, why not just take a digital pic and put it on a loop?

Would never tape myself doing the deed. yick, that's what the professionals are for

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lostgirl

I just did this the other night, but I am not about to put it online or let anyone else see it.

It's just for the two of us. I masturbate to it sometimes when he is gone, or we watch it while we are having sex.

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MrLatte

Woman:"Honey whats this video in this box?"
Man: "Oh, that is just me fucking the hell out of my ex girlfriend."
Woman: "Thats my sister."
Man: "I'll drive you home then, grab your shoes."

Scenarios like that just seem to make it very much un worth it. Awkwardness aside, how about the potentiality for blackmail, trust issues, shyness around that person afterwards, inability to enjoy yourself without that odd sense of voyeurism. And mostly, who wants to watch amateur blurry porn when they can go to sites and watch professional quality for free just like the amateur.

Anormalguy

Taping is fun, watching it later is also fun.

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I do. Why would I want to go and pay for porn in which the sex is scripted and edited, dubbed with shitty music, and features cokeheads trying to maintain a hard-on while screwing 30=year-old "virgin teenagers" with tramp stamps, clit piercings, and fake tits? I can get hours upon hours of free amateur porn off torrent sites which has "real" people fucking, having sex and actually doing it because they like it, not because they're paid to. That's what turns me on, real sex, real people, real emotions. I'll take natural tits over the fake ones any day of the week. I do watch pro porn occasionally if it fits in within my scope of fetishes, but if the girls in the flicks look like their tits are fake, it's an instant turn-off for me.

I have filmed myself having sex with my wife a few times. It has nothing to do with narcissism; I'm actually ashamed of my body and prefer not to look at it. But I get off on the thought of being watched, of being seen. When I was younger (and thinner) I was briefly into photography and trying to take tasteful, artistic nude photos of myself, but I found it immensely difficult because just knowing that a camera was pointed at my naked body gave me an instant boner. I am very much an exhibitionist, and it has nothing whatsoever to do with narcissism since I am not proud of the way I look.

As for this "damage" some people talk about, I really don't see it. Maybe if you are in politics or something, it may be of some concern, mostly due to the bible thumpers. Intelligent people ought to figure out that everybody has sex. It's just the American way I guess to pretend that we don't. And blackmail? That's ridiculous. Somebody steals a tape of me banging my wife and...then what? What, Fox News is going to get their hands on it? Oh my, Watergate would be nothing compared to some joe sixpack banging his wife on camera in his own bedroom!

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ItWasMe

Our new cell phones had video and photo ability. We wanted to see the view from different angles, under the covers, using glow sticks for light. And could watch them while he was gone with the army.

Not sure I would do it again without deleting them within a couple of days. A friend and his wife recently found them while watching videos and photos of our kids.

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Tully Mars

I went into a video store in Tillamook Oregon many years ago. The counter was empty and I didn't see any employees. Kind of made a pit in my stomach. Had that happen once in Sand Diego and found the employee beaten and the place had been robbed. Anyway I heard some giggling and followed the noise. Found two employees watching a couple I knew (small town) on a small TV doing the "deed" on what looked like their dinning room table. Seems they got the movie they rented mixed up with the one they made. Knowing the couple I always wondered if it was an accident.

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