sexanoe

normally I'd say I'm pretty good with long lasting sex but after a few days of no sex, I struggle to last 7-10 minutes
so are there any tricks or tips (besides masturbation) to not have this happen?

freeload

The simple solution would be to go at it, then spend more time pleasing her. When you're up for another round she'll be ready too.

Rinse, repeat.

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Anormalguy

Some people suggest having non-sexual thoughts during sex, but for me that sort of defeats the purpose of having sex. Some times masturbation helps delay ejaculation, some times it doesn't, & some times it helps too much. I enjoy prolonged foreplay as much as my wife, but if it's a been a while I tend to finish quicker than normal.

Do a search for premature ejaculation, you'll find several techniques for desensatizing the penis that will help to delay ejaculation.

Also as freeload suggested, pleasure your partner in other ways until she's satiated and/or you're ready again.

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SabrinaFair

When it comes to sex, length (of time) matters - Sexual health- msnbc.com

I read this a little while ago--apparently 7 minutes is right around average.

But yeah. Not lasting for hours at a time is, at least this woman, not that big a deal if the gentleman makes sure I am satisfied. I personally hate the idea of desensitizing--I think it's often under-appreciated how much women enough pleasing their partners as well. Of course getting a man off is very different...but to me, it's a great thrill knowing I'm pleasing my lover. Just a thought.

Make sure she gets hers through whatever means, and your lady fair shall not leave your bed unsatisfied.

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genuinegirly

7-10 minutes sounds like a perfectly reasonable amount of time. Not sure why you're concerned. If she's not satisfied (who ever is?) and you can't get yourself to rise to more activity, make a friend of a dildo.

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Xerxys

I don't have sex like every day, or week, sadly, and seeing as I don't "service myself" anymore, when I do have sex, I last long..... way long, I get like 3 hours while begging for more. No idea why, I think I j/o too much when younger!!

nomcat

Don't know how true it is, but I heard that the longer you go without sex the less your body wants/needs it.

Hyacinthe

I know the SO is enjoying it when I can hear him muttering "Margaret Thatcher on a cold day. Margaret Thatcher on a cold day"

Mental imagery might work for you to

If Sabrinas info is right (pretty certain it is she seems like the thorough type) then the SO and I are way over - is too much better then too little?

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curiousbear

I last <3 mins. Second time is better. But i take care of her before hand. 7 mins sounds great honestly. I had heard from girls whose SO can go hours! Miracle.
Just yesterday I had ordered a desentizing spray...

Ayashe

If you feel you want more after, why not just have another round? I have never really considered this much, I would never look down upon a man for lasting too long or going to fast. If I don't feel that I have had enough attention I will be sure to point it out. Sometimes sex seems to last longer than others, that is great. Other times while knowing that it has been a while and an early release is likely it is just a good time to make sure there are more efforts towards foreplay to make it a more fulfilling experience.

Another thought is it can take some trial and effort to make changes during sex that slow or remove direct stimulation on the penis to avoid releasing too soon, stopping and restarting periodically to increase the duration. You can try the squeeze method as well. This involves either the man or his partner squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation is imminent, withholding stimulation for about 30 seconds and then continuing stimulation. This can be repeated until ejaculation is desired. Of course the stop and start method can be used with the squeeze method as well.

The bottom line, is do what it takes so you both have fun.

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Iliftrocks

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