I prefer fuck buddies. I'm a very awkward person and I'd rather they didn't know everything about me. I don't mind talking once in a while... but I don't want to go to them when I'm bawling and tell them all my problems only to have the next sexual encounter with them become awkward.

This is part of the reason these situations don't work out as nicely as people think they will. People have different rules and expectations, and they need to communicate them completely and frequently. Seems like a lot of work for just "fuck buddies". I mean...all that communicating? Might as well have a real relationship.

Hmm...this is a very good topic. I myself, have had FB's, and FWB's. The FB's have always ended up turning into FWB's lol. As for the FWB's...only one of them ended up becoming personal. But thats because he was too damn desirable to stay away from haha! But I think, you can maintain them as FWB's as long as thats what you want. As for the FWB, usually if its a guy you don't really have to worry about him getting too attatched as long as you let them know in the beginning that is as far as you want it to go. I think its a good idea to have a FWB if you don't want to have a relationship. That way you still have a companion in ways, but you aren't claimed or tied down by that one person.

The movement of sex on the relationship time line - how novel. I like the superfluous titles, too. "I'm ___, but not ___ because of ___."

Most of my long term relationships go like that. Meet, "Wow, you're hot," screw, get to know each other, continue to screw, formal relationship, infidelity, etc. I don't think I've had a normal relationship in my life. My concept of "how it goes" is so far off I shouldn't be allowed to post relationship advice.

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I would want my fuck buddy to be hot. That way sex is cued up all the time. I'd want my FWB to be not hot. That way the sex draw isn't overwhelming.

I've been in FB and FWB type arrangements before. Some successes, some failures. I don't think there's anything wrong with the arrangement at all, though perhaps not for everybody. I think the key to it is knowing what you want and being honest about it.

I think, in general, FB and FWB type arrangements fail and are seen as situations rife with drama and heartache because often times in these situations, discussions about expectations and desires often times don't occur because the relationship is so casual and non-binding... when in actuality, these discussions need to be had or else one person is going to make one assumption, and the other may make another, and in the end someone gets hurt. I tend to think FB and FWB end up being more tricky because often times they are non-monogamous arrangements involving people who are typically monogamous, thus can be terminated pretty swiftly if one of the people involved decides to get more seriously involved with someone else.

That said, my official stance is always to communicate what you want.... and there's nothing wrong with wanting and liking having a FWB or FB arrangement, likewise there's also nothing wrong with not wanting that either.

Bingo!!