Halx

If you were invited by a fairly good looking married couple to join them for fun in bed, would you go for it? This is obviously a situation with very little emotional or personal relevance. You're there as a sexual object, within someone else's relationship. And you'll also be with someone of the same sex.. who knows how far they'll want you to go.

For me, this sounds like a bit of an adventure. I'd have to put away any desire I have to be loved or cared for. I would have to come to terms with the idea of being objectified. That's not necessarily hard for me, but it might be for someone else.

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Daniel_

I'd do it if both chicks were hot.

OK, truthful answer - the idea interests me, but not enough to wreck my marriage over, so I woudl want to clear it at home first.

When I was single? I'd judge the case on its merits.

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Seaver

I got invited into one with two really good friends of mine. He.... had a sudden realization of jealousy when his girlfriend and I were simply kissing. Unfortunately he was really weird to me after that, our friendship withered away as he couldn't get the image out of his head. So wasn't a really nice experience for me.

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inBOIL

It would depend on the details. I'm not against the idea per se, but it would probably be difficult to work around everyone's dealbreakers. If that could be done, however, I'd be all for it.

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Willravel

Willravel Rule #3: never with a dude.

If it were a monogamous relationship (or marriage) between two women I might consider it, but going in it would have to be absolutely clear that while jealousy is perfectly natural it can quite frankly can ruin the experience or even the established relationship. I would not want to be responsible for such a thing.

Yellow Tulip

I have been with three other people at once but they were men, not a mixed group. I'd have to say maybe, but I think it would be easier if I didn't know them, otherwise the problems mentioned above would be raised. I have heard this is a common fantasy but that peoples' emotions cause the reality to go horribly wrong. Same goes for "open marriages". Nice thought, though.

Daniel_

Sorry, Tulip, I have to ask (and please don't be offended) - are you a guy or a laydee?

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QuasiMondo

The whole 'you'll also be with someone of the same sex' thing is a dealbreaker for me.

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Daniel_

The one time t ever happened around me we (the two guys) were friends, but not interested in each other - we both just ended up at different ends of the girl.

It didn't work out well, but mainly because of problems with the girl later.

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ironman

I have the same doubt, and judging for the last visitors of Tulip's profile, so does most aof the people in this thread. LOL

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Yellow Tulip

Daniel and Ironman - I'm female! Apologies for any ambiguity. x

Daniel_

That's exactly what I did. Got puzzled by the "there were guys and me, but not a mixed group" comment, then went to look.

No worries, m'dear. We English have to stick together, after all.

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SabrinaFair

It's a long-standing fantasy of mine, actually. I've always wanted to be the "guest star" in such a scenario. I'm curious about women, but I feel like I'd be comfortable with a fellow in the room.

I don't know that I'd do it with people I knew well, though. I hear-tell the emotional fallout can get kind of rough.....and I really wouldn't want to bring my emotions into the situation.

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ratbastid

Done it. It was fun. And I did have an emotional connection with them--just I happened to not have my usual um... sidekick by my side that time . Happened with her, and with the "other her" fairly frequently. Not so much the "other him".

Assuming permission of all the appropriate people, I'd do it again.

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Willravel

It's a risk, yes.

snowy

I've been with a couple, but they weren't married.

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Roark

I was in a similar situation with a straight couple off and on for a little over a year. Sexually it was incredible, even liberating in some ways, as there were no boundries in our search for pleasure. I'll admit there was some apprehension on my part the first time, but I look at any MMF situation as one where it's about her (it's certainly more of a female fantasy than a straight males) so once I was in that perspective I could ignore the other wang and act accordingly.

Then again I wasn't competing against ole' White Snake either, but I digress... LOL

The games were endless. Sometimes everything would be planned with all three of us getting together. Othertimes I would get a surprise text telling me exactly what to do to her or make her do to me (or she would get a text). No matter how it came about I would get so turned on knowing they would talk about it (what they want to do, or what they did do) during sex it made me always strive to be at the top of my game to get them as hot for eachother as possible whether all three of us were hooking up later that evening or not.

Would I do it again? With the right couple I would but to say communication is key is the understatement of the year...

Some people aren't as secure with their sexuality and their relationship as they think they are which can lead to resentment, jealousy, and just plain drama if you're not careful in these type of situations and close to both/one of the couple.

Charlatan

I would but not at the risk of my marriage... And given my wife's current rules of engagement, this isn't going to happen.

In the past when the rules where different, I would have tried it out.

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abaya

Yup. The absolute priority for any kind of sexual exploration, as a married person (or anyone in a long-term serious relationship). No question.

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Cynosure

Bad enough, texting while driving. But texting while having a threesome... ?!



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Seaver

Nah, it's only gay if you look him in the eye

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In some theoretical world where I wasn't part of the married club, I don't really think I would. I just don't really have any interest in being in an intimate sexual situation with another guy, even if the vast majority of my contact is going to be with the girl. I had an opportunity or two to have a foursome in high school with another couple and turned it down. Just not up my alley.

Now, my wife would only be interested in inviting a girl in, if we were to try a third, but even that seems on the unlikely side of unrealistic.

Bear Cub

Of course I would.

How else would I pull off moves like the Eiffel Tower?

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irdave

Several times- and always had a great time... (Straight MMF, and a coupe of different times with bi FFM) But as said above, everybody has to be comfortable with what's going on, otherwise it'll go down hill quick. I suppose I wouldn't suggest it for most people... YMMV.

little_tippler

I'd go for a threesome but not with a couple. Because that means MFF. I would only want MMF.

Obviously guys have the advantage in this scenario

I'm not interested in other women!

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kutulu

I'd be up for it.

Zeraph

It all depends on the situation but probably. I'd see it more as an adventure, something to be tested, rather than something I'd want to do multiple times.

PonyPotato

Probably not.

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Xerxys

Wont do it again, lets just say, the donwhill part........ lets leave it at that....

laudanum

Well, if _that_ isn't a selling point....

Personally, I guess it would have to be the right situation, right couple and boundaries set on the onset.

Glory's Sun

I've done it several times.. as long as everyone is cool and has a few drinks or dinner or whatever before hand and the chemistry is there and jealousy doesn't creep in.. it can be fun and exciting.

it's always best to be clear on what is and what isn't acceptable as well.

lotsofmagnets

+1

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cadre

I would if the circumstances were right. I've been asked by a couple before but I felt like they didn't truly understand what they were doing so I said no thanks. If it were a more mature couple and I felt that the odds of success were good I'd certainly go for it.

In addition, I don't think I would marry anyone who wasn't okay with a little sexual exploration on either part so hopefully I'll have the chance in the future even if I'm married.

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james t kirk

Done it many times. Will do it again.

I have to say it was some of the best sex I've ever had. It's downright primal. I love seeing a woman take on 2 (or more) guys. A truly confident woman in the bedroom is something I admire.

As long as everyone is consenting, I will never judge what goes on in a bedroom.

I've had occasion to to have several MFM threesomes, MFMF (one of the most memorable experiences of my life). I've also done the FMF thing as well, however, you need to be in shape for that. It's like running a marathon.

genuinegirly

No thanks, not for me.
Wouldn't want to cause any harm. Too many opportunities for jealousy and resentment.

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anti fishstick

i probably would not be comfortable in a casual encounter such as that. however, i would be open to finding a third person for a long term polymonogamous relationship :-D

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m0rpheus

Since I'm in a relationship, my answer would have to be no. If I wasn't then it would depend.
If the guy in question wanted me to do anything to him, or do anything to me then it would be a "sorry not interested".
If, however, it would just be the two of us having sex with his wife/gf then yes I would.

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Vigilante

I'll second that.

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curiousbear

FFM is a fantasy. But I dont think it will ever come true. I dont think I will make any such initiative. If it happens as a casual encounter in harmless no-cheating manner, I am sure I will enjoy and cherish the memory

botabota

Third that...
My SO is a huge part of my live, and i'm inlove with her, and would do nothing that would jeopardize my own relationship (or other)