Miss Mango

How do you define bi-sexuality?

Is someone bi-sexual if they engage in sex with both men and women only out of curiosity?

What if a woman has a homosexual relationship because shes sick of men?

What if a man has a homosexual relationship because he can get more sex?


I dont like to define people for themselves.

I call myself bisexual, but Im in a monogamous heterosexual relationship right now.

Even if I get married to a man, Ill still call myself bisexual. For me there is not conflict. Im simply acknowledging that I find both men and women sexually arousing and potential life partners and that Ive found that my sexuality is fluid.

curiousbear

I am male and strictly NOT bisexual. But I am very curious about bi-girls. Even contact with one of them or none of them is fine. Even being with bisexual girls is a dream!!!

elsesomebody

This is a little off-topic, but slightly related:
I am male. I would not enjoy giving a blow job to a man. However, I like the idea of giving a woman a blow job (if a beautiful woman who I was attracted to, for some strange reason had a penis). I find this strange, curious and interesting. I'm not attracted to trannies (or men).

mixedmedia

I don't define it really. I'll leave that up to people to define for themselves.

I think there are many things that drive people to have sex with both men and women. Some of them inherited and some of them acquired.

This is just my own opinion, though.

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FuriousAvatar

I personally consider myself "bi-curious." I'm not interested in a relationship with another man, but I occasionally do find a male attractive. In this case I don't consider myself bisexual so much as open to seeing different people, male or female, beautiful and attractive.

In the case of actual bisexuality in my mind someone that would or does enjoy relationships with both women and men is bisexual. It's not that they necessarily have, it's that they would, that defines being bisexual.

abaya

I don't think there's anything wrong with that, really (or with any of these preferences--sexuality is a very personal thing). Sometimes I wish men had boobs for me to play with...

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elsesomebody

Some men do, but I don't think that is what you had in mind.

curiousbear

I some times wish to be a woman, to be felt and played by a man or women! It is just that I think the feel is much more than what a guy can feel

levite

I think anyone who is sexually attracted to both genders is bisexual. Doesn't matter if they act on it or not.

I also think that "perfect" bisexuals (equally attracted to both genders) are rare. I tend to think that everyone prefers one sex or the other, even if it's just a smidgen more.

That said, I think most women lean at least a little toward bisexuality. Not that all women want to have sex with other women, but it seems like nearly all of the women I've talked with about sex admit that they have at least seriously considered having sex with another woman at least once. Granted that men might all just be in denial, but it seems like truly bisexual guys are few and far between. Most of the men I've spoken with were either straight, and rarely if ever even considered having sex with another man, or gay, and had always known it, even when they were in denial and in the closet. Most of the nominally bisexual men I've known ended up being gay, and had just had issues coming out. And of the couple of truly bisexual men I've met, all had a pronounced inclination (mostly like men, but occasionally get a taste for girls, etc.); whereas most of the many bisexual women I've spoken to were a lot closer to 50/50.

I think women's sexuality is just naturally a little more fluid and flexible than men's, for the most part. In part, I think that results from women often being better at handling complex choices than men: when confronted with choices, we men tend to like to pick one and stick with it.

Obviously, these are all generalizations, and won't hold true for everyone. But I think they tend to be true more often than not.

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MSD

Get him to start eating junk food and cutting back on exercise and he will.

snowy

Me too...or else I wish I could get my hands on a dickgirl, like from Japanese hentai.

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digme

What happens in my head is all over the place. What is practical to act on in the real world is different.

Anormalguy

When I was in college a couple of decades ago, the studies mentioned in my psych classes said that when push came to shove, bisexuals would choose same-sex relationships. I can't recall if the studies attempted to measure just how deeply bisexual the subjects were or weren't.

Does anybody know if there are more recent studies that validate or debunk the earlier findings?

cadre

+1 This seems to be my experience as well.

As far as I am concerned, I consider myself bisexual even though I've never had an actual relationship with a woman and doubt I would. I have an inclination towards men and I've met many women who define themselves the same way.

My friend tried to tell me the other day that she didn't believe someone could be bisexual but that they were either straight or gay. Obviously, I find that hard to understand.

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Pholeus

I consider myself a bisexual male. I prefer women, have only dated women, and can't really see myself having an actual relationship with a man. But I do find men attractive, and have had sex with men, and will continue that.