868686

I was with my SO last night, I finished on her then cleaned up and went in again for another hour or so. I am unsure if I did clean everything up, cos it was all over me, my parts, and her thigh and even though I did make sure to use lots of soap and water to my satisfaction, I would rather be safe and have her take the pill. It's been 24 hours, we've both showered, I just want to know at what time will the contraceptive pill begin working, how many days til it won't work at all, and where to buy them.

I always practice safe sex, but I am a bit scared. I don't know what her problem is, but she is convinced that she "knows [she isn't] pregnant". I keep telling her to be safe anyways but she isn't budging and frankly, we both don't want a kid right now so I don't know what is stopping her from spending 10 bucks and getting the pill.

allaboutmusic

No condom? That's not safe sex...

jewels

Wikipedia has this about the "morning after" pill :
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emergency_contraception

Better hurry.

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Bear Cub

And let me know where you can find them for $10...

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MSD

Good luck, the effectiveness of Plan B diminishes to the point that it's almost useless after 72 hours. Start trying to convince her now, because your legal rights regarding pregnancy end when you whip it out, and her claiming that she knows she isn't pregnant is just plain fucking stupid.

After that, keep it in your pants until you're mature enough to not have unprotected sex or raise a kid.

Baraka_Guru

The pretext for sex should always be: "This is a reproductive activity."

You need to sit down and talk with her about your concerns. She can't honestly know whether she's pregnant. If need be, tell her your doctor said you have an abnormally high sperm count.

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868686

Clock is ticking. She said if she does get pregnant, she'll just get an abortion.

Saturday, 7 PM.

Used a rubber, wouldn't go in without it. I am on your side, just help me.

snowy

An abortion costs hundreds of dollars, can be hard to find, and comes with all kinds of emotional repercussions (depending on the person, obviously). By comparison, ECP is easy to find, easy to get, and can even be free if you meet income requirements.

www.plannedparenthood.org can help you find EC in your area.

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868686

OK. So I used a rubber, splooged on her left thigh while she was turned sideways. Cleaned her up with a towel, then washed what was on me with soap and water and a different towel. Went back inside her half an hour later. Should I still be worried?

ratbastid

Was the second entry en-condomed?

telekinetic

this

Blah blah blah, pregnancy can happen at any time there is sex, but in reality land: if you didn't ejaculate inside her vagina (not near her vagina, not into a condom, not in the same room as her vagina) she's very likely not pregnant. If you came inside of her without a condom, feel free to proceed to freak out, but if not, I wouldn't worry about it.

I find your description of the location of semen confusing. If you are using a condom, the only place semen is deposited is in the condom.

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abaya

Oh yeah man, she's definitely pregnant. Better start saving for the next 18 years of child support payments, seriously.

How old are you, and how old is she? Are you sure you want to be reproducing with someone of her, uh... caliber?

Jesus christ, forget abstinence-only education... I say let's go back to the chastity belt for both males and females, until they can pass a sexual education test. Kind of like citizenship tests for people to become American citizens. You pass the test, then you can remove the chastity belt.

WRAP IT UP AND KEEP IT ON, EVERY SINGLE FUCKING TIME!!!

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Makia

I'm all for that. Some people just shouldn't be allowed to breed.

abaya

Not just be banned from breeding, but also banned from having sex until they demonstrate that they are capable of handling the responsibility. We have driver's licensing and all the rest, why not sex licensing? I don't think ANYONE should be allowed to have sex unless they are sufficiently educated (and I am talking about THOROUGH sex ed, on every danger possible, including 1-on-1 talks with people who suffer from various STD's, who have been paying child support for 18 years, and/or raising a child alone), and who pass a test of character and knowledge first. Yes, yes, I know it will never happen, but I can dream...

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TotalMILF

You are both being reckless, for sure. I would definitely get her ass to Planned Parenthood for the contraceptive pill. DO NOT trust her to get an abortion if she does end up knocked up.

And for fuck's sake, use a goddamned condom EVERY TIME, NO MATTER WHAT!! And get that girl on BC ASAP because even condoms, when used every time correctly, still aren't 100% effective.

Jeez.

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snowy

And Planned Parenthood will load you up with free condoms.

Basics for heterosexual safe sex:
1) The female in the relationship should be on some kind of hormonal birth control or use an IUD if hormonal birth control is not an option.
2) A barrier method should be used in conjunction with the birth control; a diaphragm for the female is an option, but most choose to have the male wear a condom instead.
3) Both partners should understand the lasting consequences of unprotected sex.
4) Emergency contraception should be kept on hand.

A birth control visit to Planned Parenthood would provide your partner with the birth control method of her choice, condoms, and emergency contraceptive fees. They charge on a sliding scale and utilize local and national programs to subsidize their services. In my state, low-income women receive family planning services from Planned Parenthood for free. Many county health clinics offer family planning services similar in scope to Planned Parenthood's programs, as do student health clinics (if your partner is a student).

This is information you should know if you're going to have sex. Simple as that.

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868686

Thanks for the insults, they really don't help at all.

I've got the pills, she is taking it tonight after work. I just want to know what to do if she does vomit after the plan b dosage. Most documents state that she should go to a clinic immediately. Has anyone here been in the situation where she/you does vomit?

To all of those who insulted me, I believe you should be ashamed. TFP is, in my eyes, supposed to be an open and helpful community. Thanks for being the "creative one" and posting how "us two of the species are not meant to breed" and other smartass comments. They don't help at all, and albeit the internet, I still trust in TFP a lot and you have honestly hurt my feelings. I don't trust many on the internet, but alas, I thought TFP wasn't as toxic as the rest.

Makia

Who said I was referring to you?

lotsofmagnets

i´d say if you used a condom both times you are pretty much safe. did you?

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telekinetic

Did you put your penis in her vagina without a condom? This is the question that hasn't been answered.

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girldetective

Its really pretty easy - sperm meets egg. It is unlikely that she is pregnant if you did not ejaculate inside of her. Of course anything is possible but it is unlikely. In the future wear a condom unless you are entertaining the thought of having children.

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868686

No, I NEVER go in without a rubber. Spent the $40, got the pills. Going to ride through one hour of nasuea with her now.

abaya

Y'know, I'm sorry if I insulted you. But we just get SO MANY threads like this, and they're always the same question, and some of us just get damn cynical about the whole thing. A lot of people just come in here one time to post a question about "OMG IS SHE PREGNANT??!!" and then they're gone, which is often insulting in itself. We have a search function for a reason, for threads like this, so that people can look for all the exact same answers to the exact same questions. So, that's just where I'm coming from.

Really though, I don't understand how your cum got on her thigh if you were wearing a condom. The way you posted the earlier times, it sounded like you came on her thigh, and went back in without a condom. It was not exactly clear what the danger was. But good job on getting Plan B, and hope the nausea isn't too bad for her.

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868686

8:05, I gave her the pills. 9 o'clock, put her to bed. Hope she doesn't hurl.

Alas, I have checked the internet, books, libraries, local forums, TV Shows, media, and the like for answers and I would have done the same thing I did do, to be responsible for whatever chance there may've been, I just wanted some advice cos TFP is like my secret little handbook or a secret naughty sex friend sort of thing. Thanks again, so very much, I know the internet is repetitive, and especially how I have used this forum, but the answers have given me great wisdom and courage. Thank the Lord, and thank you guys.

snowy

The risk of her hurling is not that great. Having taken EC, at most it made me a little queasy, and I have a very soft, sensitive stomach.

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telekinetic

OK then, why the EC? Was this the first time you had sex? What made this time different that you were weirded out about it? Also, what was all that about semen on her thigh and soap and water?

So confused

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BlueEyes

Luck you onesnowyowl. I took the equivalent of plan B in birth control pills once...(it was a Sunday...Planned Parenthood was closed) I didn't throw up, but I was sick for days and developed a big circle of acne on my cheek. (I've never had bad skin!) Miserable....worth it...but miserable.

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