Jenna

While pulling out is very risky, I've gone 2 years with it and not gotten pregnant. I will admit there's been some pregnancy scares however.

And yes, you're situation means you DID have intercourse with the ladies.

abaya

Y'all like to play Russian roulette, don'tcha.

I just don't see the appeal. You stand to lose pretty much everything (at least, life as you know it) if something goes wrong. Maybe there is some kind of turn-on to that kind of risk-taking behavior, but I just don't get it. I love risks, but not ones that truly endanger my life, or even my quality of life. Can you help me understand the mentality that goes into thinking "it won't happen to me?" I made that mistake once, and that was enough.

For me (and my husband), nothing is worth more than peace of mind, and the knowledge that we are disease- and accidental-pregnancy free is such a wonderful thing. I can't say it any more strongly than that. Call me judgmental, that's fine... I reserve the right to be judgmental about unprotected sex.

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Cynthetiq

same.

i even thought of getting a vasectomy because we don't want to have kids.

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rufius

Lets remember one thing boys and girls. Your dick, your problem. If you want to have sex and you're the guy, you damn sure better bring the condoms. Its not her piece of equipment to deal with.

Its like playing football. Do you go to a football game expecting the Defensive tackle to bring your helmet and pads for you? No, so you shouldn't go to the sex game expecting the girl to bring the condoms for you.

Be smart man. If she isn't on the pill and you stuck it in, its sex.

lotsofmagnets

he never said he didn´t want her to get pregnant or an std. sheesh, cut him some slack. he even keeps a count (i´m assuming of children or stds.)

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Kpax

I just lost my virginity last summer. I was 25. I've actually been the one asking HER when I could do it without a condom, "to see what it's like."

Being raised in a strict religious upbringing kinda makes my view of sex a bit distorted and overly fascinated. We were raised to be prudes, but I think that just makes a person even more fascinated with sex, to the point where safety is the last thing on their mind. I will change my thinking, though. I don't really look into the future with certainty of achievement, but there is no way I would like this girl that I've been getting with to be the last person in life that I get involved with physically.

I asked if this type of activity counted because I thought that putting only the tip in was called "rimjob." I lost my virginity at 25! I waited a 1/4 of a century! You can see why I keep count.

Martian

Uhh, no. I've suddenly got this mental image of you asking for a rimjob and being very surprised at the ensuing act.

Google is your friend.

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Willravel

And take a picture of your face when you click on google images.

braisler

I read all the way through this thread... and actually laughed out loud when I got to the end. So it seems that our Kpax is the product of religious, (possibly) abstinence only sex-ed. Who'd have thought!

What other mis-named sexual exploits can we introduce him to? Rusty Trombone is when you have sex in a old pickup truck with a decaying bed? Cleveland Steamer = Sex in Ohio on a warm summer night? Dirty Sanchez = Sex with a Latina before her shower?

I'm sure we could come up with more...

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Cynthetiq

wait... and you didn't share it after all that angst? you went from never kissed a girl to lost virgnity... to is sticking it in sex?

are you sure you lost your viriginity?

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abaya

Um, no. That's no reason to keep count the way you are trying to do.

Sorry to tell you that you weren't the only 25 year old virgin in the world, so you're really not that special. Get over yourself.

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Shauk

some people simply do not have the social ability to bed a woman by the time they are 25. Being confident in who you are is the 1st step, finding someone who likes who you are is the 2nd step.

Cynthetiq

well if you have $20 in some towns, you can pass go and go right past steps 1 and 2 and go right to sticking it in.

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Plan9

I've seen a man do that and live. NOT RECOMMENDED.

If you would like me to mail you condoms, I can do it. I've got free time.

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World's King

No. Not even close.


As a guy that enjoys an occasional rimjob... Let me explain it to you.



So... While the girl is going down on you, she'll move a little further south, maybe lick your balls for a bit, then she'll move even further south, and the next thing you know she's licking your asshole. And you've come all over your own stomach.


Have fun with that.

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telekinetic

kpax thread from the future: "so I was getting a rimjob, and the girl stuck her finger in my butt. It was just a little bit, not all the way in. So the question is, am I gay now, or just bi, since she didn't stick it in all the way?"

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Plan9

+1

Hahahah, I'd owe you a beer for that laugh.

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ShaniFaye

this really made me laugh

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allaboutmusic

If you want "to see what it's like", go work in an orphanage or something where you can find out what it's like to take care of kids.

Thank you, abaya... I can't believe the excuses you keep making for yourself. Ignorance is forgivable to some extent, all of us are ignorant to some extent about things. But for goodness sake, take some responsibility. Waiting 25 years doesn't automatically make you stupid.

I am more than happy to say that I'm still a virgin - by choice - and I am 27. I made that decision consciously (for romantic, non-religious reasons) after learning what I could about sex and the different views on it, and although at times it's hard to stick by that decision when opportunity presents itself, I don't use it as an excuse for myself. Grow up.

ItWasMe

OMG I haven't laughed so hard in a long time, thanks twisted.

Kpax, she probably won't have condoms next time, either. Bring them.

BTW Crompsin, when I was reading this thread my toddler climbed into my lap. She pointed to your avatar, and yelled "it's a cupcake!" Thought you'd like to know

Edit: Looks like you changed your avatar while I was typing. It was your "misfits" one.

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abaya

+1 from me, too.

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Ustwo

Dude seriously.

This isn't 1950 where porno came in brown paper bags and was illegal to ship via the post office.

Do the basic research just about every other kid does at 15. It was harder for me without the net, but I managed to figure it out and know the basic ins and outs (drum roll). These days you get it all delivered at home for free with variations and midgets when needed.

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mixedmedia

whoa, this thread just got seksy

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Martian

That doesn't clarify very much, since the new one is also a Misfits avatar.

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snowy

Nerd.

This thread has made me laugh so hard--my roommate thinks I'm crazy.

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ItWasMe

I was also laughing my butt off while reading this thread. Especially when you called Martian a Nerd. That was priceless.

Cupcake's avatar...er, I mean, um...Crompsin's avatar that she was so enthralled with had the word "misfits" on it. It took me a second or two to figure out why she thought it was a cupcake. It does have the basic shape of a cupcake, with a cherry on top.

Martian, aren't you a bit young to have seen the Misfits show? I haven't even seen reruns on that series in probably 20 years. I'm still surprised Crompsin has the shirt.

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Martian

Show? The Misfits are a band.

And snowy calls me a nerd because she knows I'll let her get away with it. C'est la vie.

And Crompsin doesn't have the shirt. He has a tattoo.

A tattoo made of awesome.

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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said

- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

telekinetic

You're not talking about Jem and the Holograms are you? Crompsin's tattoo (not shirt) and avatar are referencing the hardcore punk band, not the 'evil' band in the girl-GIJoe cartoon.

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blahblah454

Best. Thread. Ever.

ItWasMe

Well, Hell, dress me in purple and call me slow. I thought it was from this tv show and this sweatshirt.


Hey, Cupcake...where is a copy of your misfits avatar so we can compare??

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Martian

EDIT - Strange.

URL, then:

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I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said

- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame

ItWasMe

It says "this video no longer exists"

EDIT: Okay, that video is there. Looks scary. Need to view it during daylight hours.

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ring

Hey kpax...forgive us...we are all just a tad...

ECSTATIC....about Crompsin's good news....dog pile on Crompsie!

uhhh...to the OP...

You had sex.......

With all the good advice given here in previous posts..there isn't much
I can add...

ItWasMe

[QUOTE=ring]...

ECSTATIC....about Crompsin's good news....dog pile on Crompsie!
QUOTE]

...good news that a two year old thinks he looks like a cupcake? LoL Resume dogpile! (eh...I'm gonna catch Hell for this when he mosies back to this thread)

Oh, yea, not to forget the OP... I think I did mention, 'take condoments' next time.

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SecretMethod70

All that needs to be said.

Your mindset about this issue is seriously warped - and, yes, a lot of that comes from your upbringing, but now you know that and so it's time to start fixing it. If that means you need to start seeing a therapist about your low self-esteem, warped perspective on sexual and relationship issues, and the damage caused by your strict religious upbringing, then so be it. I'd strongly recommend it (not that this hasn't been said to you here before, many times, by many different people).

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james t kirk

Actually, I was in a relationship for 5 years and would use withdrawl as birth control. It takes skill, but it does work, though your natural inclination is to take those last 2 strokes.

I have a friend whose been married 20 years and has always used withdrawl. He has 2 kids, both of them planned.

Not saying it's right for everyone, you need discipline, but it can work.

Shauk

which town is this? I need some birthday goodies.

(may 18th! cmon! lol)

telekinetic

TJ, but you'll probably get more birthday 'goodies' than you really want...espcially if you hit it kpax style.

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Plan9

I AM a cupcake. Hahaha... the kid said so. I generally believe children.

Yeah, I've been referred to as the cookie monster and a cupcake since I've been here. That's totally sweet... and by sweet I mean good for my self-esteem to be referred to as a deranged blue muppet or a small pastry.

I may or may not have a scar and/or birthmark that is fashioned in a particular familiar band-from-'77 shape.

Mmmm, I'd hit that like an enraged male women's-equality activist.

KPAX-style? Is that a new sex position? What would it consist of?

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ratbastid

1/4" of insertion, while doubting yourself.