What sort of ratio for giving/getting oral sex would be your preference?
 

50/50 here. Well, maybe 55/45. I looooove giving!

50/50 works for me.

I've never thought about it on a ratio basis. Frankly, as long as we both feel comfortable asking for it when we want it then there is no ratio needed to make me happy.

I wish for 50/50. I'd be happy with 75/25.

It's currently about 99/1. :(

Oh well, so is life. Our relationship is great other than that.

Why does there have to be a ratio?

It doesn't have to be a ratio. I can say that I give a lot more than I receive and I am happy with that.
I get more satisfaction out of giving and I feel just as rewarded as she does when she comes.

Have you always felt that way?

I prefer a ratio of 69 dude! :D

Haha, I know right ? Great answer, I'd have to agree.

Ratio isn't something I think about. I'm a giver, and love the occasional sit on my face an blow me action.

If sex isn't an option, then 50/50 would be nice. If sex is an option, then 100/0 would be acceptable to me. Nothing gets me hotter than seeing a girl squirming around enjoying herself.

Technically if oral sex is occurring in a monogamous relationship, there has to be a ratio by definition. Doesn't mean you have to pay any attention to it, though.

I've never been concerned with it. It's my opinion that sex is not a contest and is not about give and take.

I definitely give more than I get; I don't mind, though. I have a hard time relaxing enough to really enjoy receiving oral sex.

what is this "giving oral sex" that you speak of?

I'm all about the getting :D


In all sincerity, my wife really doesn't prefer it. I did not say she doesn't LIKE it, or that I don't know HOW to do it, I said she doesn't PREFER it. So I don't have to give and she is alright with that ..... lucky me huh :thumbsup:

Well not always I guess. I didn't discover the joys of giving head until sometime after I became a highly promiscuous college student. And it was a long time after that, well past college days, that I could say I was proficient at it. Perhaps it was after the first time my licking induced a big wet orgasm that I became a dedicated giver. I remember there was a period of time when I wouldn't be satisfied unless I could make her come that way. Still later I learned that what satisfied me didn't always satisfy my woman and that understanding her needs and desires before diving in was the best path to mutual satisfaction.

True. But if you're not paying attention, it's highly likely that ratio is constantly in flux.

Ditto that. Sometimes I become the giver for a while, sometimes it's him, sometimes it's mutual.

Who cares? It's all GOOD!

My preference? 100/0 - giving/receiving

This thread reminds me that I need to give more.....

I'm more of a giver than a receiver, I think. I get that warm and fuzzy feeling when I look at the permanent smile she's got after coming down from a great O. :)

From the responses above, it looks like there are more givers than receivers.

Now I'll wait patiently for Crompsin to come by and proclaim: "I takes oral from my bitches."

:D

That warm and fuzzy feeling could be interpreted as an ego boost. You see someone achieve great joy from your actions, and it makes you feel real good knowing you're fully capable of accomplishing such an act. It could also identify the "giver" as a compassionate person, because they sincerely want to satisfy their partner's sexual desires before satisfying their own.

Oral sex used to be considered a "bad" thing, and was even used as justification for a divorce. Today, it's an important gauge on an individual's level of compassion and generosity.

I'm happy with anything close to 50/50, though I seem to enjoy giving it more than TM does. *shrug* But I can't complain, there's plenty of giving and receiving.

Like 90/10. I'm really not into receiving all that much, but I love having penis in my mouth. (:

I think 1/3:2/3 is good. I love going down on women, and I love how it generally leads to another O during the sex which always ensues. However, I do GREATLY appreciate receiving... and sometimes that's all I have the energy for.

Really what makes the difference for me in the ratio is the fact I can't really do anything after receiving. Honestly, I just want to lay there and spoon afterwards with a huge smile on my face. She, on the other hand, is more than capable of continuing afterwards.

I really like giving to my lovely wife...and most recently she has started to respond in kind. I don't mind the 99/1 as I really like seeing her squirm. The variation is nice though.

Prefer to give than receive - but I think in large part that is down to rarely having come from oral. Probably has happened 3 times in my life!

Always prefer a pussy!

Well in the relationship I just got out of I liked the 50/50 times, though it was recently more like 80/20...if that.

Currently, it kind of depends on the guy. Some guys are harder than others so it's harder for me to enjoy it. And some guys suck at giving (pun intended).

In the majority of situations I really enjoy both though, so I'm gonna go with 50/50, or better yet, 69!

For me it's 0/100 giving to receiving. My wife is very self conscious about her nether regions since giving birth.