Ever slept with someone you didnt find physically attractive?
 

Yes, unfortunately. He was really nice and easy to talk to. Give me a couple of drinks and well...it didnt last long. I realized he was just a nice guy, i.e. loser. I knew I was better than that.

Nope. Can't say that I have. I can't imagine even trying.

Nope.

yup...

yup...

No. Though personality, words, and behavior can indeed turn me on, finding the person physically attractive is usually what gets it all started.

Yes. I've had a couple of men in my life that I didn't find attractive (as aquaintances or friends) but once I saw who they were inside, I saw them very differently and they became attractive and sexy to me.

Yes I have. Most of my sex has been with folks I dont find 'physically' attractive however usually when I find someone attractive because of who they are, I begin to find them physically attractive also.

Other times,I have failed to find someone attractive at all, usually in a tired relationship and I have still slept with them. It happens.

I have to tune into someones mind to find them attractive physically.

Yes. They might not have been physically attractive standing around, but lying down, they were gods...
Used to be a "saying": "Ugly people make better lovers because they have to try harder." Compensation can be a wonderful thing.

Slept with? No.

Woke up next to? Numerous times.


I kid. I kid.

never. my drunkologue didn't even have room for it since I was a staunch celibate at the time.

Loads of times. There have been a few guys who I thought would be average, at best, but turned out to be Gods in the bedroom. Those guys weren't attractive, imo, but boy am I glad I didn't let their looks get in the way. :>

The hottest guy I've been with was alright. He was a bit too vanilla for me, though.

Wait... I don't think you're communicating your thoughts clearly. It sounds like you're calling nice guys losers unless they're physically attractive.

Anyway, yeah... one of the girls I slept with I found very attractive mentally and emotionally, but physically she didn't really do it for me. We had a good time together though, so I don't regret it one bit.

yep.

Kinda...

If there is a scale with a yes and a no cut off, I've been with a couple that were JUST over the no point on the attraction scale.

Yup.

But she deep-throated and swallowed. Oh, and I was a teenager too. Not gonna let a little thing like physical attraction get in the way of getting some back then.....

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OP: Oh, it has happened. The thing that scares me the most though is how easy it was for me to file it under "PTSD therapy" to make self-excuses.

Does sleeping alone count? :)

Ooooo, modern emo existential melt-down! Nice.

Ha!

Back to the OP: Does sharing a double bed in hotels with my sister when we were kids count?


Seriously: No, I have never slept with someone I didn't find physically attractive.

See, the problem with this is that it doesn't take into account how many men will sheath their Jedi meatsaber in whatever piece of TonTon comes by on a Friday night. In the army we had a phrase for this type of activity... the kind of phrase that I don't really feel like ever repeating again. *shiver*

If the OP says: "Ever slept with someone you didn't find physically attractive?" it would be a little silly to assume that you'd take your pants off for someone that initially repulses you. I think the idea is, "ever woke up to a bad one-nighter?"

Somebody's banging the ugly people of the world and, by-God, it includes some of us.

I'm an alcoholic.




'nuff said...

Got a higher body count than Contra III, huh?

I have not had sex with an ugly woman before. But I did let a pretty ugly girl when I was just out of high school suck me off when she wanted to. And she wanted to a lot! And she was amazing at it, best head I have ever had, best head I will probably ever have.

Yes.

Once.

Ugh.

....said my boyfriend about his ex from high school. Then again, he was a pretty big dork in that day too.

Was a time....when I truly cared about a girl most would consider quite unattractive. Thing is, she knew it, and became nearly depressed about her physical appearance, but I became her friend, and in a way I loved her. Over a couple month period I gave her "attention" in many ways to build her self esteem and it worked wonders.
She lost 40 lbs, and made abrupt changes to her appearance that pushed her into the attractive arena. When the inevitable came...I just smiled inside and told her she rocks. Haven't talked to her in years, but I bet shes happy and confident...woo hoo.

I did once sleep with a guy who was attractive, just not to me. I was a little...unstable at the time, having just gotten out of a 1.5 year totally fucked up relationship. The dude in question was known for being a bit of a player...yeah, well, I played him good.

I guess he was mopey for a couple weeks afterwards because he'd never had a girl use him like that before...serves him right.

Nope, Never. Oddly attractive in a dark, Jewish genius sorta way....yeah.

And that's like the counter/opposite of my being. Probably why I was so attracted!

Now regrets hmmm- of course. Was it worth it? Oh YeAHHhhhhhh :thumbsup:

( I loved the pre-AIDS time of sexuality!!!!)

unfortunately yes i did...

a girl i knew in university, my good friend had picked her up earlier in the year and had a fling with her, he said she was the best lay he ever had.

i ended up at her house 4th year, well I had to see what the hype was about. she was attractive, just not my type.

and damn he was right, she was amazing.

now that i think about it i should chance that first line from "did" to "have" as now i can remember others....

(hangs head)

Yes, but it wasn't until after we broke up a couple of years later that I found him unattractive physically as well as mentally. That seems to be the way it goes. When I like someone, I find them physically appealing, no matter how others perceive them. When I can't stand them, I find them ugly through and through.

No and I hope I never let it get that far...

In short, I have never been so alcoholically stupified that I could do that.

And I know I couldn't do it sober.

Yes. Alcohol was not involved. She offered, I didn't want her to feel bad, so I said yes. The worst part was she kissed me on the mouth. Her teeth looked like a game of pick-up sticks.

I've never slept with someone that I felt was VERY unattractive, although, I lost my virginity to a sixteen year old who wasn't the best looking guy I've seen.

I've also slept with a girl who has the exact opposite body type that I enjoy... but I take what I can get.

maybe, but hard to remember, lol, alcohol kinda erases memories, thank goodness

Not really, I don't like to pretend... But what I have learned since my divorce and returning to the dating scene, is that I after have had sex/slept with women that I find very attractive, the more I get to know about them on the inside, the less attractive they are, so far anyway. I think I am just more picky now than when I was younger.

LOL

Best one yet

To the question at hand - yes, an alcohol was NOT involved either, so there.

I have no regrets about any woman that I have ever slept with to tell you the truth.

Crompsin, you are my hero. :thumbsup:

Sleep with him? Heck, I married him. And you know what? When feelings get involved, you get get past almost anything. Even that 150lbs he put on during the marriage.

Single now. And I wouldn't sleep with someone that I didn't feel at least a spark with. Of course after years of sleeping with someone I didn't desire, that spark is amazingly easy to find.

Wow, that's like growing a fully-developed 16 year old Crompsin in your torso.

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The investment we have in another person allows us to overlook what we initial see as temporary setbacks or minor issues even though they're dealbreakers.

Our brains rationalize it with simple mechanics. The cost of going vs. the cost of staying.

Yes. I've slept with more people then anyone I know.

So, what percentage would you say were less-than-acceptable to be seen with in public (during the day, without intoxication)?

About 10%


Just cause I'm a drunk doesn't mean I don't have standards.

He wasn't small to begin with either. The logistics alone...but I digress.

Let's just say that the games are a lot more fun when people can actually move around a bit. ;-)

Affection creates beauty.

neh

removed

Exit Wounds was such a shitty movie.

never seen it, lol. Some random dudes house for an after party, That photo was taken at about 5 am in the middle of a snowstorm

theres a crazy story behind that night and how i even wound up 100 miles away from where I live with no car using only my wits and my clever dialogue and wound up starting a relationship with that girl who is basically the bane of my existance at this point but once was good for me.

meh, people change. BUT TO STAY ON TOPIC, She's attractive to me.

Is that first girl a midget? Or are you giant?

i'm 6'6" and she's asian.

I didn't own this shirt back then
http://www.snorgtees.com/images/ImHu..._Fullpic_4.jpg
http://www.snorgtees.com/images/ImHu..._Fullpic_1.jpg

"Stand up and blow me."

No can't say I have.

Sure did about 2 years back. Still wondering to myself why I did it and if I'd do it again. She offered free sex and said that she just needs someone to sleep with while she was on holiday. It didn't help that she had some sordid details about sexual preferences and during the time when we had our fling, she also had a girlfriend. I had imagined that eventually I'd end up doing the both of them together or at least be allowed to watch them make out. And that would have put a tick in my list of "Things to do before I die".

Hahaha, I didn't find her that attractive but she had a nice bod. I didn't find her female partner attractive at all so perhaps that's why I didn't pursue that. And she said yes to the menage a troi but later she said her gf didn't like the idea.

She called a month back and wanted to catch up now that she's back. I don't know... I don't know...

That is the most kick ass shirt I have ever seen Shauk, and I think that first tiny girl is hot

No, but I've only been with one girl. Physical attraction would be my only determining factor, ironically. I wouldn't care what her personality is like, or how long I've known her. This seems to be the reverse of how men are chosen by women.

So far, for me, 100%, but her personality is so unattractive that her physical attraction and her lack of presence (in my life) is not burdening me much.

But haven't you slept with only 1 or 2 men?

Revisit this topic should your number hit 20 something some day.

no, but every woman who's slept with me has

ZING!

I should steal that.

High five, FTMFW.

Oh yeah. Once that I can remember. She was unattractive inside and out.
Well, inside I mean figuratively. I didn't really look in there and say wow you are ugly in there. She was shallow and creepy. But outside I mean literally. She was ugly in her face like a old dirty dishtowel. It was a bad, bad scene. Uggg, did you have to remind me? I feel bad all over again, except without the orgasm.

Am I the only one who has done this sober?!?!?! EEEwww some how I feel dirty and this was like 10 years ago. Any way, after staying single for almost a year (by choice) I had needs that needed to be met. Instead of going to the bar and picking up someone, which I could easily have done, I choose someone I knew and trusted. He had a crush on my for years and he was sooooo not my type. To make matters worse he was so excited that I finally was giving him the opportunity he couldn't last. Blah, I should have went to the bar.....

Does being married count?

I have heard the term "Desert Queen": Someone who looks really good in Iraq, but get her back in the states, and you wouldn't even go there at last call on a Tuesday.

I've tagged a fattie before, so yeah, I guess I can say I've sexed someone I'm not attracted to.

A little tact often goes a long way..

I don't think I've ever heard "tagged a fattie" out of someone who didn't have one of the following:

a) a popped collar
b) a waxed chest
c) a ridiculously ugly zoot-suit
d) aviators
e) a shirt with their frat's letters on it

We aren't your frat brothers or your adolescent male friends who think its "badass" to talk about women like that.

Yep. Fucked my brains out. No alcohol involved (or needed). She was a great regular Sunday afternoon fuck buddy. Nothing implied or expected.

Not that she wasn't attractive, she was, she just wasn't my ideal.

Pfft, you speak for yourself, bro.

*pops collar, slides on aviator shades*

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The responses to this thread are often devoid of the critical point it makes.

Dude, you've totally tagged a fatty.

You totally have "Phattys are Phun to Phuck" tattooed across your back.

for some reason all I can think about is the bunny with a pancake on it's head.

I had severe confidence issues, so yes, I got stuck with someone I didnt find attractive. I was with her for 7 years. We broke up and I was finally with someone hot. I used to always lay in bed and just imagine someone who was thin and had a flat stomach and what it would be like.

It was more glorious than i could have imagined.

I still have confidence issues, but not like back in the day. I wouldnt be with someone not attractive again.

Oh my, well I've got a story for this thread.

Married to a man I found attractive, intelligent, etc. However he wouldn't hardly have sex with me after we were married. He claimed it was because he didn't know what to do to please me (he had a hair trigger so by intercourse was out) and I couldn't explain any other way to bring me to climax. I could do it myself and I was mostly okay with that, but since he couldn't satisfy me, he wouldn't even try to have sex with me anymore; that was not okay with me.. . . .proceed forward to our tenth year of marriage.

I am building a pond and meet a fellow that is connected with that. Little short icky guy, really. Never had dental insurance so he had the brown/black line around his teeth just a bit from years of smoking, fat, about 5'1". Nice dresser though. Anyway he was giving me such good deals on the stuff I was buying that when he went to kiss me goodbye one afternoon I let him. Of course he had to push a bit to get a real kiss, but what the hey, I let him.

I'm telling you, my toes curled like I had never experienced. I was dumbfounded, speechless (which you can already tell is rare for me). So I demanded he kiss me again. (I'm figuring that its because of years of marital neglect, second kiss won't even catch my notice) WRONG! It was so bizarre.

So I went home and explained to hubby that I might have met someone who could show me and hence I could show him. Took some convincing, but hubby says okay.

So YES I have had sex with someone I did not find the least bit attractive. He didn't teach me as much as I had hoped, but it was enough to take home and teach a little something to the hubby.

Moral of the above story. The concept presented in the revenge of the nerds. . . ugly guys can have talents/skills that good looking guys don't seem to need to learn.

yes. i have. more than once. doesn't really matter much if the room is dark - & they understand it just sex & just this once.

Yes and no. A lot of what makes people attractive to me sexually has to do with who they are as a person. I've not been sexually attracted to someone only to change my mind as I got to know them better and liked them.

As an aside, there sure is a lot of bitterness in this thread. :)

Nope. I've only ever had one and she was drop-dead gorgeous in my eyes.

I don't get a lot of attention from women in general anyways. If someone's interested in me, they sure as hell don't let me know. :)

No. I almost did once, but I couldn't do it. Not because of the lack of physical attraction. She had a decent bod, and physically, I was ready to go. But she was totally in love with me, and even though she said she just wanted to get it on, no strings, I could tell it would mean something to her that it would never mean for me, and if I did it, it would just be cruel to her. So I didn't.

I haven't.

Yes a few times. Usually it's a case of personality more than making up for only 'average' looks.

Levite your post has intrigued me alot!

Show me the fugly girls.. you're turning me on already!

never. for me i would need to a lil bit physically attracted to her. of course this also has to come with personality. i hate gorgeous ppl who are absolutely dull or really outgoing and just not good looking.

Twice.

The first guy was shorter than me and nerdy looking, kinda out of shape.(He fixed my computer). Almost pissed himself asking me if I wanted a drink. When I left my legs were so wobbly from getting screwed senseless I forgot my computer. Did it again when I went back.

Second time not so good.

Was lonely (horny!%#$@!) and getting drunk at a friend's cottage. Was talking to this guy innocently about movies and stuff and all of a sudden he says, "Wanna find a room and do it?"

Being a little drunk (but more horny) I agreed. What a mistake. Let's see. The guy barely had his dick in me and he loses it. Couldn't have been more than 5 seconds. He sort of looked like Quentin Tarantino. Yuch. Not only creepy but the worst ever.

Yep! Good times, bad times and sprinting home times.

Lots of times. I have a sort of fetish sometimes about having sex with someone I find unattractive or even repulsive... I can't really explain it. It's a regular fantasy of mine as well.

One of my best friends is like that. She can have anyone she pleases(and does, the little tramp) because she is drop dead gorgeous. But she gets a kick once in a while sleeping with guys who would normally think they never would have a snowballs chance in hell with her.

Yanno, not that I would admit to this as a fetish, but there is a definite sense of power when you are clearly the more attractive person in the bed. If you go with a guy who thought he never had a chance with you...he'll make damn sure you consider it again. :thumbsup:

That's sort of fucked up.

This is absolutely true, but it's something that you have to put out of your mind. Being stuck up is not a good thing to be, trust me.

I am dating a guy who, physically, did not appeal to me initially, though he is an attractive man. But his personality is dynamite and I am hooked. He is actually growing on me in a big way.

Counter this with a guy I am fucking on the side who I find physically hot but his personality is meh.

Eventually, when I have to cut one loose the choice will be very easy.

Every time I jerk off...

I don't think it's stuck up to recognize your own attractiveness. Stuck up is thinking that attractiveness makes you a superior person. All attractiveness does is...attract other people.

Exactly what I was thinking.

That's fucked up as well.

Nope.

Though a terrble personality can turn a physically attractive woman repulsive.

Well for me it's not so much a case of giving an unattractive man a chance he wouldn't otherwise have had (pity sex?)... the sex with an unattractive man is a part of the fantasy for ME. All those twisted tales of an ugly creature ravaging the pretty young princess sexually turn me on like CRAZY.

I really appreciate this response, Jinn. I think it's a good point to be made in threads like this one.

The problem with this thread is that generally there's no way of telling who was really the "prize pig" in the equation, unless there is photographic evidence (like Shauk provided), so I don't think it's necessary to call anyone an uggo or a fatty or otherwise insult them. Besides, sexual attraction is a more complicated thing than simple physical attraction, as many in this thread have pointed out.

Hell yeah, I have. Many times. In the swinger lifestyle it was not uncommon to "take one for the team." Since I was the only fit one in my previous relationship it was difficult to find couples who were both relatively fit and inevitably there would be one who was quite overweight. I'll never forget the one time I "took one for the team" and the guy had to LIFT his belly off his cock so that I could get to it. Good thing I wasn't a guy cause my Johnson would NOT have been rising to that challenge even with 10 viagra to back me up.

Life is so much better when you are more selective about who you bang.

LOL! Damn, that's rough. I hope he rubbed your feet and made breakfast in bead.

I wish! Not even once.

That's just wrong. I hope you fired him.

Yeah, and we repeated it 3-6 times a day for about a week, until I had to go to work. We both knew it wasn't going to last, but it was absolutely the best sex ever...

Been there done that. In my case the guy also had copious amounts of body hair and extremely poor hygiene, I remember wondering if he knew how to wash himself or trim. It was quite unpleasant, and a huge turnon for me especially as the fat bastard was so excited at the prospect of me sucking him off. I've relived that one many times on a quiet night at home on my own.

Yeah...for about 5 minutes and then I stopped myself. She gave great head though.