UKking

Do you want your wife to be a virgin?

Hell no. Must test-drive vehicle before putting a large amount of miles on it.

Plan9

I've never been with a virgin and don't intend on it.

Not something I particularly care for in a woman.

The "Oh, I was the first," and "I'll train her right," mentality makes me bitter.

Did I feel all special when a woman "took" my virginity (her having experience and me having none)?

No.

(Actually, I felt like: "What? That was it? Sex blows. I'm going back to C&C: Red Alert!")

...

I think the concept of female virginity is a little sexist.

I want the woman I marry to be just as experienced as myself.

The difference in the crotch toolbox doesn't change the brain.

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Nimetic

It never seemed important to me. I don't think many guys care about it (in AU) - as far as I know. Although there's definitely a few guys that target the young girls. Maybe it means something to them...

But I don't think those guys had/have marriage in mind anyways. I just figure they hang with the first chick that will listen to them.

Cynthetiq

I've been with 2 virgins in my life. most boring sex romp ever...

My wife was a virgin when I met her, she's much more fun and experienced now.

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Hydra1978

Personally, I'd rather have a more experienced woman. Then again, there is a limit where I have to say "whoa, that's TO many". I know a few of those also ;-).

Overall, I don't believe saving yourself for marriage is a good thing. I think there is a very big bond between two people when it comes to sex. If the sex isn't right, then I've seen it put a big strain on their life together.

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pig

I demand to be the first man to plant my staff in a woman's fecund roundness, thus securing her maidenhead for the secure birthing of the continuation of my line.

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Baraka_Guru

You, sir, are a gentleman and a scholar. May your line carry forward to eternity.

God bless you and your estates.


* * *

But, seriously, I could legally have sex with a 14-year-old virgin, who would be less than half my age. But I don't see this as desirable.

...14-year-old girls are freakin' crazy!


I'm with those who say experience is a nice asset.

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Willravel

Sorry, but I only did virgins in my past. When it comes to marriage, I can't be there to help rebuild after the first shag. It took me years after my first time to rebuild myself (because the first time was a one time thing).

Kaimi

Practice makes perfect.

fish_oinc

Is she is a virgin I'm sure she would be under age They are hard to find after they reach maturity

World's King

Well, seeing as I only fuck hookers, strippers, and porn stars...



That and I don't plan on getting married till I'm in my late 30s. If she's still a virgin at that point, she must have huge problems, which means I wouldn't be marrying her.

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pig

Well met Sir, well met.

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samurai_x44

Virginity doesn't really matter to me but I wouldn't expect the first time to be any good : it never is.

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Dtamr

It used to matter a lot to me, but the only person I've been with was not a virgin when I met her. It took me a while to get over it. About... seven seconds, as I recall. But the sex is great, always has been, and we've been in a committed relationship for 3 years now. Does not look to be an issue I need to worry about again.

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telekinetic

I'd suggest finding someone with no gag reflex, that's way more important than no hymen.

^_^

Only been with one virgin that I can recall (no, wasn't my first time, too), and consciously avoided deflowering a couple people to avoid baggage.

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Push-Pull

I dated a girl who was saving herself for marriage. She was faaaaar from inexperienced, she loved giving head and being eaten out. Had I stayed with her longer (she got, well, weird...) I'm sure that I could have had anal sex with her because in her mind, she'd still technically be a virgin. My mindset was that "Hey, I'm getting it pretty good here, no sense in fucking this up by pushing for the big deflowering."

As for nowadays, I wouldn't pursue a woman just because she was a virgin. There's way too much other stuff to consider. In fact, I'd almost shy away from a virgin, because sex has become fairly high on my list of stuff I enjoy in life, and I'd rather practice than teach.

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canuckguy

i am just howling over that! Oh so true....


I could careless if she is virgin or not. There are downsides to both options, virgin usually means terrible sex, emotional baggage (assuming were talking about someone older). Or maybe it is has been too many and now its the ole hotdog down the hallway......(jokes).

I love saying this just to piss people off who make the argument that she has to be a virgin but i just assumed that men who need a virgin are just so insecure with themselves whether it be dick size or performance that they don't want someone who is experienced and knows better....

oddly my current girlfriend was a virgin, she is 31 and we've been together for just over a year. Took me about 3 months to close the deal (high five!)....she was just shy and had not found the right guy.

funny enough that she is the most sexually open, perverted girl i've ever been with. fantastic sex, willing to try anything and everything....woo-hoo! god i love her.

Redlemon

I was a bit freaked out when my GF told me that she had slept with someone else before we met... for about 20 seconds. Then I remembered that I had had a one-night stand before meeting her, and who the hell was I to have a double-standard? We're married now.
You bedded 2 virgins simultaneously? Boring or not, you are the smoothest talker ever...

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ratbastid

The first time with a new partner is generally not so great. The first time EVER can be downright disastrous. Best to get it over with quickly and move on to better times down the road.

Do I care who she's been with before me? Only if they had a disease I don't want. Apart from that, I couldn't possibly care less.

Psycho Dad

That test drive is as low on the priority list as seeking out a virginal bride. A sexual relationship is going to take time to grow grow or deteriorate as much as any other relationship factor.

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jorgelito

Absolutely important!! I am very concerned and adamant about losing my virginity! I am just waiting for Ms. Right to come along, my Dame in Shining Lingerie, and sweep me off my feet and carry me across the threshold.

*sigh*

levite

Oh, dear God no! I would never shag a virgin. I'm a teacher for a living: the last thing I want to do when I'm in bed is teach.

But then again, I never had much interest in virgins, even when I was one. I figured, how am I going to learn what to do if the girl hasn't ever done it, either? I got "tutored" by an older girl in "everything but," and it was a great experience. The first girl I ever actually had intercourse with had been similarly "tutored" by an older guy. It was great, and I never looked back.

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Baraka_Guru

If you lose your virginity, you're fucked!

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Plan9

Thank you for completing me.

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Terrell

No, I would wonder what her views about sex are. I suspect they may be incompatible with mine, if she's of a similiar age to me (37) and is still a virgin.

Rococo

I've been with my wife for 9 years now. married 2 and a half years. she was my 3rd, i was her first. during the 9 year period we both got the itch to try something else, i fell in love with this one chick, thought she was the one. found out she had been with somewhere between 20-30 guys, she had threesomes, god knows what else. I didn't think it would be a big deal but man, it felt like shit knowing she'd been with that many, and she was only 27.

the biggest problem was the baggage she brought along. Bullshit stories about abusive ex's, unavailable men, she kept in touch with some of the ex's despite my requests etc. gave me a nice case of HPV to top it all off. Anyways, that girl made me go crazy, oh and she slit her arm with a knife one night when i found out she was communicating with an ex and tried to dump her. a couple more months of insanity and my current wife and I were back together.

its much calmer now. and it sure is nice not to have to think of her having sex with dozens of men.

so i wouldn't say virginity is key, since it can lead to people cheating or at least wanting to try something else. but lots of partners whether they meant something or not is probably the biggest turn-off i can imagine about a girl, long-term or not.

if you do end up finding someone who is a virgin, i can't figure out how that can be a turn off. sex is not rocket science. if you're such a champ in bed then show her a thing or two. if you love each other he/she will eventually learn what to do to make sex enjoyable for you. i'd rather know i'm getting great head from a girl who learned from me rather than some other random dudes.

Mantus

Sexuality is a huge part of a person's identity. I just couldn't handle such immaturity.

StellaLuna

Ouch. How about not a virgin but had such shitty sexual experiences that she/he might as well be one*? You're so great in bed, help that person with their "identity".


*That'd be me up until a year ago. It's a process.

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Mantus

Luna baby, I am more than happy to and do provide such cervices

However I would never marry a virgin. That's just asinine on too many levels. For one...she'd be going to heaven and I'd be going to hell...and I just wouldn't know how to deal with that :P

Tully Mars

The mother of a girl I was dating once said "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?' I asked "Why buy a cow if the quality of the milk is in question?"

Don't think she cared much for me. But her daughter was a freak and I didn't care much for she either.

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snowy

My mama always said, "You wouldn't buy a cow without trying the milk first."

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Tully Mars

Corvallis? Odd you show post. I was flipping burgers at the Wendy's (9th St. I think) when I knew the girl I'm talking about. Small world.

BTW- The Beav's gonna win the CWS again this spring?

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cyklone

I've been there a couple of times. Boring!!!! but they got a lot better with practice. I'm sure the first girl I was with thought the same about me, or at least I hope she thought I got better with practice

snowy

Depends on how well Pat Casey did with the recruiting...the Beavs just started practicing last week, and it remains to be seen how the new recruits will pan out. He had a lot of key players to replace, but I think the desire to threepeat is definitely there and will drive the players to do the best they can to reach that goal.

Either way, I'm definitely looking forward to catching some Beavers games this spring.

/threadjack

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