finger in the butt
 

my gf and i recently experimented with me sticking a finger in her ass while i ate her out. She liked it a lot and then she wanted to do it to me. At first i said no cause i didn't feel comfortable with it, but then i felt bad because she'll do anything i ask. So i tried it by myself once while jackin off and it just made me feel like i had to take a crap...then my muscles just tightened up and made it almost hurt. I tried finding the prostate but couldn't. Needless to say, it was a bad experience, but i wanna give it a chance with my gf...so are there any tips on how i can make it a better experience for myself or maybe to help get used to it...and where is the prostate? thanks

ky, ky, ky, ky, KY.

Start small, use plenty of lube and most importantly, RELAX.

your prostate is about the size of a walnut, and you probably will have difficulty reaching it yourself. It's a finger's length in ,and reached by pressing down with your finger(towards your feet) once inside

heh

i don't care how old and mature i get, this stuff will always be strange to me.

Just recently had it done.......Met a woman that gives GREAT head, she did it to me a few times, its was AMAZING. However, there is such thing as "Too Much", I find it depends on my mood.

Let her do it. You will never until you try it.

Finger in ass is great sometimes :) head becomes wow.

Wow,..finger in the ass and a longneck in hand. Sounds like you got it going on.

I'll do it to her, but definitely don't want anyone taking that road with me, no matter how good it could possibly feel.

ROFLMAO

That is the best possible response.

Done it to her. If she did it to me I think I'd jump outta bed.

Seriously as jokingly as he meant it, let youself go, don't worry about anything. Just let it flow, if you don't like it then no loss, you won't do it again, but if you never give it a shot then you may never know what you are missing out on.

Relaxing is important.
Lube is very important.
Maybe you could try exploring it yourself a little?
It's tough to get into a comfortable position, but well worth the effort.
Don't worry so much about finding the prostate, just do what feels good. Maybe it's not for everyone.

I think there's a reflexive response against this from straight guys, myself included, but if my gf wanted to do it all of a sudden, well, she might have to reciprocate. :D

What does the state of Kentucky have to do with it?


yes.. lubrication is most important... and if you could reach it yourself there would be men all over the place jerking off with their fingers up their butts....

i say fair game for you since she's willing to do and try at your request...

strangely enough i saw a TV ad for k-y the other day.... complete w/ guy and girl giving each other "interested" looks. weird.

my ex used to love a finger in the butt when i was messing around with her (bowling ball grip)... she only wanted it in a little way, but watching her eyes roll back in her head when i did it was the BEST!

she never tried it with me, and i don't know how i would react, but she enjoyed it so i was happy to oblige...

much lube, lotsa relaxed, and a come-hither motion.. If she DOES find the prostate.. You'll know! and if you've relaxed, accepted the fact that it's fun, mutual and kinky, you'll have a mind blowing orgasm... I've found I have to be in the mood for it, or so turned on I cannot say no. :-) not an every-day deal for her, nor for me.

go slow, muscles contract at first which is what made it uncomfortable, go very slow and relax and it will be all good!

Forks, too much! LMFAO.

Man o man! How I wish Mrs. Kata would let me rub the buttle. I just want to use my fingers nothing else. Although the last 6 days, I have been having dreams about (forgive me for being crass) tasting the hershey highway. So I'm game for that in real life only after a shower. I'm not too concerned about the whole penis in butt thing. I was at first when I had to use condoms because i figured I can't get her pregnant that way. but since we don't use them anymore, I don't even care about it.
Now, some may call me gay for this, but I don't mind having my buttle rubbed whilst getting some dome. And I would go as far as saying I don't mind if she gently put a finger in there looking for the prostate. But I don't know how to ask her to go for it without feeling ..... feeling.....gay and perverted.
So basically I say DO WHAT CHA LIKE!

edit: forgot to put a couple of words in a sentence.

Forks:

Positive advice is always prefered in "Tilted Advice" since people come here for help, not smart assed comments. Doubly so, since frequently the topic is sensitive to them.

Jim Kata:

COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE!

You might be surprised and find out that your Mrs also wants to try new stuff in bed (and possibly in the kitchen, dining room, etc.)

And since I assume you want to do this with your wife and not some strange guy in a bath house, I wouldn't worry about your being gay.

"Tasting the Hershey Highway" or rimming as it is commonly called (the technical term is analingus), can also be quite enjoyable if both parties are open minded to the experience.

Just a point I don't think anyone touched on....

I imagine it will be a lot more exciting if SHE was sticking her finger in your butt instead of your own!!:)

doesn't the finger come out brown?

i tried it once while i was masturbating, and didn't enjoy it (was using plenty of lube). my girlfriend never has expressed interest.

--
rich

Just gotta relax man...

Lube and relax. It's gunna feel weird to start with, don't worry too much about that, just think of how much better the blow jobs will be when you both have it down pat... and believe me, MUCH better...

Personally I think it stinks too much, maybe I don't clean down there well enough

How do you ask a girlfriend to let you try fingering her ass? I have a very innocent girlfriend, she eventually tries most anything I ask, but she's always been really negative about the whole in da butt thing whenever theres a comment on it from someone else.

then dont ask.
If she has a negative attitude about it, chances are her butthole wont be too thrilled until that changes. Either let the subject go, or wait until you are both more open to suggestion and maturely talk about it. If it's still a no go.. put that one in the fantasy file.

Every once in a while the wife and I have a little butt-play when she's in the mood. She says when the time is right she has some totally intense orgasms that she absolutley cannot control.

On even rarer occaisions, she reciprocates the finger-in-the butt on me during a BJ.

Don't knock it until you've tried it. . .

Heh heh. Like that one. I always referred to it as '<b>Six-packed</b>'.

My girlfriend loves to let her fingers wander down there, I tried it once with her to see if she would enjoy it, and she didn't, so I never tried again. I don't have the desire to, I was just curious to see if it would get the same reaction. My girlfriend's also getting a Strap-on for her birthday. So that should lead to some interesting nights. :)

You say that like it's a bad thing...

Is that the one for their warming lube. Stuck me a unusual commercial in a nudge nudge wink wink kind of way.

God Bless The Shocker...


:)

I've heard it being referred to as 'ringing the doorbell'; just gently pressing on the anus and drawing little circles around it. If it feels uncomfortable, just stick with it for a bit.
You've heard women talking about earth-shattering orgasm? The kind where your head just explodes. Well, if i'm in the mood :)

I once had a (forgot the name) thing done where you drank citron and clear out your stomach, then they stick this tube with lence on the tip to take shots of your intestine to see if there is anything wrong with it.

The guy used lubricant, but boy it hurted like hell.... well, the intestine hurted because there was a fucking tube in it moving upwards. And as it went along, it spread out white fluids...

But anyway, my ass is not a virgin no more...

LOVELY picture!

I love a little ass-play. My fiancee is a pro at finding my prostrate, and combined with a blowjob or handjob it's the best thing ever. She also likes to be played with, so it goes both ways. :) Definately use lots of lube, go slow, and most of all RELAX!

:confused:

Ahum.. don't you press up seeing the prostate is on the upper side of the passage?

That would depend on wether you're lying on your back, or on your stomach ;)

you can feel the base of the penis stretching backwards toward the anus and curling inward right in front of the sphyncter (sp). Just follow the trail one or two inches into the cave.