Dtamr

Hello, I'm new to the forums and I wanted to ask you all a question. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and I would really like some sexy pictures of her, but the only problem is I have no idea how to approach her and ask. She's a bit of a prude when it comes to sex and sex related topics (prefers missionary, followed by a firm handshake) but I know it's a turn on of hers to be embarassed. So while I wouldnt post any online, I would certainly like a few for my own posterity. Do all of you have any advice on the subject? Or was there some before and I just missed it while looking in the archives?

Alternatively, have you all got any pictures of your significent other(s)? Posting is not required but if you could tell everyone how those photos came to pass, it would be an interesting experience for myself and all who reads. Thanks in advance for all the help!

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blahblah454

Leave a camera beside the bed, and playfully snap a picture of her laying in her underwear or something. If she does not detest then maybe take it one step further. See how that works.

Thats how I got nudie pics, she ended up even taking some of me and we had a fun time of it

Konichiwaneko

just ask, it works for me.

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Mantus

I only date very naughty girls. So it's not an issue

Seriously though, it’s all about communicating how much it turns you on and how it turn you on. Also it’s all about making it a turn on for her. I think you’ve already know how it will appeal to her because she enjoys being embarrassed. So tell her how hot and sexy she looks and how you want her to see the beautiful image you are seeing. Turn yourself on and turn her on. The camera is a sex toy

World's King

"Hey, next time you're bored you should snap a few photos of your snatch for me."

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xepherys

Sometimes the best approach is straight-forward. Just ask her what she thinks of it? Maybe after you've been on TFP for a bit and have access to the Exhibition forum, you could look at it with her. Let her see real people having fun taking pictures and maybe it'll spark something in her.

TotalMILF and I have never had a problem taking pictures of each other or for each other. But in the end it's a matter of her comfort level with herself, her body and her sexuality.

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Dtamr

Well, this user account has been registered for years, so I guess access to other forums is a posting privledge. Better get packing on those posts!

On a similar note, thanks to you all for your suggestions. As for the straight out asking, I have already asked her once and now I am waiting for the reply. World's King, your advice rocks. I should just do it while she's asleep :P

Any more advice for a newbie? Bring it on, please!

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xepherys

Well, let's see.

My oldest son's mom allowed me to take pics of her when I was able to borrow an early digital camera from the retail store I worked at. But she wasn't very prudish at all.

My ex let me take pics and video without question. I just said, "hey, this might be fun" and she said, "definitely!"

My wife is even further from the prude end of the scale (hence the Exhibition shots) and I think if I went too long WITHOUT taking nekkid pics of her, she might think I didn't want her anymore :-p

So, it's hard for me to personally give advice if she really is a bit prudish. However, with the first two mentioned above, I was instrumental (thank you very much) in bringing their sexuality around quite a bit. *shrug* midas touch? j/k Sometimes you just have to make them want it. Tease her and flirt with her when you can't get freaky. Kiss her neck, hold her hand, love on her constantly so that when you two do get home and ready for "the deed" she's already as ready as ever. Then introduce some new ideas, slowly. Eventually she may realize that prudism isn't all it's cracked up to be.

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Plan9

...folllowed by a firm handshake?! Damn.

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ratbastid

Yeah, I nearly spat my coffee.

The_Jazz

I've got a wife who's 8 1/2 month pregnant. Just a hint of a firm handshake later in the week will have me bowing and scraping. The other day she brushed by me in the hall and I almost stained my pants.

Dtamr, you may have an insurmountable problem here. I had one girlfriend that I was taking polaroids of on the 3rd date back in the early 90's. I had another one that I never saw completely naked in the light even though we were sleeping together on a regular basis. If she has body image issues, you're not going to overcome those easily, and taking pictures unannouced may make it worse. I really and truly think you need to have a discussion with her, explain why you want the pictures and be prepared to take "no" for an answer while leaving the door open to future requests.

And access to exhibition is granted after staff review of your posts. There are minimum requirements to be met, but if your posts show you aren't the kind of person we want in that part of the board, you won't get there. And that's the universal "you", not you in particular, btw.

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Konichiwaneko

It's also extremely thrilling. You never know which ones will respond which way, and some might be completely into it while giving a persona of innocence. As a photographer it's been a double edge sword taking "those" type of pictures. I take pride in my work, but sometimes when the emotions and carnal lust take over, you take pictures that you would never ever use professionally.

In the end, just ask.

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Dtamr

The problem that I seem to have when asking questions about sexuality is that she does not see herself as beautiful. Does not matter how many dates I take her on, or how many flowers I buy her or how many times I say it, it really does not sink in. I have several people that back me up on my opinion as well.

I think that she does have body issues, not so much that it's a problem in every day life, but she does often want to make live with the lights off. Then again we do enjoy our showers together and that would be very hard with the lights off. Gives slippery an entirely new meaning.

I'm seeing her later today, and if the oppurtunity arises, I'll ask her if she's up to it. Maybe i'll ask as a Christmas present.

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ratbastid

Picture-taking can be a wonderful way to have her flourish in terms of her own self-image.

Here's what you do. Take a BUNCH of pictures. Get a fresh battery and a big memory card and just snap like crazy. Then BEFORE SHE SEES THEM, you edit them. ANYTHING that she might possibly see and think she looks fat or ugly or silly or fat, etc, delete with extreme prejudice. ONLY keep the ones that most clearly showcase the beauty you see in her. Any picture you think she might argue with you about how she looks goes in the trash. As you edit them down, look at them the way SHE'D look at them, not the way you look at them. You'll want to keep them all. DON'T. Only keep the ones she'd be happy to see.

If she's like my wife was when we started taking pics, you might end up with three or four keepers out of a night of shooting, but those keepers show her how she REALLY looks. And your editing them first shows her that the good pictures are how YOU see her.

Konichiwaneko

also clean up the room before you do

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Plan9

You've done this before. Nice post.

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clavus

Ask once.

Ask again.

Ask again.

Eventually she will ask you "why?"

Tell her because you like looking at her and you think it would be a turn on for both of you. Let her take shots of you if she wants. Reassure her that she will have control of the photos. (Don't be a dick. Give her control of the photos)

Worked for me.

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Redlemon

Excellent. It can be extraordinarily hard to ask for what you want. But, that's communication, and it makes relationships stronger. You may get some further inspiration for opening discussions about sexuality with her from these PDFs.

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Im_not_bitter

I've never been into those. It takes immense amount of trust for someone which is hard sometimes you don't even trust your own family. I was talk into once. Not exactly full frontal nudity, but pretty exposing. I met this guy,and had a little infatuation for him. He told my friend he want to get with me. When he got my information we started talking online and then he send me pictures of him and when I saw it, all rational thoughts abandon me and nothing but porn was playing in my head ( oh libido) by that point I was pretty up for any deals ..so with little convincing talk (on his part) we had a trade.Didnt go very far because he seems way too into it and keep trying to push the subject on me , asking me to let him watch me play with myself and I guess the rational part comes back if you feel like you are being push into something.

I'm a pretty big prude myself but that's my story. Perhaps it help, seeing a little perspective from the other side, although this case is way different.

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Dtamr

She's gotten sick, but I'll keep you folks posted. Nothing as of yet, but have my everything that can be legally crossed crossed, so we'll see how my luck fares.

Again, thanks all for your help. Makes me happy to know I can post in a place where I'll get actual advice.

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toddp65

I've went beyond the photo shoot idea and moved right up to videos. If anyone wants I can share some of these. It's a bigger turn on to share--she knows I have before and it's cool to some degree as long as it's discreet. PM me if anyone is interested...

jvwgtr

One tip I read once suggested breaking out some body paint, then saying something along the lines of "Oh, well, we have to take a picture of this!"

I've found that persistence is key - but you may try telling her how much you like porn, but that you would much rather look at pictures of HER than strangers.

Plan9

Good choice. Goofy activities can always turn into sexy photos. I once took some funny photos of an old girlfriend wearing Clif bars as a bikini.

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funydjane

Next time you're apart from her and both feeling a bit horny send her some of you then start trading.

Redlemon

A great alternative to body paint is washable magic markers - find them in the kid's section. You can get much better detail...

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Kaimi

Don't just ask. Just tell her how you would feel right off the bat. Ask her what makes her hot and bothered if she is shy tell her a few ideas of your own which will loosen up the conversation. The more you share, the more open it will come. It will no longer become a taboo. Then again.. most of my posts are in this section.. I don't think I have any taboos.

levite

Well, I have gotten them from a couple of girlfriends, but in most of the cases, they were sent to me sans request. I'm having a long-distance fling right now, cybering with a girl in the States (I'm living in Israel for the year), and after we cybered for a bit, I asked her for a pic or two, just to keep her in mind while we were chatting the naughty chat. She was a bit hesitant at first, and the first couple pix were only slightly risque. But I sent her back a lurid description of how much they turned me on, and what I did when I saw them, and so on, that she was very pleased and flattered, and now I'm getting invitations for requests-- anything goes!

So I guess my advice is-- start sexy but clothed, take your time getting her less and less dressed, be effusive in how much you enjoy the pictures, and how hot you think she is. Sooner or later, she'll be digging how much you're into it, and you'll be getting scorchingly nasty photos from her....

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mixedmedia

This technique worked on me.

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