Re-experimenting with new partners?
 

Let's say you are a person who will try anything once in the bedroom. And you have a long-term relationship and do a lot of stuff. Some things you like, others you absolutely do not.

If the first relationship breaks up and you get into a new one, would you try things one more time with your new partner, even though you hated it (or wouldn't do it), if your new partner suggested it?

First-- where do you stand?

And second-- that depends on what it is. There were some things I hated doing with my ex, and they're not an issue now. And if I've put my foot down about not doing some things, then my foot stays down. Doesn't matter who asks.

Depends on the reasons why I said ick. If it was due to ex hubby's bad personal hygeine or his total lack of "heart"? I might try with current hubby. But some things, no, not interested in at all.

As a virgin who hasn't done anything. I have nothing to stand on.

I am very open minded and would be willing to do anything that would make the girl happy. As long as it doesn't cause pain to me or her.

Would I retry?

No: Anal, gay, threesome (or moresome)
Yes: Anything else

I would say you should try it again. The reason you didn't like it the first time may have been the way your other partner did it..

I dunno man, those racoons seemed PISSED the first time.

you mean you didn't get them drunk first??!!

I'd try different racoons.


ASU - I'm a little confused as to where your thread is coming from. Are you the person in the first post who has had experimental relationships, or are you the person in the fourth post who has little experience? Is your partner one of those people?

I think I'd have to hate something an awful lot to never try it again. I mean, you never know what the dynamic will be with a new person. My experiences with things that I enjoy vary a lot from partner to partner. It seems reasonable to suspect that this might be true of things I don't enjoy as well.

haven't found anything I wouldn't do time and time and time again personally =D

maybe if I tried getting anal plugged with a police baton I'd say no forever after that one.

Other than that it's all fair game

I can make it happen.

You got a kinky girlfriend and some rubber gloves?

I think keeping an open mind is important for relationships (especially new ones), so I would say that unless you had a specifically very bad or embarrassing or otherwise experience that would put you out of the mood for sex if you tried it again, you should give it a shot. My fiancee HATED cum play (facials, etc.) before we got together and was skittish about it when we first started out, but now that's what gets her off most about having sex. So, you just never know how your tastes (HA!) might change with a new partner.

I have never been in a relationship of any kind. No partners ever before. :sad:

The idea came to me from what I posted here. #119
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=127019&page=2

And if being with partners that had experience would limit or restrict what they would do in the bedrrom based on past experinces. Compared to a virgin who has never done it before, so might try it at least once.

(it is posting double again...)

I have never been in a relationship of any kind. No partners ever before. :sad:

The idea came to me from what I posted here.
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=127019&page=2

And if being with partners that had experience would limit or restrict what they would do in the bedrrom based on past experinces. Compared to a virgin who has never done it before, so might try it at least once.

At least you don't know what you're missing.

I would retry anything. Because sometimes a lover is more considerate or experienced with something. I've gone out with women who HATED oral sex, giving or receiving. Giving, because prior guys insisted on grabbing their heads and thrusting, receiving because the guys were either horrible or it just didn't feel right.

Now though, the one loves giving head, it gives her a feeling of power, but she didn't ever thing to be aggressive. If a guy tries to thrust, she initiates the nutlock. If he doesn't, he has a good time. The other had her first ever orgasm while I was giving her face, and has loved it ever since. She now knows that she can TELL a guy what she likes and what she doesn't.

On the receiving end, my wife likes to bite, and occasional smacking/choking. I've been subjected to these before, and neither appealed to me. But she kept asking, and accepted feedback (too hard, not there, a little up, etc) and was willing to listen, and seeing how turned on it gets her, I started to like it. Now, I quite like a little roughness.

So, I suppose my opinion is this: If your partner is loving and considerate, and listens well, and is willing to put a little research and effort into it, always keep an open mind. Because what is bad with one person could be marvelous with another.

What's that Henry Rollins song about relationships?

Get Some, Go Again

Works for sex in relationships.