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11-03-2007, 05:45 AM
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I Confess a Shiver
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I... I just had to call her a skank. Sorry. I have needs.
Good point, Sultana... but I think we're all drama queens at some dot on our life time line. I was. I got over it. Now I use it to make bad jokes. Shauk should do the same. Humor heals all. |
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11-03-2007, 06:41 AM
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Falling Angel
Location: L.A. L.A. land
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I don't intend to look down my nose at Shauk. But bad situations happen to everyone (not just to those who *deserve* it, whoever decides that), and it's incumbent upon the idividual to learn to protect oneself. No one is going to rescue you from this situation and the pain it brings. Just you. So the sooner you do it, the sooner it's over. One rarely seens another person take years to remove a band-aid.
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11-03-2007, 05:39 PM
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Insane
Location: There's no place like home..
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Well, I can only echo the advice given so far. Which it sounds like has been given over and over. Everyone's situation is different, it is their own, and so it is also up to them in how they deal with it. Sounds like Shauk is finally doing something about it. Every person has to come to that realization, that nothing is going to change unless you start to make changes. And once you do, it'll be confusing still, you might have an idea of what that change needs to be but if you are in a comfort zone, it's hard. Change IS hard but so rewarding. People can give you advice until it sounds like a broken record, but hopefully some day it sinks in.
Personally I wouldn't be content to just let it go, the sex with other people. But again, I'm not in that situation so it's more of an outside view. It's easy to look at a situation you aren't in and say what you would do if you were, but once there infinitely harder to make that same decision, especially when emotions are involved. My husband cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship, I forgave him and now we've been married for 2 years and I do love him. There are time when I wonder if I made the right decision regardless of the fact that I love him and I know that the person I was a few years before meeting him wouldn't have been so forgiving, yes people do change. But you can't put your life on hold for them. No matter how much you care. You can move on with your life (no matter how hard that is) and they can move on with theirs. You know what, that's all I can say. I'm repeating others and you have to make your decisions for you. So good luck, hope your search for an apartment goes well and you can move as soon as possible. Seattle sounds like a fantastic place to be.
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11-03-2007, 05:53 PM
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Insane
Location: Arizona
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Well, I can only agree with all the advice that's been given and also second what someone else said earlier. Don't tell her you're moving out. Move while she's out. It's the only way with this type of chick. You are responsible for your own happiness and most of your own misery. If you stay with her you choose misery and pain. So leave and start new and fresh. You are the master of your own destiny. You deserve someone who will love you and treat you better. Someone who will supplement your happiness and not cause you to feel constant dread and worry. It's time to move onto that new path. Don't ever let this happen to you again.
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11-03-2007, 06:07 PM
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Location: With All Your Base
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Yup, you're alone out there.
Remember your other goals. Find a gym. Find a hobby or engage in one you've neglected. Find other people who enjoy that hobby. Find other people just to be around, whether you're interacting or not. Take a healthy cooking class, a tai chi class, karate, anything lower cost. Whatever. Find a friend.
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11-07-2007, 08:04 AM
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Cautiously soaring
Location: exploring my new home in SF
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11-07-2007, 11:16 AM
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Perfect example: I was doing my show and my friend/cohost was in Luxembourg, so we were recording with him on an internet call (through aol or skype or something). He had a British chick there. She had a fucking incredible voice. I'm a bit of a sucker for nice English accents, and he'd sent a picture of her and she was hot. She made me SO damn nervous that when asked to give her things to say in her accent for the benefit of the listeners, all I could come up with was "farm", "chair", and "bottle". FARM! Who the hell has a sexy chick with an even sexier voice who's flirting with you say FARM?! So there you go. Good times. |
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11-07-2007, 04:36 PM
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Confused Adult
Location: Spokane, WA
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emotionally, yeah, i'm fucking gone. Just waiting for the finances to catch up and trying to find a good place to hit. I am trying to stay near this area cuz even though my job is like half an hour north, I spend half my work day driving anyways so shaving the commute is really shaving 1/10th of my actual drive time in a day, so it seems silly, since I'm not having an issue with where I live now as far as getting to work on time. I just kinda wanna move a little closer to Seattle, or perhaps in Seattle, but still be a stones throw from Tacoma cuz I know a few people down there now.
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