Miss Mango

This guy Ive been hooking up with has been really frustrated recently because his stamina isnt that good in bed. Like he says usually he takes a lot longer and with me he doesnt know why, but hes just... really quick... I know that this isnt normal for him, because my best friend was with him for a few weeks a few months back... What could this be? Hopefully not me.

dirtyrascal7

He's probably just nervous b/c he really likes you. With my ex, the first four times we had sex I got off must faster than usual... the fifth time was a whole different story and I was fine from then on. I couldn't tell you what changed, but I suspect I was just more relaxed and comfortable, and that made all the difference in the world.

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Plan9

Yeah, he's excited and that trips the trigger much quicker.

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ratbastid

Agreed. Be flattered, and then teach him how to get YOU off.

Hyacinthe

Or ofcourse depending on your age brakcte you could try a HJ or BJ first, get him off and he can get you started while he recovers - guys tend to last longer the second time around.

Be flattered you're just THAT good

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MrFriendly

That's pretty solid advice right there.

Unless he's got premature ejaculation problems or you're just too good, he'll be much better after a bit of foreplay.

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Plan9

As long as this wasn't a quote:

"No finger in the butt on the first date!"

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Bill O'Rights

Just out of curiosity...what does age bracket have to do with a HJ or a BJ?

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MSD

If he's too old his refractory period may be too long to sync things up in bed. In that case, blow him a few hours before you get started.

ruggerp11

I dunno, sometimes with me its just different with different girls. One, whom I had amazing sex with, I could go forever. Another A lot less, though it did improve. Some girls feel different and some you are just differently compatible. My guess though would be that you do something that he really likes and that he really likes you in general. Be flattered, thats the best way to help him retain the confidence and therefor help him improve his lap time.

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World's King

I dated this girl a while back. It didn't last too long mainly cause the sex sucked. It was short and boring.

We got together a few years later and it was amazing. We fucked for hours and hours... we did a few over the course of two weeks. We ultimately had to stop ourselves cause we started actually liking each other again and neither of a us wanted a relationship.

Anyway... we figured out that when we dated it was so bad cause we were really nervous. Then when we hooked back up it was so good because neither of us gave a shit. We just fucked. And I mean fucked.

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Mephex

I'm in the same situation as the guy referred to by the OP. My last ex, we'd go for hours, she was medicated and couldn't get there, so I could bang away until I completely exploded and collapsed. As the common thread, in this thread is going. It's all about anxiety.

I've met the most awesome woman in the world, just amazing. We get to fucking and she's such a g'damn clawing, leg-wrapping, eyes-blazing animal I can't last more then 15 minutes tops. It'll get better, but I'll certainly admit it has me questioning myself.

I think, as others do, that it is you. You have something other grrls don't. Not a bad thing, but certainly something that will take time and/or communication to get past.

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Bear Cub

Everyone's different. Hell, I'm just the opposite. I get off a LOT faster with a girl I like or am in a relationship with. If its some random chick, I can plow her until it hurts her to walk before I blow.

ruggerp11

Get past? I would imagine that its something I wouldn't want to get past, but embrace and enjoy!!

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