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Miss Mango · 10-17-2007, 05:36 PM

This guy Ive been hooking up with has been really frustrated recently because his stamina isnt that good in bed. Like he says usually he takes a lot longer and with me he doesnt know why, but hes just... really quick... I know that this isnt normal for him, because my best friend was with him for a few weeks a few months back... What could this be? Hopefully not me.

dirtyrascal7 · 10-17-2007, 05:48 PM

He's probably just nervous b/c he really likes you. With my ex, the first four times we had sex I got off must faster than usual... the fifth time was a whole different story and I was fine from then on. I couldn't tell you what changed, but I suspect I was just more relaxed and comfortable, and that made all the difference in the world.

Plan9 · 10-17-2007, 06:07 PM

Yeah, he's excited and that trips the trigger much quicker.

ratbastid · 10-17-2007, 07:52 PM

Agreed. Be flattered, and then teach him how to get YOU off.

Hyacinthe · 10-17-2007, 08:18 PM

Or ofcourse depending on your age brakcte you could try a HJ or BJ first, get him off and he can get you started while he recovers - guys tend to last longer the second time around.

Be flattered you're just THAT good

MrFriendly · 10-17-2007, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Hyacinthe

Or ofcourse depending on your age brakcte you could try a HJ or BJ first, get him off and he can get you started while he recovers - guys tend to last longer the second time around.

Be flattered you're just THAT good

That's pretty solid advice right there.

Unless he's got premature ejaculation problems or you're just too good, he'll be much better after a bit of foreplay.

Plan9 · 10-18-2007, 02:29 AM

As long as this wasn't a quote:

"No finger in the butt on the first date!"

Bill O'Rights · 10-18-2007, 04:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Hyacinthe

Or ofcourse depending on your age brakcte you could try a HJ or BJ first...

Just out of curiosity...what does age bracket have to do with a HJ or a BJ?

MSD · 10-18-2007, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Bill O'Rights

Just out of curiosity...what does age bracket have to do with a HJ or a BJ?

If he's too old his refractory period may be too long to sync things up in bed. In that case, blow him a few hours before you get started.

ruggerp11 · 10-18-2007, 07:09 AM

I dunno, sometimes with me its just different with different girls. One, whom I had amazing sex with, I could go forever. Another A lot less, though it did improve. Some girls feel different and some you are just differently compatible. My guess though would be that you do something that he really likes and that he really likes you in general. Be flattered, thats the best way to help him retain the confidence and therefor help him improve his lap time.

World's King · 10-18-2007, 11:47 AM

I dated this girl a while back. It didn't last too long mainly cause the sex sucked. It was short and boring.

We got together a few years later and it was amazing. We fucked for hours and hours... we did a few over the course of two weeks. We ultimately had to stop ourselves cause we started actually liking each other again and neither of a us wanted a relationship.

Anyway... we figured out that when we dated it was so bad cause we were really nervous. Then when we hooked back up it was so good because neither of us gave a shit. We just fucked. And I mean fucked.

Mephex · 10-18-2007, 02:18 PM

I'm in the same situation as the guy referred to by the OP. My last ex, we'd go for hours, she was medicated and couldn't get there, so I could bang away until I completely exploded and collapsed. As the common thread, in this thread is going. It's all about anxiety.

I've met the most awesome woman in the world, just amazing. We get to fucking and she's such a g'damn clawing, leg-wrapping, eyes-blazing animal I can't last more then 15 minutes tops. It'll get better, but I'll certainly admit it has me questioning myself.

I think, as others do, that it is you. You have something other grrls don't. Not a bad thing, but certainly something that will take time and/or communication to get past.

Bear Cub · 10-18-2007, 08:32 PM

Everyone's different. Hell, I'm just the opposite. I get off a LOT faster with a girl I like or am in a relationship with. If its some random chick, I can plow her until it hurts her to walk before I blow.

ruggerp11 · 10-19-2007, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Mephex

I'm in the same situation as the guy referred to by the OP. My last ex, we'd go for hours, she was medicated and couldn't get there, so I could bang away until I completely exploded and collapsed. As the common thread, in this thread is going. It's all about anxiety.

I've met the most awesome woman in the world, just amazing. We get to fucking and she's such a g'damn clawing, leg-wrapping, eyes-blazing animal I can't last more then 15 minutes tops. It'll get better, but I'll certainly admit it has me questioning myself.

I think, as others do, that it is you. You have something other grrls don't. Not a bad thing, but certainly something that will take time and/or communication to get past.

Get past? I would imagine that its something I wouldn't want to get past, but embrace and enjoy!!

10-17-2007, 05:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
Miss Mango Psycho	My new mans stamina This guy Ive been hooking up with has been really frustrated recently because his stamina isnt that good in bed. Like he says usually he takes a lot longer and with me he doesnt know why, but hes just... really quick... I know that this isnt normal for him, because my best friend was with him for a few weeks a few months back... What could this be? Hopefully not me.

10-17-2007, 05:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
dirtyrascal7 That's what she said	He's probably just nervous b/c he really likes you. With my ex, the first four times we had sex I got off must faster than usual... the fifth time was a whole different story and I was fine from then on. I couldn't tell you what changed, but I suspect I was just more relaxed and comfortable, and that made all the difference in the world. __________________ "Tie yourself to your limitless potential, rather than your limiting past." "Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him."

10-17-2007, 06:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Yeah, he's excited and that trips the trigger much quicker. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

10-17-2007, 08:18 PM	#5 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	Or ofcourse depending on your age brakcte you could try a HJ or BJ first, get him off and he can get you started while he recovers - guys tend to last longer the second time around. Be flattered you're just THAT good __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."

10-18-2007, 02:29 AM	#7 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	As long as this wasn't a quote: "No finger in the butt on the first date!" __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

10-17-2007, 07:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Agreed. Be flattered, and then teach him how to get YOU off.

10-18-2007, 07:09 AM	#10 (permalink)
ruggerp11 Cautiously soaring Location: exploring my new home in SF	I dunno, sometimes with me its just different with different girls. One, whom I had amazing sex with, I could go forever. Another A lot less, though it did improve. Some girls feel different and some you are just differently compatible. My guess though would be that you do something that he really likes and that he really likes you in general. Be flattered, thats the best way to help him retain the confidence and therefor help him improve his lap time. __________________ Patriotism means being loyal to your country all the time and to its government when it deserves it. --Mark Twain Do What makes you happy --Me BUT! "Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness" - Chuang-Tzu

10-18-2007, 11:47 AM	#11 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I dated this girl a while back. It didn't last too long mainly cause the sex sucked. It was short and boring. We got together a few years later and it was amazing. We fucked for hours and hours... we did a few over the course of two weeks. We ultimately had to stop ourselves cause we started actually liking each other again and neither of a us wanted a relationship. Anyway... we figured out that when we dated it was so bad cause we were really nervous. Then when we hooked back up it was so good because neither of us gave a shit. We just fucked. And I mean fucked. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

10-18-2007, 02:18 PM	#12 (permalink)
Mephex Psycho	I'm in the same situation as the guy referred to by the OP. My last ex, we'd go for hours, she was medicated and couldn't get there, so I could bang away until I completely exploded and collapsed. As the common thread, in this thread is going. It's all about anxiety. I've met the most awesome woman in the world, just amazing. We get to fucking and she's such a g'damn clawing, leg-wrapping, eyes-blazing animal I can't last more then 15 minutes tops. It'll get better, but I'll certainly admit it has me questioning myself. I think, as others do, that it is you. You have something other grrls don't. Not a bad thing, but certainly something that will take time and/or communication to get past. __________________ He who is void of virtuous attachments in private life is, or very soon will be, void of all regard for his country. There is seldom an instance of a man guilty of betraying his country, who had not before lost the feeling of moral obligations in his private connections. -Samuel Adams

10-18-2007, 08:32 PM	#13 (permalink)
Bear Cub The Reverend Side Boob Location: Nofe Curolina	Everyone's different. Hell, I'm just the opposite. I get off a LOT faster with a girl I like or am in a relationship with. If its some random chick, I can plow her until it hurts her to walk before I blow.