What Made You Choose Your Partner
 

The girl im interested in is prettier than I am handsome or whatnot. I aint bad lookin and she's not super hot, but just gets her share of attention from other guys. I'm not sure how I could be able to stand out from other guys she knows and for her to pick me. Any thoughts?

i fell for my best friend and ended up marrying him so i'd say try and be a friend...it could work.....

because i loved being with her and didn't want to be with anyone else. she's not playboy material, but she's a hottie to me. She's been my best friend for many years before we married.

I went for my wife cause she had a hot ass. Seriously. But nce I knew her she was too nice to leave.

I agree with Atropos4. Be a friend to her. I'd say the best way to stand out is if she gets to know you really well, because if lets say half a dozen guys are after her, how many of them does she really know?

well off, good looking, big tits

Upon touching her and giving her a kiss on her right cheek, Her instant beauty of spirit, innocents, beauty,complete honesty, soul, openness, faith and allowing me to understand her completely..all came through, within the first half hour of our meeting and communicating.

After our first contract, so mesmerizing, was she to me, I had no question what so ever, that this wonderful human being will be my love and soul-mate.

More than anyone could of hoped for, to be sure! Being able to have in your life someone who understands you, and you them..makes life so much fun!

I just started seeing a new girl, but I chose her because she's really cute and in awesome shape (yeah, looks count), plus she has good morals and a really sweet personality. Hopefully she feels the same about me.

Also, she's never done drugs, she's never smoked, and the most she ever drinks is an occasional beer, but no more than one on a given day.

BoCo, don't lie. You really started to see her cause you want someone to convert you into a christian.

She was the sweetest, cutest, kindest person I'd ever met. She has this enormous capacity to share others' pain, thereby diminishing it.

She has a mixture of raw capability and self-doubt that I found--and still find--both captivating and deliciously infuriating.

For me it wasnt a matter of choice, more the first time I met her her I knew she was the one for me. Simple as that.

Dude, pulling hot chicks really does come down to personality and attitude. I consider myself above average, but definitely no Brad Pitt, yet I've been able to get some really, really hot girlfriends. Unfortunately, at least in my case, the hotter the girl, the more air there is in her head. :( Next time you go to a night club, look around... there are some decent looking guys and girls who are just standing around and not getting any action, yet their less good looking counterparts who are out on the dance floor, mingling, etc, are getting some action and meeting people. Let the girl you're trying to hookup with SEE your outgoing, entertaining, funny attitude and personality and you'll be GOLD.

I was laying on the floor watching tv. Knew her about a month. She got up, instead of walking around me, she just jumped over me. I knew then.

I was attracted by his honesty and openess, his "this is who I am, take it or leave it" attitude. His empathy, his interest in people. His tender touch. Oh, and I did I mention he is an incredible kisser?

Galaxy

You can't exactly force a person to like you. But if you want her to notice you then my advice would to befriend her and hope she gets to know you better. Physical attraction is probably what people look for in the first place so try and make yourself look hot. Other than that there is nothing you can really do. Its up to the oppisite person to decide whether you are the one for them.

Good Luck dude :)

Cause I ran out of chloroform and my van is broken :(
Actually cause my gf is a girl that I can relate to....many similiar health problems and what not.

My wife and I were friends at work before we ever dated. You need to find someone who your happy being with when your not doing anything special. It's easy to enjoy someones company when your going out, doing the mattress dance and doing things together, but over time you spend more time together just sitting around watching TV. Are you happy just snuggling up together on the couch? Then you know you've got a keeper. Love makes any woman beautiful.

Do you want to just seduce her or do you want to be in a relationship?

If it's strait seduction, then there's not much I can say that isn't shown in a ton of movies, and most of it is really about studying her and guessing.

But if you're looking for a meaningful relationship... The way I see it, its not about standing out so she’ll notice you. Trying to get others to like you takes a lot of work and I don't see the payoff. I've found in the times when I'm "trying" to attract others I'm doing all sorts of weird contortions to get attention. I hid the parts of me that I thought she wouldn’t like and I was always on, trying to be funny, insightful, or whatever I thought she would want. In the times it worked, I always found myself unhappy because I felt she didn’t really like me, but some on-guard caricature of me. This was my experience, yours might be completely different.

The way I finally found my love was by strongly being myself. Instead of getting others to like me, I went for really liking me. (This is different from being cocky) I’ve found when I really like myself, I laugh more and am more open and engaged in the lives of others (like that special hot Goddess).

Wow i8one2.....

Upon touching her and giving her a kiss on her right cheek, Her instant beauty of spirit, innocents, beauty,complete honesty, soul, openness, faith and allowing me to understand her completely..all came through, within the first half hour of our meeting and communicating.

After our first contract, so mesmerizing, was she to me, I had no question what so ever, that this wonderful human being will be my love and soul-mate.

More than anyone could of hoped for, to be sure! Being able to have in your life someone who understands you, and you them..makes life so much fun!

Thats great....Very touching..That's a lot better then my answer.

I think we actually chose each other.It was just a feeling of,"I can't stand to be without her".I love my wife dearly.After 6 years of marriage and a son I love her more now then ever.I honestly don't know what I'd do without her

Wow look at all these replies! Thanks ppl...appreciate the love! I like the friend idea...that's the plan I'm working on. I've had my eyes set on this girl for about 7 yrs now. Dont wanna bore y'all with the details unless y'all are bored as hell but yeah, really like an enduring relationship. But she got sent over to Kuwait a month ago so its kinda at a stag right now ...and uh when'd i go back to being just a rookie? darn...all them posts go to waste...

hehe how some of you fell in love is quite unique, but its the same for me too...guess thats how love is

How to get her to pick you?

Bribe her. Or if you lack the funds, blackmail her.

I started falling in love with her from the first time I saw her. Every time we turn a corner in our relationship I feel like a new person.

I'd call it love at first sight; but love isn't that easy.

Give it time. Love is or love isn't. You mustn't try to force it on yourself. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Her youthful innocence.

Her shiny metallic smile.

The way she can color inside the lines.

Um...errrr...


Nahhhh.. It's 'cuz she F's like a banshee and cooks a mean leg o' lamb.

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My girlfriend was super cute! I couldn't resist!

She grinding her hips against my groin and begging me to date her. How could I refuse?

Since dating her, I've realized that she is one of the most innocent and sweet people I've ever met.

Looks are great. My girlfriend's chest is fucking fantastic, and the rest of the body's great, too- but for a partner, it's all about PERSONALITY. Go for a chick (or guy) whose personality melds well with yours, and you'll have many, many happy years ahead.

Well, I met my girlfriend at a party where we both got really fucked up and made out a lot. We talked a lot that night and really got to know each other pretty well. When I first walked into the house that the party was at I thought she was really cute, but being the pussy that I am, it took me awhile to get the guts to go talk to her. We hit it off almost immediately. Shes really cute and enjoys a lot of the things I do, soccer, basketball, partying and what not. I think it was a combination of her looks and how compatible our personalities were that really got me hooked.

I really think the way my boy and I came together was meant to be.

We'd met once before at a friends place, and I thought about him quite a bit after that. He was fun to talk to and liked to party and very cute. But, I was kinda seeing someone else, so I didn't persue the matter.

The second encounter, he showed up at an after party at the same friends house. I woke up on the floor and crawled out from under a big pile of covers and saw him sitting at the kitchen table. I got up, walked over to him, gave him a hug and told him I was glad to see him. It was pretty obvious that he was happy to see me also.

I had a rough night the night before so he offerd me a massage and by the end we were in a back room and I was laying face up with my head in his lap, he was massaging my face and he leaned down and gave me the sweetest kiss ever.

After that, we got together a few times and I got to know his sweet and funny/intelligent side. We had a lot in common, including some family type things that really helped me understand him. He was just perfect for me. I knew I'd never want to be with anyone else.

He was persistant. No reallly. I was dating someone else when I met him, so we were just freinds for a while. But like I said hes persistant, when that realtionship ended he was waiting.

ally - i tried persistence in the past and it didnt turn out too well...how exactly was he persistent if u dont midn me asking?

she was the first thing i thought off every morning and the last thing i pictured every night... and i would freak out if i did not talk her at least once a day... yes i am whipped but it pays off

I found out that my bf felt the same way about me before we hooked up. The truth is though that I felt the same about him. I never thought he would date me! He never thought I would date him! I bet that the girl probably feels that YOU are out of her league! think about it!!

Fate, Karma, God, The great almighty, Cosmic alignment. Whatever you want to call it. I was supposed to go out clubbing with a super hot ex of one of my buddies. We were going to take some E and rave all night then hook up at her place. Instead a tornado hit knocking out power and keeping her at work baking bread for the next day (sub place). So instead I went out on a double date with my best friend, this shy girl from work and her friend. That night I fell in love with her and within a month I knew I would marry her. The other chick I downloaded naked pics of earlier this year where she looks coked out, the universe nudging me in the right direction I guess.

Mine is Damn fine looking and great to talk to. She made me smile and look forward to talking to her the next time. That and she's just plain fantastic.

She was my best friend, that's the main reason (well also very very nice to look at). I was just looking for someone who I could talk to honestly and who i could be myself around, and with her I found it. Very nice indeed. She has the moral standard i was looking for, great friend and ya...repeating myself. I liked her, good enough heh.

Well let's see...he was sitting on my porch and he wouldn't leave. And after a month of sitting on the porch talking, I was not bored. He understood when I said the sort of random train-of-thought things that leave most people with that irritating glazed look. He has a sense of humor. Plus, he's good with animals - major points there. That and I realized he had arms, that helped. We have a lot in common and are similar people in a lot of ways. He thinks a lot like I do, and he's similar in the way he relates to people, which really helps if you're someone like me who's felt like an outcast freak all their lives. Somewhere in there I decided that he was probably good in bed, too (I was right).

A lot of romance abound.
As for me meeting my girlfriend... I was drunk (to the point where you know that what you are doing is stupid, but can't really stop yourself).
I was at a party, a mate took me with, I had never met these people before. For months previously it was planned that I would spend a few weekends at my friends house in the country, one of the weekends was with his girlfriend and this other girl I hadn't met before. Well, I met the other girl at the party and quite liked the look of her, but didn't do anything about it. My mate left to bound someone into a taxi and send her home and while he was gone I put my arm round her, that was it. Got her phone number, called her a few days later and arranged to meet up. Saw her once, then had to go away for a couple of weeks, as did she, didn't see her for a month until we stayed at my mates house for a couple of days.

What made me choose my partner?

Uhhh ... her father's shotgun?

Actually we dated for 6 years before we got married. We've now been married for 5 years. I think I realized that she was the one after we broke up for a little over a year. I never really stopped thinking about her during that time ... even when I was dating other people.